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What one event changed your life Good and/or one for the Bad And Why. You don't have to do both.
Bad for me was a about a year and 4 mounths, the day I was to lazy to walk around the rail. I jumped it lost my balence half way over and fell a good 10 feet(The distance from the top of the rail to the ground.) to the walk way below, and broke my elbow. Not my arm my elbow. And I have had complictions mostly pain, but With in the last mounth or so I started to lose all feeling in bottom half of my hand.(That why I'm in a sling.) Nothing perment Doc says, my need surgery to move some nerves. But no biggie. And cause of it I was told I would never be able to play my favorit sport again. which is water polo. So I got kicked off the team cause of it.(too make a long story short)
The good I'll get back to you later on that.
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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Hmm. I don't think there is any one single event.
I can think of lots of things that happened that changed my life irrevocably -- winning a scholarship to my school, boarding away from home, leaving school, finding a 'real' job, going back to university -- but I don't think any can be considered 'one event'. They were usually the result of months or years of planning. I suppose finding the job was quite a chancy event, as it relied on a friend of a friend knowing of its existence and telling my father. That might count.
If I had to nominate one thing, it would be the scholarship. If I hadn't won it, I would have ended up in another house at school, with people with whom it turned out I had very little in common. I would probably not be friends with those people I now consider to be my greatest friends.
Come to think of it, I would have to rank finding this place pretty highly as well. I found it when I was in my penultimate or ultimate year at school, and lurked for years and years. Eventually I established contact with Timmy -- whom, by incredible coincidence, it turned out I knew slightly -- and started posting. And I'm still here, wasting colossal amounts of time, as usual. 
David
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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This is really hard. Life is really full of little things that make huge changes unless we are either very lucky or very unlucky.
But I think the event that keeps me in perpetual pain from my neck is the one I would wish never to have happened. The pain is small, but constant, with bouts of horribleness.
Suffering form it has made me irritable, short tempered, and often plain intolerbale to know.
I injured my neck by sorting letters. I put thise I wanted under my chin, put the rest back in the pigeon hole, and when I straightened up there was a click. My right arm went numb.
Two docs: #1 "Don't move your arm". #2 "Don't move your neck".
Hospital visits and X rays "There is nothing wrong with your neck. Go home.
Yes, that I would change. I did it when I was 18.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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finding this MB is the single most important thing in my life. Literally it saved my life. This place gave me direction and alowed me to interact with gays from around the world, I also have made some of my dearest and most loved friends in my life. Now I have reason to map out my future and there is something to look forward to.
I believe in Karma....what you give is what you get returned........
Affirmation........Savage Garden
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Brian1407a wrote:
> finding this MB is the single most important thing in my life.
Probly that would be my one good thing in my life so far. Not for the same reason as Brian. But As it helped me find out I was not alone. And get some help with questions I would not ask ask any of my close friends that I grew up with.
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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Jason, I have stated more than just a few times, that one thing this board showed me was that no mater where I went in this world, I will never be alone. I plan on going to University in England and I know I wont be there among strangers. Of all the MBs I have been to, this is the best bunch of people you could ever ask for. Timmy and Megaman have done something to be very proud of and someting I know I will cherrish for a lifetime.
I believe in Karma....what you give is what you get returned........
Affirmation........Savage Garden
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Hi Jason,
>Probly [finding this messageboard] would be my one good thing in my life so far. Not for the same reason as Brian. But As it helped me find out I was not alone. And get some help with questions I would not ask ask any of my close friends that I grew up with.
Are you a long-time lurker here?
Just out of interest. I lurked for years before posting.
David
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Would Not say a long time. but a least good 2 weeks. but i read alot of what people wrote.
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13796
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I have always said that this board is important for those who read, sometimes more than those who write.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Maybe a strange thing to say here, but I'll never forget when I looked into the deep blue eyes of my kids at their moments of birth - the two best things to happen as a result of denying and suppressing my true self. I still love those eyes, 35 years later.
In recent years, finding Timmy's place ranks very, very high. My physical life wasn't at stake, but it helped save my self-respect and integrity, and it brought me some new and precious friends. It also helped deepen my friendship with some old friends.
Thanks, Timmy!
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13796
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I had a similar feeling when watching my newborn son turn to watch me walk down the hospital corridior away from him 2 hours after his birth. He's now 21 and playing Black Metal in the room above my head and composing it, too.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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I think this board allows more interaction with others. The other boards are monitored and can take up to two days to even see what you posted. Here you can really get to know someone, get answwers to questions without waitting a week. The sites that arnt monitored are so full of crap and creepy people, there scarry. Im not saying there arnt monsters lurking around this site, but they arnt bothering me and I havent heard of anyone else being bothered. Actually I think the freaks know that we are smart enough to not to fall for their tactics, or be suckered in. I think the monsters, if they are here, look for say, like my weakness that he can pray on, but also knows he would face Cossie, you and the others in here.
I believe in Karma....what you give is what you get returned........
Affirmation........Savage Garden
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13796
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We have had unpleasant people here. We will have unpleasant people again. We may have them now. The thing is not to fall for them. Perhaps that is one of the things we learn here.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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cossie
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Location: Exiled in North East Engl...
Registered: July 2003
Messages: 1699
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Good:
The birth of my kids; we'd been trying for nine years and the 'problem' was down to me. We'd almost lost hope, then we had a boy and a girl only a couple of years apart. It changed my attitude to life.
Bad:
Deciding to switch from Arts to Sciences when I was 16. I got the qualifications, but they led me in paths which I'd rather not have travelled. I'd have been much happier writing and researching, instead of investigating and addressing tribunals.
Ugly:
Coping with the chore of looking at myself in a mirror. I tried to avoid it by growing a beard, so I didn't need to shave - but even beards need trimming, and it's damned hard doing it while wearing dark glasses! But I've had a beard for almost 30 years, and that wouldn't have been the case if I'd had more self-confidence when I was young.
For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.
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