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Do you ever just wonder if your not spose to find the one?
Brian
To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.
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II think that I know what you mean. But I have something for you to consider.
Who is the one? Is it that one person that makes you feel whole? Is it the one person that makes you feel loved? Is it the one object that makes you feel like you?
And I could go on. I had the same problem at one point, I hated my life, I just wanted to be alone because that is how I thought it should be. No one I held dear felt the same way, and it seemed like no one understood me. As time went by my standards got higher and Higher, and the wall I was hiding behind was getting taller and taller. It was starting to block out the sun and everything else that had ever made me feel good.
In short I was doomed...
My mind fell apart and my sanity turned to ash. I knew it was time to take a back seat and take a good long hard look at what I was, who I was and why I was the way I was. The penny dropped and it all seemed to start making sense.
I knew that the problems could not be sorted out in the blink of an eye,it would take time. I had to break myself down and start from scratch, building on the good and working through the bad.
 CARPE DIEM
Make no mistakes, I need more time, and time I will take. Just remember the worst that they can say is no, and if that is the case pick-up and move on.
Success is getting up one more time than you have fallen down.;-D
"And so the lion fell in love with the Lamb"
"What a stupid Lamb"
"What a sick, masochistic lion"
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Yes, but I can generally dismiss the thought. There's no such thing as fate, even metaphorical fate. In my case, my lack of success is partly because I'm not social and outgoing enough, and partly because I don't move in the right circles (yet). I am working on remedying these.
David
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marc
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Registered: March 2003
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Yes you are.....
But only for as long as it takes him to find someone else online.
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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It has seldom occurred to me that I am supposed to.
It has always been something that happens to "other people". And in movies.
The whole thing has always been a complete mystery.
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Brian,
I don't know about 'supposed to' or 'not supposed to' but the hope that you will is what gives the 'hope' in living day to day. Without that 'hope' and just to an endless string of one night stands, that are empty and unsatisfying, is as deadly as any poison. Recreational sex has an immediate 'fix' but when you go home alone, it is so unsatisfying. If that is all there is or going to be, why bother. Hope keeps the coals simmering ready to again burst into flames,again, when the appropriate hope becomes the possibility of reality. Romantic? Yes. Idealistic? Yes. But without hope, the coals will one day go out and then cold arises in your heart and emotions. Sad.
Tad
Tad Durham
Belfast, Maine U S A
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A world in which:
(i) everyone who is single is sustained by the hope that they are going to meet The Right One, without which hope they grow emotionally cold; and
(ii) in the meantime they embark on a string of one night stands to get some kind of "fix" from recreational sex.
I suppose there must be some people who live their lives like that, but it is not a world that I recognise. I know many single people who are warm individuals who lead contented and interesting lives. And as timmy's recent survey shows, there are huge differences in the level of people's sex drives.
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