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It's so not fair.
I went out tonight, and a friend invited someone
I've never met before, and well................
He's gorgeous.
Two others hit on me, but I'm not interested, but
my friend is.
What do I do.
I so hate my life.
Brian
To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.
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By the way, his name is Chase, which some of
you know as a name from a story from another site.
Brian
To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13800
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I'm lost. What prevents the thrill of the Chase?
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Brian, if I'm way off beam here please forgive me.
What did you do or say during the evening that should have made it clear to Chase that you were interested in him? Being as objective as you can (and I know how difficult that is) should he have known from your conversation and your manner that you found him attractive? Or did you just assume that he would scent your animal magnetism?
Incidentally, what did you do or say to let the other two guys know that you were not interested?
Also, knowing that your opinion of yourself (wrongly) is just about zero please note that there were two guys who were interested in you! You know the old saying that a bird (or guy) in the hand is worth two on the bush.
Hugs.
JFR
The paradox has often been noted that the United States, founded in secularism, is now the most religiose country in Christendom, while England, with an established church headed by its constitutional monarch, is among the least. (Richard Dawkins, 2006)
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marc
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Registered: March 2003
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If you are ever going to be happily in a relationship you have to come to terme with the fact that you are not just 3 days past 18.....
That being the cast the probability of finding a drop dead gorgeous guy just 3 days past 18 is fairly low.
You know that there are guys showing real interest in you yet you continualy blow them off "because they are not your dream match".....
The cold fact is that you are a nice person and a good solid catch but you need to troll in deeper waters if you expect to reel one in.....
and incidently....... Call once in a while.......
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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Im certainly not worldly on these matters but i think Mr. Right is never going to show up and if you keep putting others off because your waitting for him, your going to spend a lot of nights alone. the ones that are drop dead georgous know it and they are so hung up on themselves they dont love anything but their own reflection. One of the guys you turned down, showed an interest in you and one of them may have turned out to be this really sweet, loving, caring guy.
I believe in Karma....what you give is what you get returned........
Affirmation........Savage Garden
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Okay, answers to questions.
What did you do or say during the evening that should have made it clear to Chase that you were interested in him?
I told my friend that I was, and while I was in the loo he told him.
That and I do this thing when I'm interested in someone. (I want to say
it's staring at them, but it's more like making sure I get caught glancing
at them)(make sense?)
Being as objective as you can (and I know how difficult that is) should he have known from your conversation and your manner that you found him attractive? Or did you just assume that he would scent your animal magnetism?
See answer to first question, but I wish and hope the animal magnetism would
work.
Incidentally, what did you do or say to let the other two guys know that you were not interested?
Without being rude, I sorta didn't look to much their way, but did when they were talking. (again, that make sense?)
Brian
To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.
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but dose he have the hots for u
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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My old friend, you are going to have to get obvious, and up close and personal.
"Damn, you're hot" could be a good intro!
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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I'm trying to find out what he thinks of me.
Maybe he'll show up tonight.
Brian
To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.
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cossie
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Location: Exiled in North East Engl...
Registered: July 2003
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You're over-reacting here!
Man is genetically programmed to be a hunter - Go hunt! And I wish you every success!
For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.
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Man is genetically programmed to be a hunter
Hmm, I don't think that my genes were programmed like that. Maybe that explains why I am still single.
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I have to agree with Nick, I'm extremely shy until I
can feel comfortable (safe).
Brian
To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.
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I saw Chase at his work place last night.
We didn't talk much, but he asked if I'd be
at the pub we were introduced at sunday. I
told him I'd be there.
My friend talked to him later, and I guess
Chase wants me to call him. Only thing to
do is wait for his number now.............
Brian
To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.
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hope it gose well
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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cossie
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On fire! |
Location: Exiled in North East Engl...
Registered: July 2003
Messages: 1699
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No Message Body
For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.
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Well, so much for life.
He was at the pub, hope we had a good
time. I just got his number. Hope the
text I just sent was worth it.
Brian
To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.
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It will be you'll see. Even tho i has never dated a guy before.
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13800
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Oh Brian, if he likes you he likes you. Follow the thread to wherever it leads.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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cossie
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On fire! |
Location: Exiled in North East Engl...
Registered: July 2003
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Timmy's absolutely right.
Don't tie yourself in knots. Though I knew the phrase before, Robin Williams reduced me to tears in the film 'Dead Poets Society' when he explained the meaning of 'Carpe Diem!' to his students. Seize the Day! ALWAYS make the most of the chances fate throws your way. But, if it doesn't work out, there's always tomorrow.
But still, I hope today goes well for you!
For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.
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