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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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I have no objection at all to BDSM nor to people who enjoy it. I've tried a little myself and it was not to my taste. That's fine, because I don't have to like oysters to appreciate that other people do.
But I have just been invited to join a yahoo group for "Mentoring", a topic I thought was congruent with my beliefs, only to find that this mentoring group is a thin disguise for "Daddies and sons", and masters and slaves. And that spanking is considered to be both non violent and also to be mentoring.
Apparently I am the only one marching to the drummer that says that mentoring is a non contact "sport". It does rather make me wonder why I've been invited to join it.
It does say "Beware of invitations to groups", I fear.
[Updated on: Tue, 17 October 2006 07:59]
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Mm, and many people who came across this board without seeing the attached site would probably be surprised by the detailed discussions we have on gay relationships and gay sex, seeing that homosexuality is not mentioned in the board's description.
'Mentoring' is a loose term that doesn't mean very much to me (except when it's in a particular context) but I would have thought it was quite likely that gay mentoring is, at least to some people, a sort of older-for-younger thing. If both parties are above the age of consent that's fine. I'm a little surprised that BDSM comes into it, but, again, many sites/boards/chat rooms have rather different topics for discussion than would be suggested by the title alone.
David
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
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There is a difference. This forum is part of a gay website. The alleged mentoring group is a a simple yahoo group.
But mentoring does not inolve turning their backsides cherry red. If they want to do that, then fine, but not as mentoring.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Who's that handsome young man that's hijacked your avatar, David?
Hugs
Nigel
I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.
…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.
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It happens all the time on groups like that -- they are used for something rather different from the original intention.
What is gay mentoring, anyway?
David
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Nigel said,
>Who's that handsome young man that's hijacked your avatar, David?
No idea -- I'm sure I've seen him somewhere before, though... 
David
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cossie
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Location: Exiled in North East Engl...
Registered: July 2003
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... with young guys who are confronting problems because of their orientation. And, although I have often joked about spanking guys like Brian or Jay for 'misbehaving', I agree absolutely with Tim that BDSM has no place in the relationships I try to form.
Intellectually, I have to admit that I'm interested in what turns people towards fringe sexuality - BDSM, raunch and all the rest of it - but what I have discovered so far leads me firmly to the belief that these - shall we say digressions? - are psychological consequences of post-natal experiences. That doesn't make the urges any less real - but it DOES mean that there is a possibility that such urges could be changed by therapy.
For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.
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