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Group characteristics  [message #36128] Wed, 27 September 2006 09:46 Go to next message
timmy

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I am going to restrict this poll to "here" for a good while and then open it up to the home page:

As a group, if we are a group, what are our characteristics?

This is a simple, 2-dimensional survey into the characteristics that we may have in common. If you are simply a casual visitor and just wanted to register this, please tick the answer to the final question, and only that one. Otherwise please tick all that apply to you. ALL. There is no second go.

1: Do you dislike being in large gatherings?
2: Do you enjoy large family celebrations (weddings, for example)?
3: Do you have just a few good friends?
4: Do you have a large circle of friends?
5: When a friend or relative is in hospital do you go to visit them eagerly?
6: Are you good in the art of casual conversation in a social situation?
7: Do you find that you are confident in a professional role?
8: Do you adopt an artificial persona when meeting new people?
9: Do you talk to and propose activities with your friends on a regular basis?
10: Are you very reticent about using the telephone for non-professional purposes?
11: Do you find it easier to express your feelings electronically (e-mail, IM) than 'in real life'?
12: Would you describe yourself as being shy?
13: Would others describe you as being shy?
14: Would you describe yourself as being habitually aggressive?
15: Would you describe yourself as being short-tempered?
16: Would you describe yourself as usually being capable?
17: Would you describe yourself as usually being confident at school/work?
18: Would you describe yourself as usually being confident among family/friends?
19: Would you describe yourself as introvert rather than extrovert?
20: Would you describe yourself as extrovert rather than introvert?
21: Would you describe yourself as being generous?
22: Would you describe yourself as being insecure?
23: Would you describe yourself as being resentful?
24: Would you describe yourself as being romantic?
25: Would you describe yourself as being selfish?
26: Have you suffered from clinically-diagnosed depression, either now or in the past?
27: Have you suffered from depression but not approached a doctor or therapist about it?
28: Have you ever physically harmed yourself in another way?
29: Have you ever attempted or considered suicide?
30: Have you ever had a clinically-diagnosed anxiety disorder (e.g. OCD, anorexia)?
31: Do you use, or have you used, obsessive or compulsive rituals as a coping strategy.
32: Did you or do you enjoy your time at school?
33: Have you ever been in a long-term sexual relationship with someone of the opposite sex?
34: Have you ever been in a long-term sexual relationship with someone of the same sex?
35: Does or did your mother seem to you to be the more dominant of your parents?
36: Is the male image of your sexual fantasies preferably blond?
37: Is the male image of your fantasies cleanshaven (facially)?
38: Are you comfortable undressing in the presence of others?
39: Do you believe yourself to be less attractive than friends would have you believe?
40: Do you behave according to the doctrine of a particular religion?
41: In your present daily life is any online forum essential?
42: In your present daily life is any online forum useful?
43: In your present daily life is any online forum unimportant?
44: Do you read the forum on this website?
45: Do you participate in the forum on this website?
46: Are you aged 16 or under?
47: Are you aged between 17 and 24?
48: Are you aged between 25 and 44?
49: Are you aged between 45 and 64?
50: Are you aged 65 or older?
51: I am just a casual visitor, I do not feel part of any group here and have only ticked this answer


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Re: Group characteristics  [message #36135 is a reply to message #36128] Wed, 27 September 2006 12:01 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Deeej is currently offline  Deeej

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Only 7 people have voted so far, but even so there are some evident trends.

No-one seems to like weddings.
No-one has a large circle of friends.
No-one is aged between 25 and 44 (so far).
More than twice as many people have had straight relationships than gay ones.

I await developments with interest.
Re: Group characteristics  [message #36139 is a reply to message #36135] Wed, 27 September 2006 12:24 Go to previous messageGo to next message
timmy

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I don't really think you can say there are any trends yet. I have a colleague who does statistical anaylsis as his paid work, and he would give you all sorts of reasons why there are no trends exhibited. I understand them when he explains them, and then forget instantly what he was talking about.



Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
Re: Group characteristics  [message #36142 is a reply to message #36139] Wed, 27 September 2006 12:44 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Deeej is currently offline  Deeej

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You are probably right.

I would put it that the probability is fairly high that in some cases a trend is emerging, but there is also a lower probability that many apparent trends are simply due to noise in the system.

Come to think of it, only one person has voted so far who is 17-24, and that's me. If I hadn't voted yet, you might conclude that there were no 17-24 year-olds here, and yet I know for a fact that there are several.

Why "16 or under" rather than "15 or under"? 16 straddles the age of consent. Under 16 and 16-23 might have been better.

David
Re: Group characteristics  [message #36143 is a reply to message #36142] Wed, 27 September 2006 13:53 Go to previous messageGo to next message
timmy

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for 16 or under, I guess I meant "under 16" But I blew it. Ah well. Some you win some you lose



Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
Re: Group characteristics  [message #36176 is a reply to message #36135] Thu, 28 September 2006 01:38 Go to previous messageGo to next message
NW is currently offline  NW

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On current trends it doesn't look as though those (like me) who have moustaches are fantasy boyfriend material, either!

Oh, well, "a kiss without a moustache is like an egg without salt", as the old spanish saying has it. I've had a moustache even longer than I've been "out", and it's probably an even more engrained part of my self-image. But not as much a part of my self-image as not being *anyone's* fantasy - I've felt like that since the age of six!



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Hey, NW ...  [message #36180 is a reply to message #36176] Thu, 28 September 2006 02:19 Go to previous messageGo to next message
cossie is currently offline  cossie

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... I've got a beard (grew it because I heard Margaret Thatcher didn't like 'em!), not to mention a skull and crossbones above the bathroom door and a couple of Spanish galleons in the bath!



For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.
Re: Hey, NW ...  [message #36189 is a reply to message #36180] Thu, 28 September 2006 08:57 Go to previous messageGo to next message
timmy

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Too much Pirates of the Caribbean!



Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
Re: Group characteristics  [message #36219 is a reply to message #36128] Thu, 28 September 2006 21:10 Go to previous messageGo to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

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If the last question read.......

I do not feel part of any group here.

I would have ticked that as well.....



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Re: Group characteristics  [message #36223 is a reply to message #36219] Fri, 29 September 2006 04:29 Go to previous message
JFR is currently offline  JFR

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Marc wrote:

If the last question read....... I do not feel part of any group here I would have ticked that as well.....

I'm sure you would have! Smile

Hugs

JFR



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