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A good friend of mine has just text'd me to say that he has proposed marriage (ie formal civil partnership in the UK) to his boyfriend, and been accepted.
Naturally I'm delighted for him - they are a lovely couple - and have congratulated him by return text.
Howver, normally I'd send a (straight) couple an engagement card, by post, with a carefully composed message inside.
The problem in this case is, I don't actually know my mates postal address. We met on a course, have kept in touch by phone / text / e-mail, and meet by arrangement usually in town, or at a restuarant near where I worked (because I know it's only "a couple of hundred yards" from his place) or whatever. He's been for tea etc at my place (with his boyfriend) after we'd all been for a walk in Epping forest.
He knows that I don't have his postal address - I sent him an on-line card at Christmas for precisely that reason. An engagement seems to call for a bit more, somehow.
So, should I ask mutual friends if they have his postal address? Or settle for another e-card? Or simply not send a card?
"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. ... Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night devoid of stars." Martin Luther King
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marc
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Registered: March 2003
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While a post delivered card is always nice your E-Mail alternative is most acceptable....
You can of course do the E-Mail and then follow up with somethinf more tangible through the post if you can determine his address...
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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cossie
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On fire! |
Location: Exiled in North East Engl...
Registered: July 2003
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... but in your situation I'd be inclined to try for his address first. If your mutual friends know of his orientation, it shouldn't be a problem; if not, you'd need to be pretty circumspect.
Is the 'phone number a mobile or a landline? If the latter, a first step might be to look up his name in the relevant 'phone book to check whether there is an entry for the number you have.
For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.
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Why not just ask him for his address, prefacing your query with your honest purpose behind the inquiry?
Hugs, Charlie
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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Yup, beating around the bush is fun. Or, alternatively "I would love to send you a real live card. May I have your address, please?"
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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