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brian
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Registered: January 1970
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i posted this also on two boylove boards yesterday. you know, this is the other side of what can happen
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yeah well...there will be some major decisions about a friend of mine made this week. god, i really feel like throwing up about that.
He is one of the greatest men I have ever met online. Seriously, he is the most gentle and caring person, I know. He is 48 now, I think. He is a boylover. He's from Texas. I'll tell you some about him....that's only his life as he has told me, so yeah, I know, it all could be a lie, or facts could be wrong, but I trust him. Really. So well, when he was 21 he had two boys over, probably sons of friends of his or something the like. one of the boys iniated sexual contact and he then touched the boy too, for a few seconds. A bit later, the boy obviously told that his parents and my friend was accused of molesting that child, the thing got to court and he got 4 years. He doesn't talk much about life in prison and how it's been. From the few things he has told me, it must have been hell. Well, it's tough for convicted child molestors there, i suppose. he has dealed with that now, but it made my cry when he told me. I care for him deeply. So well, after he's been out of prison he obviously married, got children. Some years later there was some new law, i think, that registration as sex offender. after he got on that list, naturally, because of having been convicted, his wife left him because she couldn't deal with it. Most of his friends left too. He is leading a pretty lonely life now, I think. Now, some years ago he had sexual contact with a young man who has already been 18 at that point. Well, obviously my friend now has some money because of having a good job and obviously that young man thought he had more money than he really had. So, two months ago, that young man...now 25 or so, went to the police and reported that my friend has had sexual contact with him /molested him when he was below the age of 18. He has no real evidence for that. But still, with those priest processes taking place, the matter isn't likely to be dropped. That thing got official. My friend had to 'sell' everything he had, his house and all, taking all money he had around somewhere to actually pay lawyers and stuff. Should he be convicted he'll literally stay in prison for the rest of his life because he already is registered. Well, it is Texas. The first decisions will/have happened sometime this week. I haven't heard anything so far. I'm only so very scared of what will happen if he really has to spend teh rest of his life in prison. I know, you don't know him. To give you an idea what he's like...I think he and Bobby Blueyes would get along great. They are very alike in how they react to things and in how they are on the boards.
so well, now i'm crying again. damn, i can't bear the thought that he can actually be locked away for the rest of his life. I know he wouldn't survive it. I actually think he would kill himself. Not in the first year, or in the second one, but after ten years? twenty? and it's such a ****ing waste, you know. Dammit, he is the man who actually managed to give me the self-confidence which my 'parents' so successfully destroy every single day. He got me to realize that I'm actually worth something. He got me to realize that I am in fact not someone who is failing at everything, which my parents like to make me believe. You know, he frankly, is the most important man in my life right now. And it just hurts so much to see him, how he tries to be brave 'cause he has to. It hurts how he tries to help people although his very own life is at stake at the moment. It just makes me cry everytime i think of him cause I realize that he could actually be dead within the next year cause somebody thinks it's cool to kill child molestors in prison.
so...i'm nervous right now, i'm scared, i'm crying. I wish I could help him, but all I can do is stay positive and help him by doing that.
I'm so very scared.
Brian
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Remeber, since you weren't there, you cannot and should not judge. Nor should the rest of us with crappy laws based of fear like the one you wrote of. Bue be there for him, like he was for you. I too wish I could help you both. But i can't. Being there for someone, and giving them your support is better than most people do for others in their whole life. I am proud of your compassion, and if you need it, I will try to be there for you as well. At least I will do the best I can.
Hugs, and my dearest wishes,
Kevin
"Be excellent to each other, and, party on dudes"!
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