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I'm not quite sure how to say this but I am going to try my best.
( POST-post : It all came out as a bit of a mush, but nothing really seems to make much sense after today )
How...
How do you tell one how you feel, are feelings not an individual sensation an individual Chemical Reaction ?
How do you explain love, this feeling is also chemical, or am I wrong?
How do you fall in love and have feelings for someone halfway round the globe? A someone that you have only seen in photos, and spoken to in emails. Someone that you really have fallen for and you are not sure that you will be able to get up? But what is success other than getting up one more time than you have fallen down?
How can they say that feelings, love and feeling love is only chemical?
I love him and I'm not sure if I want it any other way.
When I think of been without him I want to cry, but how can I feel this way if I have never been with him, and have no idea what its like in the first place?
How is it that two people can be so attracted to one another, with out the one ever seeing the other?
HOW, HOW, HOW ???
I love you, are three words that I do not say with out thought. I have thought long and hard and I have said these three words to him, how could I not say this to him.
I have only ever felt like this for one other person and I never got to tell him, so I felt like I could not let this one slip through my fingers.
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"And so the lion fell in love with the Lamb"
"What a stupid Lamb"
"What a sick, masochistic lion"
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marc
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Registered: March 2003
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Tempo21 wrote:
> I'm not quite sure how to say this but I am going to try my best.
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> ( POST-post : It all came out as a bit of a mush, but nothing really seems to make much sense after today )
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> How...
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> How do you tell one how you feel, are feelings not an individual sensation an individual Chemical Reaction ?
You just go ahead and do it....
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> How do you explain love, this feeling is also chemical, or am I wrong?
You can not.... and yet can.... All it takes is someone to hold on to....
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> How do you fall in love and have feelings for someone halfway round the globe? A someone that you have only seen in photos, and spoken to in emails. Someone that you really have fallen for and you are not sure that you will be able to get up? But what is success other than getting up one more time than you have fallen down?
Ahhh.... Here we are to the "holding onto part" .... Half way around the globe you can fall into deep liking... you can fall into lust... But love... Nope... That doesnt happen until you can actually meet and learn to know each other.
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> How can they say that feelings, love and feeling love is only chemical?
Who are "they"?
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> I love him and I'm not sure if I want it any other way.
Ooooooooooooooooooooooh k....... it is good to be so sure when there is nothing but a few electronic conversations between you.... Oh that and say several thousand miles and an ocean or two...
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> When I think of been without him I want to cry, but how can I feel this way if I have never been with him, and have no idea what its like in the first place?
Exactly my point.....
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> How is it that two people can be so attracted to one another, with out the one ever seeing the other?
in internet relationships the attraction is purely etherical.......
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> HOW, HOW, HOW ???
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> I love you, are three words that I do not say with out thought. I have thought long and hard and I have said these three words to him, how could I not say this to him.
I love you are the easiest words ever uttered by man..... They are hormonally driven and usually as thin as water.
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> I have only ever felt like this for one other person and I never got to tell him, so I felt like I could not let this one slip through my fingers.
> ?? ?? ?? ?? ?? ?? ?? ?? ?? ?? ?? ??
This one has to first be between your fingers .......
[Updated on: Wed, 28 February 2007 14:54]
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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Tempo 21,
I can't explain your "chemical things". And I can't define "love" or whether it's real. Lust or love. I don't know. But I could offer some advice. Make absolutely sure, you are being totally truthful and honest with him and expect him to be and do the same with you. In that way, watch him over some time and make sure he is consistant with his emotions and affections. That is a bottom line must to build a foundation of trust between you two. Keep getting deeper and deeper in the getting to know him. communicating openly and truthfully with each other is a must. See his faults/weaknesses as well as his positive sides. Try poking holes in his positive sides: not unkindly, not cruelly, but in the getting to know him. Don't make a commitment until you are sure as you can be of him. You can truthfully love him in friendship that may blossom into a deeper love. But better to find out now then get so hurt later and end up in bitterness and building walls around you. You can protect yourself from getting hurt by building protective shields around you. It will keep out the hurts....but it also keeps out the love. It is a risk to take down the walls and open yourself up. Is it better to love and lose than not loving at all? Only you can decide that. Having someone love you, accept you, care about you, is gold in your heart and allows you to dare reach out and love them, accept them, care for them too. But it is a risk. Believe me,not taking risks, and getting old alone is very painful. If you can find someone to love and be loved, hang on to that. When hurts and misunderstandings come, communicate and fix it. And lastly, make sure he is really looking for a relationship long term; if not, then make it only a friendship love so you won't get hurt. Good luck.
Tad
Tad Durham
Belfast, Maine U S A
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saben
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Registered: May 2003
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I agree with Marc mostly, but I would say that what you can feel in an online relationship is love. It is not, however, the same kind of love you feel when in a serious relationship that is worth building comittments on.
The love you feel online is similar to the love you feel when you are first dating someone. It can be strong, and can feel quite deep. But it is infatuation, lust and like based love. I would still call it love, but you need to acknowledge that it is different to the love that a couple who have known each other a while in real life would feel.
Other than that purely semantic point, I agree with Marc fully.
I have had online relationships before; before I had ever been in love in "real life". You are never with someone until you meet them and spend time with them face to face. I used to think that online love was "true" love but now that I've experienced "true" love I know it's not the case.
Enjoy what you have, but realise that it is illusionary. People online can seem soooo perfect. It is so easy to get happy, excited and giggly with an online relationship. But it is online, the lack of fulfillment will be frustrating as hell. You never know what OR who they are in real life until you meet them in real life.
You may end up hurt, most online relationships end. But if you are going to make it happen, make it happen sooner rather than later. And realise that spending thousands of dollars to travel around the world had better be worth it of its own accord, because things will be different face-to-face. You need to have realistic expections and see that it probably will never work out. If you can go into it with eyes open, then go ahead. Otherwise you are setting yourself and themself up for hurt.
Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
Master Oogway
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