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Happy Valentines Day all [message #40983]

Wed, 14 February 2007 10:14

arich

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Location: Seaofstars
Registered: August 2003
Messages: 563

If you can’t be with the one you love, Love everyone!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g5l9O5aem1U

People will tell you where they've gone
They'll tell you where to go
But till you get there yourself you never really know
Where some have found their paradise
Other's just come to harm

Re: Happy Valentines Day all [message #40984 is a reply to message #40983]

Wed, 14 February 2007 12:10

nick

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Location: London
Registered: July 2003
Messages: 351

If you can’t be with the one you love, Love everyone!

Hmmm, I think that's why I loathe this day so much. Today is not about loving everyone. It is about declaring to one person that you love them more than anyone else - and, by implication, that you love the other six billion people in the world less than this one particular lucky individual.

For the rest of us, who have no one special in their lives, there is the danger of being made to feel a second class citizen. Until you remember that Valentine's Day is essentially a marketing device perpetuated by retailers seeking to sell overpriced flowers and tacky cards and by restauranteurs trying to fill tables in the quietest month of the year.

Happy Valentine's Day all.

Re: Happy Valentines Day all [message #40986 is a reply to message #40984]

Wed, 14 February 2007 14:56

arich

Really getting into it

Location: Seaofstars
Registered: August 2003
Messages: 563

LOL Nick I guess it harkens back to elementary school days here in the states when we all had decorated bags taped to the front of our desk and we would each get a card for every one in the class.

Otherwise I have never participated in this celebration in any other way, other than to see it as a day set aside for the expression of love, and I sure don’t do this in any way that requires money! Heh I never have been one to follow party lines though.

It distressed me to hear this would cause such apparent angst. Have you ever thought that it should be more of a general day for the expression of love so that no one is left out and possible be made to feel a second class citizen? Or are you sort of into it if is just for lovers but you could only express it say by making your own card or candy and maybe a meal for that special one love. That is if you have, one. I like you, do not.

I chose to participate in the way I did. Sorry if it harmed you in anyway.

[Updated on: Wed, 14 February 2007 15:43]

People will tell you where they've gone
They'll tell you where to go
But till you get there yourself you never really know
Where some have found their paradise
Other's just come to harm

Re: Happy Valentines Day all [message #40987 is a reply to message #40986]

Wed, 14 February 2007 17:30

nick

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Location: London
Registered: July 2003
Messages: 351

Have you ever thought that it should be more of a general day for the expression of love so that no one is left out and possible be made to feel a second class citizen?

I think that's a wonderful idea.

I admire Grasshopper's philosophy too:

Call your mom or your sister or some girl you know. They love this crap. Hand them the nasty candy and make the world just a little bit happier.

The way it tends to be marketed here in the UK is that it is all about declaring undying love to one particular individual. I suppose, looking back, it sometimes used to upset me a little that I didn't get a card, but now the whole thing just brings out the cynic in me.

Re: Happy Valentines Day all [message #40995 is a reply to message #40987]

Thu, 15 February 2007 00:51

On fire!

Location: Worcester, England
Registered: January 2005
Messages: 1560

This year, for the first time in my life (as far as I remember), I've found Valentine's Day really difficult to handle. Normally, it has meant nothing to me - whether I've been in a relationship or not, the rather saccharine sentiments of the commercial side of VD have just passed me by.

But just at the moment, I guess I'm starting to be bored with being single.

I'm currently involved in an amateur play (having got roped in at very short notice to cover some technical stuff) and our first public performance was tonight. I got as far as the door of the card shop intending to buy the traditional 'first night' cards for the cast and company ... to be met with an oversized VD display. I just couldn't take it, and rather than burst into tears in the shop, I left rather abruptly.

It's possibly a hormone thing - for the first time in a couple of years, I've actually met a couple of guys on the same side of 30 as I am who I find physically (as well as intellectually) attractive and with one of them it is possible that there is a faint stirring of reciprocal interest - though whether in a friendship or in something else I have no idea.

Glad that VD is now over ...

NW

"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. ... Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night devoid of stars." Martin Luther King

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