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i look every day and people look really interesting and would make neat friends or e-mail pals or whatnot.. but like everywhere else, i'm so the minority there. i'm okay with being a minority, even if it's lonely, but i am for-real the *only one* there. is it no one knows what to think of someone like this? people really and truly *are* only about, or interested in, black or white. left or right. night or day. gay or straight, male or female. there's no in between. i think i really need to just wake up and face that music. unless i come up with the $$$ equivalent to buying say, a new house or three cars, so i can really change over, i think i should just give it up.
seriously, it is hell living in the wrong shell, but it was a lot less lonely that way. even if i wasn't comfortable in relationships, at least they existed. it's better to pretend you're enjoying physical things and not be alone, than to be totally alone when trying to find something/someone that you can click with on *all* relationship levels, which includes things of physical nature.
sorry. this non-sensical, non-answerable babble is brought to you by the creature who came off a 15.5 hour shift last night at 10 pm, and has yet to be to bed because the creature is moving, soon, and packing packing packing must be done. also i'm skating in the "seyferth challenge" (local skate park), aggressive division II. what spare time i have is spent cleaning, packing, playing with shi, and skating. so... i get little rest. and then get very emotional. but i'd be saying/feeling this even if i was well rested... it's just i wouldn't be posting it, ha!
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my void does not want.
-- 2.13.61.
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timmy
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there are 141 members. What percentage of the population is transgendered?
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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marc
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whether they be in the real world or in the make believe world of the internet some solid facts must be acknowledged.
There will be alot more people that will not reach out as those that do.
There will be many more chances for failure as there are chances for success.
All the hurts are there as well as all the joys of interacting with other people.
But one thing for absolute certain, there is no chance of success without the attempt.
As for the gazillion of dollars needed for the change.... Well, I am aquainted with some people through our local PFLAG and their daughter's partner is in the final stages of going through just that. If you would like I coulld ask if there is any insight they could empart. Let me know and I will see about getting your email to them.
See, you are not alone in your situation. You may very well be in your location but that is a fluid thing in this day and age.
Just my two or three cents for all it's worth.....
Marc
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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timmy
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I would like to be associated with the remarks of the previous poster 
A dating site is a vehicle, nothing more. If you own a car but keep it in your garage then it has no value. If you even drive to the local shops then it has a value. And sometimes you willgo on holiday or into town, or just drive for fun.
A dating site is very similar. It is a brochure. A profile requires constant refinement, expecially a headline and a description.
Some peole put a profile up and wait. Others contact every perosn they can find. Most people do half of each. Those who succeed reach out to others and risk rejection and risk happiness. And that is similar to a school dance, too.
At risk of this sounding like a commercial, partnermine.com is simple a well conceived and well managed site. Let me show you the banner and you'll see what I mean
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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well i don't know. i'm not into statistics. however many tell me (many here have said it before) "more are out there than you realise."
i also am well aware that a dating site is a vehicle, that ultimately it only is a guide, that i do the rest. i'm not stupid. i don't need to be talked to like i am.
i never understand how other people can rant and rave and be all dramatic and pour themselves out and not get made to feel worse, or berated. why it only seems to happen to a select few.
i'm sorry i posted, joined, whatever.
my void does not want.
-- 2.13.61.
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timmy
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you know what? You took it personally, which was actually, with hindsight, unsurprising, but was not meant. Hugs you.
Not everyone is as wise as you. So really those answers were for them
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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marc
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I was not talking to a child, I was talking to you.
I guess I won't be making that mistake again.
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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i'm a lot of things, but wise has never ever been one of them.
my void does not want.
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my comment to that effect was directed at what timmy said to me, not what you said to me.
probably i just don't know how to read when it comes to this board, but much of what he says (to me) comes off as condescending or as if a parent is talking to a 5 year old. like how when people speak slowly and louder to someone who understands a foreign language, like that'll help it make more sense.
i shouldn't have even posted. quite honestly while yes, my issue originally posted here is valid and something i feel, there are other fuels behind that fire. which you know, i don't post about here because every day i learn my lesson. it has to do with one thing or one other, or come across peachy keen and in small sentences, or else no one'll read or care anyway.
forget i said anything. as i said, it seems other people here can be prone to "dramatics" or dramatic moments and it's totally okay. it's cool, i know where i stand.
my void does not want.
-- 2.13.61.
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