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Frank
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Registered: February 2006
Messages: 18
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Thank God its friday, as corny as that sounds. For some reason on Fridays I definitly just drag ass a lot more then normal it seems. I mean honestly I had work this morning, I think it could have been the most painful thing to try and get up and do it.
Anyway, I know last time I posted someone said that I just don't seem to be listening to any of the responses. Trust me I'm listening but just from time and trial and error I suppose I was just automatically weeding out things I couldn't currently think about, or really didn't have a choice to do.
It's funny, if someone posted my own dilemma to me, I probably would have said the same things. Because they seem so logical. Even when my bf has a problem he's like oh, I can't because of my parents and my automatic response is fuck your parents dude, do what you want when you need to do it. Yet, I'm at college because my folks want me to be, and I can't tell my own folks to go fuck themselves so that I can leave here because I hate it.
I suppose that probably wont be seen as too odd by some of you but still. My hip still really hurts (thank god?!) I suppose since I go to the dr in a little under two weeks. I think the general pain is just making me a pretty depressing person currently. I just hope they don't tell me that its all in my head again, I don't know if I could take that.
My bf believes me that I'm hurt he sees me barely able to lift my leg somedays but I suppose dr's only see what they want to see and a 19 yo obviously can't have a busted hip... Thats an old person injury (no offense) 19 year olds don't hurt hips. I was reading about it and someone wrote that the hip is THE most stable joint in the body.
Leave it to me to fuck up the "most stable joint" bah.
All in all thanks for all your replies. They really mean a lot to me. I spose I'll keep you posted if anyone cares.
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The hip the most stable joint? I already screwed mine accidently performing the splits in my sleep. Well that right royally screwed that joint. Eight years on with arthritis as a direct result, I can barely hobble around. Eight years ago I could still run.
You have my sympathy - it's a very painful joint when it goes wrong.
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>It's funny, if someone posted my own dilemma to me, I probably would have said the same things. Because they seem so logical. Even when my bf has a problem he's like oh, I can't because of my parents and my automatic response is fuck your parents dude, do what you want when you need to do it. Yet, I'm at college because my folks want me to be, and I can't tell my own folks to go fuck themselves so that I can leave here because I hate it.
Yes, you can. I could for my parents, and until then it was absolutely unthinkable as far as they were concerned for me not to go on to get a degree. I told them that I was unhappy with the social life and the course, and that I was sorry but I would have to give it up. If it's not mendable there is no point in you staying. If it is mendable you need to make a decision either to change your outlook completely and give it another go, or stop. But dragging your feet will just contribute to your unhappiness.
That I have since started another course is irrelevant -- I made a conscious decision after working for a year to go back to university instead of continuing in the job I had (a computer administration and support job, with potential to move up into programming). If you don't have a job it's sometimes hard to envision how much easier it makes things. With money coming in and a possible career in front of you you will be able to see the future much more clearly.
>My bf believes me that I'm hurt he sees me barely able to lift my leg somedays but I suppose dr's only see what they want to see and a 19 yo obviously can't have a busted hip... Thats an old person injury (no offense) 19 year olds don't hurt hips. I was reading about it and someone wrote that the hip is THE most stable joint in the body.
It's not an old person injury. When I was 6 or 7 I was in hospital for several weeks because my hip became too painful to walk on, and even now I occasionally walk with a slight limp because it won't rotate properly. There -- you've now found two people out of a random sample of a dozen or so who are both young and have (had) hip problems! Hope that makes you feel better. 
David
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Although I seem to have problems with a large portion of my joints, the hip is definately on that list. It likes to randomly pop out which is no fun.
If you are unhappy with school, either, like deej said, change your outlook or find an alternative. If changing schools is an option, then you might consider that. If you don't know what you want to do, maybe find a liberal arts school (although you will most certainly run into a ton of pretentious people that want to save the earth and the world (although their actions might say otherwise)). IF it comes down to it getting a degree is helpful regardless of what it is in. Like I said in an earlier post, if you wanna talk outside this board, hit me up.
David
It's always the old to lead us to the war
It's always the young to fall
Now look at all we've won with the sabre and the gun
Tell me is it worth it all
~Phil Ochs "I Aint Marching Anymore"
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Nothing for nothing. When I was 25 back in the Stone Age (1966) I injured my back in the fire service (in a very inglorious manor) two years later I had a spinal fusion and a lamenectomy. I spent six months in what they called a spica cast it went from my upper chest down to one knee. Even though I was encumbered by all that plaster I managed to get my wife pregnant. None of which is the point in this post. A few months ago I started having big time pain in my left hip. After a few weeks I went to see my orthopedic and told him I felt like I had a broken hip. After many x-rays he determined that nothing was broken and there were no signs of arthritis but he suspected that I may have Sciatica and there was not much you could do for it beside take pills and or injections and hope that it would get better. Well several months later it is starting to feel better so I continue to hope it will continue. Point being hang in there.
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Frank....I know im not as old, and college is a bit away. but im interested in what you have to say and I want to know how things develop. I dont think i can be much help with your problem, but I know what being unhappy is like and I know what its like to not wanna upset your rents. as far as my mom, just so I dont have to listen to her. I dont know about hurt hips and stuff, but I know what pain is like. I got amemia and if my blood count gets to low every joint in my body hurts. Not to mention the EPO shot 3 tiems a week and getting iron infusions. Pain is pain period. Sometimes I think Dr.s think people lie about it so they can get pain killers. What I care about is that your misserable and you shouldnt be. I thought you didnt get misserable till you got married had kids and had a job you hated. ;-D
I believe in Karma....what you give is what you get returned........
Affirmation........Savage Garden
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13796
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I think a lot of us know what living in constant pain is like. When I was 18 I did something to my neck. The doctors said "there is nothing wrong woith you"
I explained it hurt.
They said "there is nothing medically wrong with you.
Today an MRI scan shows what is wrong. Pretty much ever joint is worn out and it started with a simple injury when I was 18.
Make the bastards listen, Frank.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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