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Hi all I have some questions that I need help with. first a little hist i'm 19 teen and work a office supply shop. theres also a guy that works there who is 17 about to turn 18. and scince the first time i saw him i could not take my eyes off him. and when we touch, i should say when he touches me. Like a frend you know on the sholder or the arm. i sware my hart stops. it funny i never felt this way before i have had crushes be for but this is differnt. but i cant tell if he gay, i hope but i don't know. there's little things that i note from time to time. like the way he leans on thins. he is allways look at me when i look at him. and he winks a lot at me. is just me or is he trying to give me sign. i have no idea. but like i said above i haved crushes before. but this differnt i seem happer when he is around. and sad when he calls in sick or we don't work the same day. but i don't know so i ask you all what you think.
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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Hi Jason.
First of all, welcome to posting on this board. I hope that this will be the first of many posts and that you will be able to contribute grandly to our discussions - both serious and zany.
I am going to give you the best advice that I can, but since I am not at all sure of what I shall say, please don't act on it until you have heard what others here have to say: collective wisdom.
In view of everything that you have said about this guy I think that you should suggest to him that you 'hang out' together after work and if things go well from your POV after a couple of times ask him directly whether he is gay or not.
Good luck.
The paradox has often been noted that the United States, founded in secularism, is now the most religiose country in Christendom, while England, with an established church headed by its constitutional monarch, is among the least. (Richard Dawkins, 2006)
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When you take him for that coffee / soda after work you could mention "We seem to like the same things," and see where that leads. Ask him if he's seen 'Brokeback Mountain' and watch / listen to his reaction. Less subtle, you could adjust yourself when he's looking at you and see what he does. If he adjusts himself back, you're onto a winner.
Good luck and tell us what happens.
Hugs
Nigel
I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.
…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.
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marc
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Registered: March 2003
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The adjustment is a sure fire way to know what he has on his mind..... if you notice him noticing you when your eyes make contact check out his little package and then see if he smiles.....
If he does smile then you are in.....
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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Since I can only hazard a guess, Id say everybody was right. Ask him out to hang. Watch how he responds. If he is like excitted or smiles or seems to be a bit more than happy, chances are your gong to bat a thousand. Tell a witty joke and put your hand on his leg, see how he reacts. Body lanuage can tell it all.
I believe in Karma....what you give is what you get returned........
Affirmation........Savage Garden
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Sorry about the bad spelling errors. It was kinda late when i wrote the first post. I'll try some some of the sugestions that you all have stated. And take other bold moves under advisement.
And thanks for responding so fast. And I do think I become more active in this form.
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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Hey hope it works out and you find the love of your life, or at least a really good time. Your welcome here anytime and free to jump in as Im sure everybody will tell you. Hugs
I believe in Karma....what you give is what you get returned........
Affirmation........Savage Garden
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Just one more thing about you all have said on the adjustment. How big of a adjustment should it be. Like a I have an ich or a full blown adjustment.
And like said befor thanks for such a quick responds. All of you have been so nice.
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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Hi Jason,
I'm afraid that I can't offer much advice in the arena of your original question -- most of my knowledge being entirely theoretical -- but if you're thinking of sticking around: please do! It's always nice to have new people visiting, joining in and hopefully becoming regulars.
Good luck with your friend -- I hope the attraction turns out to be mutual.
Best wishes,
David
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cossie
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Location: Exiled in North East Engl...
Registered: July 2003
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No Message Body
For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.
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cossie
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On fire! |
Location: Exiled in North East Engl...
Registered: July 2003
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Playing the 'adjustment' game is one of those things that seems difficult until you've gone through the moves a couple of times - then, like riding a bike, it'll be instinctive.
In your situation, you're probably worried about the consequences of being wrong, so a full-blown dramatic performance is perhaps not the best idea. Still, you need to be obvious enough to attract his attention if he's interested. That calls for more than scratching an itch!
No reason why you shouldn't practise in front of a mirror, so that you can decide how obvious someone else would need to be to focus YOUR attention.
Best of luck!
For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.
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Thanks I'll try in front of the mirr. Got a couple of long days at work before, I'll see him again.
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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cossie
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On fire! |
Location: Exiled in North East Engl...
Registered: July 2003
Messages: 1699
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... don't fall in love with yourself while your pracitising - kinda defeats the object of the exercise!
For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.
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If this boy's half as good as you describe him, you might start off with an inch adjustment, but it'll soon grow into a full size one. **giggles to homself**
Hugs
Nigel
I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.
…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.
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I'll try not too. lol
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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I hope so. LOL
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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cossie
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On fire! |
Location: Exiled in North East Engl...
Registered: July 2003
Messages: 1699
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**Giggles to homself**, indeed. How Freudian is that vowel-shift!
For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.
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cossie wrote:
> **Giggles to homself**, indeed. How Freudian is that vowel-shift!
he has a good point
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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Sorry, my finger slipped, but how many times has that got me into trouble in my life? (Rhetorical question)
I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.
…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.
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You sure you don't want to tell?
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I think Nigel should show and tell. I bet Im bigger.
I believe in Karma....what you give is what you get returned........
Affirmation........Savage Garden
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I bet you are too, Brian, but we shall never know.
Hugs
N
PS: esprit d'escalier - I suppose I should have written 'my fonger slopped'.
I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.
…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.
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