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To Timmy,  [message #29348] Tue, 14 March 2006 15:51 Go to next message
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Hey friend, I tried to register but it said my ID was already in use on the forum. Is there another TeddyBear here? What should I do? Thanks, buddy! Smile
Re: To Timmy,  [message #29350 is a reply to message #29348] Tue, 14 March 2006 16:00 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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There was, some time ago. It tends to be first come first served. So vary the name a little. Add a suffix, or choose something similar

If you search on his user name you can see his posts



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icon6.gif Re: To Timmy,  [message #29418 is a reply to message #29350] Wed, 15 March 2006 11:01 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Hey timmy, i really like your site, the forum, your stories & you're so open about yourself. me too! you seem like a nice guy. Thanks, teddybear.



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Question for Timmy,  [message #29903 is a reply to message #29418] Sun, 19 March 2006 06:54 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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hey timmy, just reusing an old thread to save 'space'

umm, on the first page of the forum, what do the different colors of the folders mean?

Looking @ collapsed forum, some are yellow & some orange..It's not my monitor! it's new too. Ha Ha Ha

i'd like to find the way to tell if new post are in there that I haven't read without scanning each expanded thread..

Any help is appreciated. thanks, ted.

P.S. you may've figured out I ain't here to cause probs, or to find victims or something gross..i just need a purpose to live for, & tho i thought i had enough reasons what with work & friends & church & community I guess i can't turn down another chance to make a difference.

i read your site first (found it by a link) enjoyed your honesty & stories sounded like mine, so checked out forum.



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Re: Question for Timmy,  [message #29914 is a reply to message #29903] Sun, 19 March 2006 11:38 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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You know I have NO idea what the colours mean! I did, once, but that was long ago.



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Re: Question for Timmy,  [message #29938 is a reply to message #29914] Sun, 19 March 2006 16:27 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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HEY TIMMY, IT'S TEDDY oops, caps lock

i like you alot but i'm gonna bow out some now because the friendliness went away. i guess I just like to have fun, to love & be loved.

You know life's too short for all this stress.

I'll still look in. there have been some good conversations. i can't stand the stress but don't fault them either. I must've opened the can of worms..

I'll cool off & come back later.. I'll go ride my mower & do some work. I like cutting grass. It's theraputic. ADD people respond well to movement such as ridng, rocking. it calms the nerves, etc. You can drink & drive there too w/o penalty.

Sorry i started such a shit! Wow! that ain't me.. i like you. you're sooo coool Cool Hope all your family is well, Love you all. Please forgive me :'-(

TeddyBear



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Re: Question for Timmy,  [message #29948 is a reply to message #29938] Sun, 19 March 2006 20:16 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I have no idea, I am afraid, what this shit was that you perceive you started.

You are as welcome to return as you were to join.



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Re: Question for Timmy,  [message #29950 is a reply to message #29948] Mon, 20 March 2006 00:06 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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i know I'm welcome timmy. And don't be afraid. Your a wonderful man.

Yes I did start some bad vibes. I'm used to being in a more closed community & accidentally laid my heart out in a public forum & got it stepped upon. my fault. I'd just written a lengthy answer but went to submit it & lost it all (again!). i even had tears in my eyes as I wrote it.

Basically, I love you all & sorry i offended any (in deej's thread "Philisophical question")

It's been an interesting short journey. Alot of intelligent people here. I don't plan to be gone far. But i must step to the sound of my distant drummer, regardless of whether any other hears him. he has showed me love & caring beyond what any human can do. you can never convince me now that god aint real! i know beyond a doubt. He has done things impossible for any mortal.i wouldn't be here today w/o Him. & he loves me despite the fool i am. He loves all of you.

Henry David Thoreau connects with my heart better than any other writer I've read.

I love you all. it's all Ok. Little teddy just got his heart stepped on again. no biggie. I'll live. :-[ Here are the tears agin... i wish i had someone real to hug..:-/

Teddybear



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Re: Question for Timmy,  [message #29952 is a reply to message #29950] Mon, 20 March 2006 00:18 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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How did you offend anyone? Certainly not I.

This is a discussion board...... It is for talking about all sorts of things......

Some subjects are more..... shall we say..... intense than others......

It happens sometimes that intense subjects bring intense conversation....

It's the way of the world..... at least this world....Very Happy



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Re: Question for Timmy,  [message #29953 is a reply to message #29950] Mon, 20 March 2006 00:20 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I see no issue with your belief in a deity or with others not believing. It is a personal thing.

I would be concerned about evangelism. But I am unconcerned about personal belief. I am equally unconcerned with discussions (but I would be about debates) about faith based aspects of life.

We each have a different distant drummer. Let's hope it is the same one Smile



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Re: Question for Timmy,  [message #29954 is a reply to message #29952] Mon, 20 March 2006 00:39 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I can't handle this world, marc. Without help from an outside source. teddy



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Re: Question for Timmy,  [message #29955 is a reply to message #29953] Mon, 20 March 2006 00:44 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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i love you brother. I must protect my emotions so I won't lose it. I must say i've not been exposed to such emotions for a long time. I was quite happy as i was before. tho interesting, there are some sad 'vibes' I've felt recently. And i truly love you all, but i must protect my emotions & perhaps refrain from conversation somewhat. teddy



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Re: Question for Timmy,  [message #29956 is a reply to message #29954] Mon, 20 March 2006 01:03 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Well who can?

Thats why we all stick together.....



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Re: Question for Timmy,  [message #29957 is a reply to message #29955] Mon, 20 March 2006 01:09 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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This place is alot like ball room dancing......

Some do the quick step and some do the waltz.....

Some take a break and sit by the side to watch for a little breather.....

Just know that the band is playing and will play on late into the night.

"Can we now have a Tango?"....... Nothing like the heat of a good tango....

Meistro..... If you please.....



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Re: Question for Timmy,  [message #29958 is a reply to message #29957] Mon, 20 March 2006 01:25 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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MARC, YOU CAN ACTUALLY BE ELOQUENT WHEN YOU TRY! (DURN CAPS LOCK!)

how are you feeling now? recovering from that episode?

I din't quite understand, did you hurt your shoulder recently or am I mistaken?

Ted



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Re: Question for Timmy,  [message #29959 is a reply to message #29958] Mon, 20 March 2006 01:33 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Well, my shoulder was broken some 25 years ago and there were plates and pins and such installed to hold it all together....

Friday afternoon we delivered a purchase to a customer and on the return trip we had a massive blowout on a tire.

As usual when one has tires placed on a vehicle the mechanic refuses to abide by the manufactor's specifications and uses an air gun to tighten the lug nuts.

Well I strained my shoulder trying to loosen the nuts and now there is sharp pain on top of the shoulder. It hurts to lift my arm....

As for "that episode"...... Well, to be honest recovery is always an uphill strugle and I am ever making small steps toawd the summit.

Sometimes the path becomes rocky and that might cause a stumble but never fear, if anything I am intrepid....



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Teddy  [message #29960 is a reply to message #29954] Mon, 20 March 2006 01:45 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Teddy,

Okay. Firstly, you did not offend me at all. However, I have a maddeningly literal mind and where I see something to which I cannot see the logic, or where is based upon factual inaccuracies, I am inclined to argue until either it makes sense to me (which may mean me conceding the point; I am not always right!), or I can justify why the other party is wrong to, if not their satisfaction, at least mine.

If I am wrong, I have no objections to being corrected. In fact, I find it highly embarrassing when I make a factual mistake through ignorance. So I am inclined to be very pedantic and rational. Over-rational, probably. And I extend that to my dealings with other people, which can sometimes cause conflict.

The objection I have to religion in general is that it fails to separate those things that are morally wrong from those that are wrong simply by tradition (and we are not told why they are wrong, so there is no way of demonstrating their logic to be false). Instead, it imposes its values regardless of whether they are relevant or not. Hence religion encourages the supression of intelligent and original thought. It is much better for people to work out for themselves why something is wrong, even to develop their own faith, than blindly to accept the word of others. And it's important not to bring scientific words such as "proof" into it -- they simply muddy the issue, and, when something presented as "proof" is found to be wrong, it demeans the whole faith.

I never grew up in a religious household, but some things were presented to me by the religious "machine" that have turned out to be unhelpful and in many cases completely wrong. I was for many years Christian myself, and I still respect those who choose to live their lives as Christians, provided that they respect the views of others and do not try to take their Christian morality beyond their personal lives. I try to do the same with my own "beliefs" (though I'm afraid I don't see them as such: I do not believe in anything unless there is good evidence for it, and if there is good evidence for something then belief is not required). If you had not brought up the subject then I wouldn't have pointed out what I thought on the issue. But this board is for discussion, and where a person doesn't specifically ask for support on an issue I take it that I am allowed to point out the errors in their way of thinking as I see them.

Secondly, I am really sorry if I offended you. Maybe the problem is that among British people you simply won't find the same reverence for God that you might find in certain parts of America. The existence of God, and his nature, is very much a subject for debate. Also, on the whole, we disapprove of evangelism. Evangelism is not the same as saying, "I believe this, because of this, this and this," -- which can then be discussed. Evangelism is saying, "I believe in this. You should, too," without explaining why. You haven't done that, but you got much closer to the line than anyone else I have seen round here.

Finally, Teddy, I have no hesitation in saying your post moved me a lot. I can see where you are coming from, and I get the impression that you are very lonely. I'm lonely, too, as are a lot of people round here. If God helps you deal with that, then that's great -- but (and I know it's clichéd to say it) God helps those who helps themselves.

Please don't think for a moment there is any necessity for you to go. If you need help, ask for it -- there are many people here who can give you advice. I hold you no sort of grudge whatsoever, and I sincerely hope you don't hold me one either.

Best wishes, and hugs,

David
Re: Teddy  [message #29962 is a reply to message #29960] Mon, 20 March 2006 02:06 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Hi Deej,

I can't read your whole post now, but i have no prob with you post.
In fact as I began to answer you I wrote:

>"Bravo David!

Man, What a mind. I love this guy. he can argue a point logically! & as unemotionally as possible.

Thanks David, just for the humane conversation"

I wish I but had the mind & time to encapsulate my studies from 20 years into a few pithy lines.

if you could hear my story you'd at least concede that it's good for me.

And i know you'd concede that anyway. I cannot give all the info i wished i could. Yet proselizing (whatever that is) wasn't my intent.

I'll read it later as my mind clears up. i have math & billing to do now which i dispise. This life is truely a struggle which is hardly worth it.

TeddyB.



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Re: Teddy  [message #29971 is a reply to message #29960] Mon, 20 March 2006 05:14 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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thanks deej

i love your maddeningly literal mind. it will take you far. Still ain't read the whole post mind is dulled tonight.

i appreciate you, brother. teddy



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Re: Question for Timmy,  [message #29973 is a reply to message #29955] Mon, 20 March 2006 07:40 Go to previous message
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None of that really matters, does it? nBeing in touch with emotions is far better than isolation and insularity.

So it hurts a little. That proves you are alive, doesn't it?

If you were fine as you were you would not have started to open your heart.



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