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As I was reading the change log today, I realized, I've been reading this site a really long time. I was trying to think of the first time I had come across this site and I couldn't. But I do think the first thing that got me hooked on the site was Timmy's Story Chris and Nigel. I was reading it on nifty at the time and decided to swim on over. That was I guess in 2000. I remember seeing the site before that but I'm not sure. Of course it took me much longer to finally make it over to the message board and even longer before I finally stopped lurking.
I thought after reminiscing it would be interesting to hear other people's stories.
David
It's always the old to lead us to the war
It's always the young to fall
Now look at all we've won with the sabre and the gun
Tell me is it worth it all
~Phil Ochs "I Aint Marching Anymore"
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marc
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Registered: March 2003
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The website....... In the usual way...... surfing, searching for something, not realy knowing what and yet dead on certain at the same time.
The message board...... Well I was second to post after a friend, Josie.
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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I guess this site is pretty well known. I was in a chat room and getting grief cause of my age. One of the guys in there emailed me the site addy. The decision to come in here was one or the best I ever made.
I believe in Karma....what you give is what you get returned........
Affirmation........Savage Garden
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I first met Iomfats on another "chat list - the Glass Onion. That must have been about eight years ago. I was dissatisfied with the "atmosphere" there, so when Timmy created this site it was the most natural thing in the world to come and join here - and I've been here ever since. (Timmy can say when that was, as I don't remember exactly.) I can clearly remember receiving an email one day from "Iomfats" telling me that my (then) email addy was "one hell of an address" and would I please explain. (I explained that my then ISP - a telephone company - used our telephone numbers as our username.) In a very short while, through an exchange of emails, there was very little about me that Timmy did not know! We first met - in RL - some 3 years ago when I was last in the UK. He is one of the best friends that I have - that anyone can have. I have told him many times that he should make the effort to overcome his emotional inertia and get on with C & N once again: but he is as obstinate ... as I am. 
The paradox has often been noted that the United States, founded in secularism, is now the most religiose country in Christendom, while England, with an established church headed by its constitutional monarch, is among the least. (Richard Dawkins, 2006)
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pimple
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Location: USA
Registered: March 2006
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Greetings David
As I said in my post asking for some book jacket details on Grasshopper, I was directed here by a foster son, Chris, to read the story "Promises to Keep". I am not sure that it accomplished his goal of me seeing his life in the writings of someone else, but I was impressed with the skillful writing of the author.
He feels closely connected to Bran's character and life. We've talked about it some in the last week, and I feel as though we have picked all the meat off of that bone, and Chris thinks that I am still missing an important aspect of 'his story'. I guess my attitude of 'shit happens - get over it' works really well until it is you who is wearing the shit, and the getting over it is neither quick nor easy.
I started participating on the board for selfish reasons. This has been a testing ground for an 'adjustment' in my propensity to hide from people, and be less than forthright in dealing with emotional content in almost any form.
I'd been house bound for a while, and was really surprised with myself to find on my second day of freedom that I was 'anxious' to get home so that I could check in and see what was happening on the board! I felt a little guilty about kidnapping the board, but now that I am not living 100% on-line and logged in 24/7 I have tapered off here as well.
Regards
Simon
Joy Peace and Tranquility
Joyceility
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Oh, I was wondering if such a beast existed. Thanks
It's always the old to lead us to the war
It's always the young to fall
Now look at all we've won with the sabre and the gun
Tell me is it worth it all
~Phil Ochs "I Aint Marching Anymore"
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Oh man, that was a nostalgic read. You mentioned ASSGM. I forgot about that place. That was my main source of stories before it became pay (before I stumbled across that it was newsgroups). You also mentioned "Xoom". I remember aol used to block all xoom sites as porn if you had the child restrictions set. That was a pain.
It's always the old to lead us to the war
It's always the young to fall
Now look at all we've won with the sabre and the gun
Tell me is it worth it all
~Phil Ochs "I Aint Marching Anymore"
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I've posted a couple of times about this before. Unfortunately my recollections of when I first started coming here are so vague that I will probably get them wrong -- and a random pedant will come back and say they don't match up with previous posts, so I'm blatantly lying. 
All I can say is that I've been aware of this site for years. I think I came across Chris and Nigel back in 2001, as I surreptitiously circumvented my school's web proxy to look for gay stuff (not porn, but everything was logged and the last thing I wanted was to have the school computer technicians sniggering about my browsing habits -- or to get an "H talk" from my housemaster). It had an odd name; I think that's why I remembered it. That and that it was British and I seemed to have some things in common with Timmy.
I didn't actually realise there was a board on this site until 2003, when I posted a random post (by "a random person"). Then I vanished for a while, and lurked occasionally, until one day Tim posted for volunteers to help test partnermine.com, and I suddenly worked out who he was. (I'd wondered quite a few times if I knew his son, from the occasional details he had dropped from time to time, but never quite narrowed them down to a specific person until that point.)
That was December 2004, I think. But I didn't actually enter into correspondence with him until the beginning of March 2005, when beta testing started (I was a bit frightened of him, actually: he was obviously very busy with the site, and unfortunately an email I had sent him in 2003 went astray otherwise we'd have established contact a lot earlier). Then he realised who I was, I knew who he was, and we talked to each other for a hugely long time one evening. Then Timmy posted of the coincidence on the messageboard, and I felt I had to post in reply, otherwise it would be impolite. And I've been here ever since. For better or worse.
In fact I've been a lurker for much longer than I have been a poster -- I'm still very much a newbie compared to several of the people around here. In fact, I've just passed the first anniversary of the creation of my current account without noticing. (Average number of posts so far: 2 per day.)
Deeej
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Hah, Partnermine also played a part in my being apart of the messageboard as well.
It's always the old to lead us to the war
It's always the young to fall
Now look at all we've won with the sabre and the gun
Tell me is it worth it all
~Phil Ochs "I Aint Marching Anymore"
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13796
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ASSGM exists in two forms still. ASSGM.com which turned into a pay site and hijacked a lot of work for its own revenue stream (I have had all my stories removed) and ASSGM.net which is really a yahoo group and retains total free of chargeness
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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cossie
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On fire! |
Location: Exiled in North East Engl...
Registered: July 2003
Messages: 1699
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... but I left for quite a while. While I was here the first time, I made some good friends, including Mihangel, who has contacted me since and about whom I have a severe case of guilt since I didn't respond.
We both disappeared about the same time. I hope Timmy will forgive me for being a touch blunt, but in those days he was prone to posting cryptic messages about 'friends' who were upset by our postings. We took the view that as regular participators we were entitled to a more explicit reason for dropping a topic. I have to say, that doesn't happen now, and I hugely enjoy being a member of this community.
Although I didn't post, I remained a regular lurker, and I came back because I felt compelled to argue about the moral validity of the British policy of 'shoot to kill' in relation to terrorists - this being a follow-up to the tube and bus bombings in London last July. In retrospect, although I continue to support the general principle, I have to admit that the facts expected to emerge in the soon-to-be-published report are unlikely to show our police force in a rosy light!
Nonetheless, I've made some good online friends since my return, and this site plays a big part in my life.
For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13796
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Your bluntness is not blunt.
The issue I had at the time still exists. When someone tells me something in confidence and is also upset by something which refers to that very thing by someone else it is as near impossible as makes no difference to solve that without either being cryptic and hoping for the people causing the hurt to pull back, or by revealing that which is confidential.
That issue will always exist.
Under those circumstances all I can do is to ask, often with no stated reason, that the conversation does not proceed down those lines.
The issue arises usually when the person suffering the hurt is in pain and here to seek to resolve the pain, and the others seem "just" to be enjoying the discussion.
Let's not divert this thread, though.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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my reply more of a thanks to timmy.
"Thanks Timothy".
i'd seen a few other sites , alot of info for kids, & the porn of course, but never a site with such aparent honesty, openess & balance as timmy's main website. never seen gay poetry, stories, etc.
looking back only two weeks ago, i browsed 57 separate things on his site my first time.
your honesty & prose inspired me to be as honest about myself, then providing a forum in which to do so among understanding fellows. In my initial posts I expressed many feelings for the first time that would not be elsewhere accepted.
Thanks timmy for an open honest intriguing forum. 
You friend, Teddy B. ;-D
Life's a trip * Friends help you through * Adventure on life!
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13796
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I think we might hold off on "Timothy" though
The objective of the site is to give as much balance as I am capable of, plus interest, plus a place where people may explore their own feelings. It is unashamedly designed to help kids and the adults those kids become in being able to ask the questions they need to ask but have no-one to ask them of
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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