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Hello something bad happened to me two years ago and it still won't go away things are a lot better but I still have horrible nighmares and panik attacks. Can anyone help me, give me advice on how to get rid of this?
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Have you tried hypnotism?
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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Generally finding someone, quite possibly a stranger, to talk to is a useful first step.
Sometimes this works far better than more formal realtionships with medical practitioners, sometimes it works less well. But talking is a great start.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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I have found that bad experiences aren't easy, but easier to accept and go on once you admit that it has happened, and that talking to someone one-on-one who won't judge, but tries to help, is a giant leap in the right direction. Were I you, I would try to talk to a relative stranger, but someone who knows you exist, as they are most likely to help, and won't generally take any action that you wouldn't like or condone. Another helpfull solution people often think of as "stupid" or "sad" is to talk to people who have the same or similar experiences. This works well with many problems, from Alchoholics anonymous through the death of a loved one. I do not know any details of the problem that you are facing, or what happened, but just talking and getting rid of the rock on your back will help.
You are welcome to email me at blumoogle2@hotmail.com or talk to me on msn messenger if you have it, and, although I cannot honestly say I have any qualifications except being a homo sapiens, I have two ears and only one mouth, and I will make time if you need someone to talk to real bad, and can't find someone near where you live, which, by the way, I would suggest if at all posible, 'cos they could better apreciate and comunicate and comfort you, than someone online. If that is impossible I, and I'm shure many people at this place of safety, will listen and give you a shoulder, an ear (or two) and a heart.
A truth told with bad intent
Beats all the lies you can invent
-William Blake
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Panic attacks are horrible - I had them for a few years in my 20's.
I was fairly lucky, in that beta-blockers got them under control rapidly ... but for about five years after I'd had my last waking panic attack I still carried a bottle of betablockers round with me, just in case. I believe some of the new drugs are better, although I would be a bit wary of ones that you take all the time rather than when the attack hits.
I also used to get panic attacks in my sleep - do you get these, or are your nightmares not related to panic attacks? The reason for asking is that I know a couple of people who have found cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT*) very helpful in preventing panic attacks and nightmares associated with them. CBT is good at teaching you to react to stressful things in a less damaging way ... it isn't usually one of the very deep inner exploration therapies. This might be a good place to start if you don't feel able to talk about the 'something bad' that happened to you.
Obviously, I don't know how easy it would be for you to access any kind of therapy. If you're in the UK, the website http://www.bacp.co.uk/ might be helpful, and the page http://www.bacp.co.uk/seeking_therapist/theoretical_approaches.htm gives an overview of some of the approaches different therapists use.
And I would certainly agree with Timmy that talking to someone - not necessarily a therapist, just someone you feel you can trust - is a really good starting point.
"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. ... Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night devoid of stars." Martin Luther King
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