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I know some of the recent subjects on the board have been a bit heavy, but anyone is always welcome to open an account (using a throwaway email address if you want) and ask a question on-board, no matter how trivial it might seem. You don't need to commit to becoming a regular poster (though you're welcome to if you would like to).
No-one knows who you are, and I promise you won't be asked to give out any information about yourself you're not happy to. There are lots of people here who've got masses of experience in dealing with any sort of age-related or sexuality-related issues (and most other things too). There are members of all generations here, and we were all young once (allegedly  ).
I have a reason for posting this, but I can't say more than that, for reasons of privacy.
Best wishes,
David
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jack
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Sounds like you are moving up in management David.
oooops, only joking.
life is to enjoy.
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Well, obviously, whatever Timmy says round here, goes, but I don't think I've said anything that he wouldn't agree with himself. I should have put a disclaimer that I don't run the board, but I do have faith in it.
David
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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It can somtimes be hard for somene to break the ice. The answer is to try it. The only reason that we are "members only" is to make it harder for spammers
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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OK, you got me. I have been a "lurker" for over 3 years here and I felt good visiting several times a day. I just never got up the nerve to appear. Out of all the wonderful people here, and there are many, I somehow knew it would be something Deej would do or say that would allow me to work up the nerve to post. So here I am. I'm 48 I live in Florida, USA but all my relatives come from the Bradford area of the UK. I have no living relatives left, except for 2nd and 3rd cousins that I have not seen since I was a boy. I just got on disability because of a very bad back and bi-polar disorder.
There seems to be a lot of wisdom here and many different personalities, all of which make this board very dear to me. I stumbled upon this wonderful place by starting to read "Just Hit Send" and have stuck around ever since. I look forward to posting in the future and hope I have something of worth to add. Once again, Thanks Deej for sending out an invitation I couldn't ignore.
All my best, aqua
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love. Washington Irving
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marc
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Registered: March 2003
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Hullo........
I'm Marc.... but if you've been lurking you already know that don't you?
Anyhow, Hullo...
And I have a question..... or 2.......
How many times in the past did you really want to post something?
Being on line as you said for at least 3 years, have you ever struck up a conversation in other places? Or is this a totally new experience for you?
I don't want to pry... but it was just the way you worded your post that got me thinking about it.
Anyhoo...
Cyaround
Marc
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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Hi Marc. I don't feel like you're prying at all. To answer your questions, there have been many times I've wanted to add my 2 cents worth. I just have a hard time getting started. I just feel like an intruder in new situations, that's all. It is so different from how I am in real life. The only other place I have ever posted at all is at the Gay Authors site (GA). I post under the name of Marco. And that took me a few years, too.
Since you know that I know you through lurking here, thanks for the questions and hugs to you and Kevy.
aqua
p.s. I usually go by Marc or Marco. Since you were here first, I chose a pet name an old friend from Peurto Rico used to call me. If I remember correctly, aqualino means "string of pearls". I like that name. So that's my story and I'm sticking with it.
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love. Washington Irving
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Hi Aqua,
It's very nice to make your acquaintance. I don't really have any idea how I appear to other people, but it's nice to know that I don't terrify people so much that they'd never want to come here again!
I remember I posted once asking people who lurked just to say hi, with no obligation to carry on posting, and several people responded. It's interesting to think from time to time about those people who are 'out there' and aware of this place, but don't yet feel part of the community. The community, of course, as Timmy has said many times, extends to everyone who wants to feel part of it. I feel strongly about this because I was not a poster for years before I jumped in, and I felt intimidated until I met Timmy personally (first online and then in real life). There was, of course, nothing to be intimidated by.
I don't know the Bradford area at all, but most people round here seem to have a connection with the UK of some sort -- family, friends, ancestors, etc. Not, of course, that it's a prerequisite. Do you ever come to the UK, Aqua?
I look forward to getting to know you.
Best wishes,
David
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Hi Deej and thanks for the welcome. I have been to the UK only once, and that was a 5 hour stop at Gatwick airport. I do have plans to go in the next year or so. I do want to see where all my relatives came from. My mom's mom came to America in 1910 with all but one sibling. 9 came and one stayed behind. My mom corresponded with her cousins in the UK but I don't remember where they live. I have a map they sent her with all the different places my family came from. The family name is Lund. As far as I know they mostly from the Keithly/Bradford area. I do know my grandmother was born in a little village called Oxenhope. So I very much want to visit.
When I was diagnosed with bi-polar, my Dr. also said I have OCD tendencies, that is why I said that you would have been the one to get me to appear here. In that respect, I felt I knew you a little bit. When you were asking for ideas about a short film, I was trying to think real hard of something to come up with. I have done that many times for many of the regulars here but I just couldn't take that first step to post a reply. Thanks for that little push that helped me to come here.
aqua
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love. Washington Irving
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Aqua,
I'm not very familiar with the North of England so those names don't mean a huge amount to me, but I've put them into Google Maps and have a fair idea where they are. There are other people round here who are closer and know more than I do, I'm sure.
I tend to get anxious from time to time, though I wouldn't like to think that the OCD I once had defined me. I'm a bit obsessive, but much of the time that isn't an altogether bad trait. If you do have obsessive tendencies, it's important to keep them in check and make sure they don't turn into the full disorder, as that is self-perpetuating and tremendously, tremendously stressful.
Anyway, now that you're here, please feel free to start threads or join in on others. Even if you wouldn't have commented before, it's normally possible to find something or other to say about almost anything (even if it's just "I don't have a clue what you're talking about!").
David
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cossie
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Location: Exiled in North East Engl...
Registered: July 2003
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Aqua, you've pretty well hit the jackpot for an interesting ancestral area - not as good as Scotland, of course, but you can't win 'em all!
The City of Bradford has a population of just under 300,000. It was a typical West Yorkshire industrial town, and still has a fair amount of industry, but in recent years it has cleaned up its act and it's a fascinating place to visit. It's the main population centre in Bradford Metropolitan District, the fourth-largest local government district in England. The other places you mention are also in the Metropolitan District.
Keighley (pronounced Keithly) is a former mill town (population 45,000) about ten miles North-West of Bradford; again, it is making the most of the tourist potential of its industrial heritage. From Keighley Railway Station, the 5-mile Keighley and Worth Valley Railway heads up to the hills, with its terminus at Oxenhope. It's one of Britain's best-known preserved Steam Railways; the film 'The Railway Children' was shot at Oakworth Station, half way up the line.
Between Oakworth and Oxenhope is Haworth Station. Haworth was the home of the 19th-Century literary phenomenon the Bronte sisters (Wuthering Heights, Jane Eyre, The Tenant of Wildfell Hall, etc) and is a tourist honeytrap.
I hope you do have the chance to visit, but allow yourself plenty of time, as there's so much to see and do!
Oh, and welcome to the Board - stick around and make friends; some of us are almost human, and even the Southerners aren't too bad!
For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.
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Aussie
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Registered: August 2006
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Hi Aqualino
First of all welcome to the board from me.
Like you I lurked for quite a while before I posted. Then there was something I had to say so decided to test the waters.
Like you my ancestors come from the north of England but according to our learned friend Cossie were still just off the edge of civilisation. However I am sure you can live with that.
I also have a connection with Keighley in that my wife's Grandmother lived there and we have visited her there.
Anyhow thats all I have to say and look forward to more of your posts.
Cossie fyi
Thanks for that nice bit of history. I'm standing by for the next lesson.
Aussie
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Cossie, thank you so much for the information about my ancestral home. I was hoping to hear from you as we share something in common. About 4 years ago I developed a taste for single malt scotch. I find it very enjoyable and like the way the aroma from a glass of it on the coffee table fills the room as I add a few small drops of water. Although I find it to be at its best "neat". Also, my fathers' last name was McIntyre. Thus, I grew up with the reddish mustache quite commonly found on fellow Scots.
Whilst lurking here the past few years, I have enjoyed reading your posts. The comments about the lenght of them always amused me. I have a tendency to ramble on myself. Huh, maybe it's the scotch . However, the quality of what you are posting is well worth the added few minutes it takes to read them. You have helped me on more than one occasion with your insight and wisdom.
I grew up in Boston and 2 years ago moved down south to Florida. We northeners have a saying down here..." northeners, making the south smart, one person at a time". Is it the same over there ?? Really, just kidding. I don't want to offend any one, here or there. I love it here in Florida and the people are very kind.
Thanks again for the welcome Cossie. I am very pleased to be here !
Aqua
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love. Washington Irving
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Hi Aussie, nice to meet you. Thanks for the greeting. I am currently "crushing" on one of your recent exports, Jesse Spencer.
I hope to get into the thick of things here on the board eventually. As I have said previously in this thread, there seems to be many wonderful and helpful people here. I look forward to feeling myself "belong" here.
Aqua
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love. Washington Irving
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Aussie
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Registered: August 2006
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Hangs head in shame.
I have to confess I hadn't heard of Jesse Spencer. Probably because I have never been a Neighbors fan and also not seen any of the movies he is in.
So there you go you learn something everyday.I had to Google him
I am very impressed with the achievements of our Jesse Martin though.
Aussie
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Hi, Aqualino and a very warm welcome to this very special place. Make yourself at home.
I remember how long I was a lurker (on another board, now defunct) until a chance remark by one of the posters got me to email him; then he, in turn, persuaded me that the world would not fall down around my shoulders if I were to post. And he was right - as you have now discovered too. I think I joined this forum on the day it started and have been here ever since.
Oh, and another thing that you and I have in common: Jesse Spencer! I have seen him in "House"; and there was one TV dramatization of a detective novel about a murder in an anglican monastery (can't remember the name) in which we were afforded a view of his delectable nude butt as he raced down the beach and plunged into the sea.
I originally hailed from southern England, but now I live in a civilized country .
Again, a warm welcome.
J F R
The paradox has often been noted that the United States, founded in secularism, is now the most religiose country in Christendom, while England, with an established church headed by its constitutional monarch, is among the least. (Richard Dawkins, 2006)
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Hi Aqua,
>We northeners have a saying down here..." northeners, making the south smart, one person at a time". Is it the same over there ?
... of course, round here the South is much more prosperous than the North, and the capital city and government is in the south, so if there were someone would probably legislate against mentioning it!
Since everyone has started insisting that their ancestry is from the North, I might as well add that my family comes from Yorkshire (father's side) and Northern Ireland and Scotland (mother's side) and that I have no great love for Surrey (where I'm at university and where I was brought up).
David
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Hi JFR, thanks for the welcome. Every one has been so kind and friendly on this board. I can't believe that Aussie missed the cute Jesse Spencer. After falling for him while watching "House", I googled him. There I found out about his movie "Swimming Upstream". I didn't get to see his butt nude, although in much of the movie, it was clad in a speedo. A very nice sight indeed  He filled them out rather nicely
aqua
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love. Washington Irving
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Welcome to the board. I'm kind of a quasi-lurker myself so I understand where you are coming for. I also live just to the south of you in Sarasota. I have also recently become fond of Scotch (I had a bottle of Maclellans from the Lowlands) although I prefer to drink it with a bit more than a few drops of water.
It's always the old to lead us to the war
It's always the young to fall
Now look at all we've won with the sabre and the gun
Tell me is it worth it all
~Phil Ochs "I Aint Marching Anymore"
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Once again I must say thanks for the welcome. I'm in northeast St.Pete. I am glad to make your acquaintance. I am normally a brandy drinker, when I drink that is. And only strait up in a shot glass or shooter. I only break out the single malt when I have some one over. It seems a waste to drink it alone.
This has been a real pleasant experience for me. Joining this board I mean. It's like finally belonging somewhere after observing it for ages. To explain it better, it's like watching a tv show you really like, then being able to join the cast. It feels great. I am very greatful to all of you for welcoming me and letting me feel comfortable here.
So now I'm thinking, am I the only one that is going to answer Deejs' invite ? If you have been like me and have lurked round here for a while, please work up the nerve to say hello. You won't be sorry. I am proof of that.
aqua
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love. Washington Irving
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I don't know what's going to happen when cossie finds out about all this drinking malt with water. You'll be saying you drink it on the rocks next.
Still, if you don't tell him, I won't either.
Hugs
Nigel
I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.
…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.
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Aussie
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Registered: August 2006
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So now we've got one who can't think straight, one who can't drink straight and one who straight out doesn't know who Jesse Spencer is.
What next?
I think I'm gonna go straight to Cossie and dob.
Sigh!! at least we'll get a straight answer even if it is long winded.
Aussie  )
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On the rocks ??? NEVER
You notice I said I only put in a few drops. And that was only a few times. I don't want to get Cossie all fired up. Naturally the only way to drink scotch is strait up.
Maybe he will miss this whole conversation ? I hope.
aqua
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love. Washington Irving
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cossie
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On fire! |
Location: Exiled in North East Engl...
Registered: July 2003
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Aqua's forebears came from Yorkshire, which is relatively civilised - it must be, because that's where Robert the Bruce's ancestors came from.
Your ancestors, however, had the misfortune to come from Lancashire; that's the kind of skeleton in the family cupboard one simply can't mention in polite company. Let's face it, in Lancashire an average chimpanzee would seem exceptionally intelligent, and a bonobo would qualify for a professorship at Lancaster University!
Mind you, as Aqua has picked up the disgusting American habit of putting water in his malt, it's clear that the benefits of Yorkshire upbringing have evaporated since his ancestors emigrated. Still, what can you expect after a few years of exposure to what the Americans laughably regard as civilisation?
(Sits back, sipping single malt and wearing a smug and superior expression!)
For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.
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My Yorkshire upbringing did not totally evaporate. I'll have you know, we had yorkshire pudding every Sunday for the first 16 years of my life.
I also vow right here, NEVER to let a single drop of water ever touch my malt again.
And while I'm at it. Now that I've been wound up, just what in the hell is a Lancashire hot pot ?? Cossie, do I even want to know??
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love. Washington Irving
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Aqua,
I Googled "monastery", "murder" and "spencer" and hey presto! The name of the TV show I was writing about was "Death in Holy Orders" by P.D. James. It's available on DVD. Apart from Jesse Spencer there is a superb performance (as always!) by Martin Shaw as the detective.
J F R
[Updated on: Sun, 25 February 2007 06:26]
The paradox has often been noted that the United States, founded in secularism, is now the most religiose country in Christendom, while England, with an established church headed by its constitutional monarch, is among the least. (Richard Dawkins, 2006)
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Thank you JFR. Have you seen "Swimming Upstream" ?? It is an Australian movie. The true story of Aussie swimmer Tony Fingleton. It is shown on Showtime several times a week.
aqua
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love. Washington Irving
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