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I found out that a guy that I went to high school with, is gay. we r going to meet for lunch today. this so tops yesterday mess.
ok so it is really not a date, but good enough. now only if i can get to sleep.
Jay
[Updated on: Wed, 22 November 2006 08:31]
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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I can't fall a sleep now
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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Aussie
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Really getting into it |
Registered: August 2006
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It's too much excitement in a couple of days.
Make out like you are Jedediah and count sheep.
Aussie
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Aussie
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Really getting into it |
Registered: August 2006
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Hope the meeting goes well.
Aussie 
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Good luck!
I do not know a single person from school who is gay and my age. I know of one person a couple of years younger than me who came out when he went to university, but I have not seen him for two or three years now. One of the people who claimed he was gay at school (a total prat, incidentally) has since "turned straight", so it seems more likely he was attention-seeking or omnisexual at the time rather than that he was really gay.
David
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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The thing about school, a thing I have found over rather too many years, is that it contains perfect nostalgia fodder, and perfect reasons for not doing something today.
You are already far braver than I ever was, perhaps than I will ever be. You are open and out. You may not yet think that is much, but it is a very great deal.
Our generations are so far apart. Mine was one where it felt necessary to be afraid, or it did for me. Yours is one where the fears are very much more self made.
I had a point when I started this. It was to suggest that you date. You may do it hamfistedly, you may find smalltalk easy or hard, you may find flirting easy or hard. But date. Date until you know how to date. We ALL get dating wrong. Date, date, date. One of the people you ask out will be him. With luck you will be his "him" too.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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cossie
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On fire! |
Location: Exiled in North East Engl...
Registered: July 2003
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How did lunch go?
For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.
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Timmy,
I assume you're talking to me rather than Jay.
I would quite happily date -- in fact, I would very much like to date! -- if it were not for the fact that I'm quite hopeless at finding people to date. I've visited most of the online gay communities/dating sites, chatted to some people, made a few friends; but I have not mastered the art of chatting people up and if I don't seem to have a lot in common with someone, well -- that's generally the end of it. I can't bring myself to string it out to the point of dating, because I've already got a fair idea of what the person's like.
Of course, there are lots of people I find attractive, but most of them don't seem to find me attractive. (I don't necessarily mean my looks, but also my manner of speech and writing, my interests, and my outlook on life.) Either that or they are as thick as two short planks. The people I find interesting, or who seem to find me attractive, are almost always many years older, and, quite frankly, I hate myself for not finding them attractive.
The university LGB society is run by people whose idea of a great night out is to drink a lot or go up to a London night club. Neither of which is my idea of fun. (NW, I haven't forgotten your suggestion that I should try and organise a gay event that I would enjoy, maybe an intellectual one -- but I haven't quite got round to it yet...)
Maybe I should just go to a London night club and try to find some meaningless one-off sex. It's likely to be more productive than my current strategy.
I'm feeling tired at the moment; I'm not actually as down about the whole thing as I sound. But it is not for lack of will that I am not dating. As much as I hate to admit it, I do not think the wiring of my brain makes it any easier. Other people say they dislike certain social situations, but on the whole they know how to cope with them -- I often simply do not.
David
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I got stood up
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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Aussie
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Really getting into it |
Registered: August 2006
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Must have been a bit of a roller coaster sort of day then. That was the down side and the upside was that you got the job you wanted. Congratulations.
Aussie
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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Well, a quick shag is also good, but DO go armed with suitable condoms and lube and things. Your local GUM clinic is an excellent source of free things.
There are non university gay groups, too.
"Chating up" people is really just cinversation. All you need to do is to kep doing it.
I like the idea of organising an event you would enjoy.
[Updated on: Thu, 23 November 2006 11:21]
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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cossie
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On fire! |
Location: Exiled in North East Engl...
Registered: July 2003
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... have you been in touch since? There could be a perfectly good explanation. OK, there might not be, but jumping to conclusions is a pretty dangerous business and, all too often, it misfires!
For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.
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