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I don't know what to do at the moment. A few minutes ago, I was talking to my mum on ICQ, as I'm seperated by an hours drive from home. The discussion was normal to begin with, then it got a bit deeper. Without intending to from the beginning, I outed myself to her.
And she didn't seem to care. Throughout the whole thing, she was very calm and cool. Very rational. Offered no comfort, no support. Like she was completely indifferent to what I was feeling. And what I was feeling was sadness and frustration.
The tears flowed for a full half an hour. I just wanted her to show some compassion or emotion for me, but she didn't. And that crushed me so much. I don't have any idea what I'm going to do now ...
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but I wish you all the best. You are a special person who will make it. That I am sure of *hugs*
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Location: UK, West of London in Ber...
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Maybe she feels she is "giving you the privacy you need". or maybe she is an insensitive cow.
But Hamish, NOW you are free. It feels like shit right at the start, but you are free. FREE.
Phone her. Collect. And let her speak.
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Tim is right, Hamish. ICQ is not the best vehicle for expressing emotion, because you can't hear tone of voice and you can't see facial expression. Only very recently did I discover that Simon (who also responded to you) completely misunderstood something that I said to him on ICQ a long while ago. Phone your Mum. Better still, go home and visit her. (I have children of my own and I'm not sure that I'd appreciate having major revelations thrust on me via ICQ.) Good luck, Hamish. Hang in there. And always remember that on this Board (and the others) you will find friends who will give you moral and emotional support. Vaya con dios.
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especially what Steve has said about ICQ. I mean you have just informed your mother of something quite major about yourself and at least give her a chance to absorb it. It is quite common for parents to blame themselves for their childs homosexuality even though it is nonsense - you have no idea what is going through her head right now - SO DON;'T ASSUME - furthemore even if she didn;'t react - think about those who have informed their parents and gotten a very negative reaction - or even worse - i'd say to a certain degree no reaction is a positive reaction -
give her time and try and talk to her face to face.
be good and be happy hamish for happy is good
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