|
|
AdamAnt
|
 |
Toe is in the water |
Registered: January 1970
Messages: 74
|
|
|
yes, it has been a while sicne I have been here, but there are lots of reasons for that, that i am not going to bore you with.
Anyway, I been feeling really down lately....I am unhappy that I am stuck in school, and i am unhappy that I feel lonely.
I am sure you all remember my post about how me and Josh did some naughty stuff together, and how he said he "he wants to get serious". Well I havnt seen him a lot lately, he has been ringing me all the time, but I dont want to talk to him. I care for him, but I am not attracted to him very much. I am a Boy Lover, and therefore he is out of my age of attraction.
What should I do guys, If i break it off with him, then i know i will end up regreting it, but now it seems like the best thing. AAAAAAAAAAH..i dunno....
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
tim
|
 |
Really getting into it |
Location: UK, West of London in Ber...
Registered: February 2002
Messages: 842
|
|
|
It also has a bearing on intergenerational relationships. IN general the younger the younger perons in a pairing the less the probability of it being a relationship and the great oit is exploitative. Well, this is old ground.
I would suggest that, your BL feelings notwithstanding, you seek to educate your range of attraction to encompass people of your own age. There is no way laws or society's morality are ever going to embrace the concpet of boylove. My own view says "good" for all fo the reasons Marc presents in another thread.
You may need to fantasise about boys while acting out the sexual and relationshp needs with an older perosn, one who is legal to make love to. Maybe not Josh, maybe someone else. It is a practical solution to an intractable challenge.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
...If I was you, I'd at least give Josh a try.
I'm still in limbo regarding my object of desire, and I feel the loneliness truly bothersome. To be together with someone, that's just about the greatest thing there is.
Maybe you feel you will be deceiving him if you get together, he seems to desire you, but you call yourself boylover. Well, maybe you will notice your horizons broaden once you try new things out, who knows.
But ultimately, you have to decide. No matter what you do, get together or not, PLEASE talk to your friend! Do not avoid him or push him away. Be a friend to him, even if you can't be his boyfriend. Friends are the second-greatest thing there is.
-Lenny
"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."
-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Darren
|
 |
Likes it here |
Registered: January 1970
Messages: 190
|
|
|
Hey Adam, it is good to hear from you again. I was wondering where you had been. I am sorry to hear that life is not so hot for you. Normally, it would be great to have a cute guy courting you, but given your BL feelings I can see the difficulty.
I can imagine that your problem is that your fanticies don't include Josh (I am guessing here). My question though is: how was it when you were with him a while back. From reading your posting, it seamed pretty good to me.
My suggestion is let your mind be free. Go for it with Josh and if your mind migrates to boys, let it. There is nothing wrong with that. Just experience the sex with Josh and see where it leads. The worst that will ever happen is that you break up. However, don't give up this opportunity for something that you can't have anyway.
Having a partner is also more than just sex. It is also about sharing your life with someone, doing things together and just having fun. Try it out and see if it works. He obviously likes you.
PS Sex with my wife is great even though my fanticies generally don't involve women. Many of us can attest to the fact that it works.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
trevor
|
|
Really getting into it |
Registered: November 2002
Messages: 732
|
|
|
No Message Body
|
|
|
|
|
Goto Forum:
|
] 
A Place of Safety
Search
Help
Register
Login
Home
What The ? 
Yes, I'm attesting, and agreeing with Tim also 
