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I hate my parents the damm son of bitchs have cracked my password on my pc and went throw my e-mails. and then had the talk about being gay that they qout "still would love me but would be very disappointed in me". that the last straw i am moving out and will find a way to go back to school. but i am getting the hell out of here.
J
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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Jay, calmn down, sit and think this out. Your parents still love you. They did not throw you out. They did not refuse to help with your schooling. Maybe now it is time for them to be educated about being gay. Im sorry that they went thru your emails. I know that that has broken your trust in them and they need to know that. But I know deep inside you love your parents and if you leave you may cause a rift that cant be fixed. See if you can come to an understanding with your parents. You can never have any other, they are the only ones you will ever get or ever have. Dont act to swiftly, think things thru.
If you stand for Freedom, but you wont stand for war, then you dont stand for anything worth fighting for.
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my parents r homophobic. and they dont love me they think i am a screw up so i know its not true. and i realy do hate my parents and there is no lov for them in my heart. and this has been comming forsome time.
J
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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Will you be ok? I would hate to think anything bad would happen to you. Life on your own wont be easy.
If you stand for Freedom, but you wont stand for war, then you dont stand for anything worth fighting for.
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wont be easy. but i well make it, cuz i have too.
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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Jay, think things through. Then do what you feel you have to do.None of us are in your place. Whatever your decision, There are those of us who love and care about you. Any one of us can help or offer sound advice. I hope however you make up your mind, you are safe. That is all that matters.
aqualino
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love. Washington Irving
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13800
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Give them some time, and continue to tell all the lies you need to in order to ensure their financial support. Pretend to be the same kid you were before. Talk about the "just a phase" thing, and just say it seems to be passing.
Not a great thing for parents to go through a PC. It doesn't show much trust.
Meanwhile install Spybot, which has a shredder for file deletion (advanced settings), and also change to a much stronger password. It's free.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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I'm pretty new here and to tell the truth, I have some problems of my own as well. Still, I'd like to voice my opinion if you would permit me....
It's a hard thing living with homophobic parents, something I know all too well of. And I know that the first instinct is prolly to run away when something like this happens. As tempting as it may be, It would probably be best to hold off on doing something before you have the chance to think of your actions. If you think you can't stand it at your place one second longer, go to a friend's for the night. But don't just up and leave with no plan whatsoever. That route will probably end you up homeless or worse.
If you're still planning to leave, I suggest getting youself financially stable first before leaving the nest. This of course is assuming that you're old enough for a job. If you're not, then that would be a bigger problem, what being a minor and all. If such is the case though, leaving would be even more dangerous for you. It would be probably better for you to put up with you're parents till you're 18 or 16 (if you can get yourself legally emancipated) It sucks I know, but If you choose to run away, It would be a lot worse.
Of course, this is only my opinion. The ultimate decision is up to you. Do try and think it through though, that's all I'm saying.
*Scribbles on the screen* There You go....
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Broken...
I see your eyes so dull and plain,
I feel your heart in so much pain.
They knocked you down and hurt you bad,
To see you this way it makes me sad.
The ruthless anger and soul untrusting,
Friendship denied and relationship rusting.
The distance between the road walked alone,
Cold and bitter apart you have grown.
The anger devours all the good deep inside,
The chasm you face grows deep as is wide.
The walls that you build protect well indeed,
But the anger still grows and thrives, its a weed.
You try to move on but to hatred you're chained,
To continue like this a lot more is lost than will ever be gained.
The love of a friend you might push away,
The cool breeze on a warm summers day.
The hate scared you deep and the darkness is vast,
But you need to move on and not dwell on the past.
Your path I will share and your hand I will take,
So from my heart to yours a pledge I will make.
To empower and hold to help and to guide,
A friend you have here right by your side.
"And so the lion fell in love with the Lamb"
"What a stupid Lamb"
"What a sick, masochistic lion"
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Aussie
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Registered: August 2006
Messages: 475
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Tempo, that is incredibly good. Did you write it yourself?
As I believe I know Jay reasonably well your poem captures the situation remarkably as it stands at the moment.
Hopefully the support and advice he can get from you and the friends here will be some consolation to him and help him to make the right choices.
Aussie
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Yip I wrote it for him today, and we can only hope that he gets what he need from it. But you are right in saying that we are all here for him to help where we can.
Luvies ME
P.S. Thanks
"And so the lion fell in love with the Lamb"
"What a stupid Lamb"
"What a sick, masochistic lion"
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Personally, I think by far the worst thing is that they invaded your privacy in such a manner. Homophobia might stem from ignorance, but intrusion on that level -- especially considering you're a legal adult -- is pretty unforgivable. I think that is the primay issue you need to address with them.
I am not sure how anyone can justify an argument that "they would be disappointed in you" for being gay. It's like being disappointed in a daughter for not being a son. It's childish and unfair.
I'll be on MSN later if you'd like to talk to me.
Best wishes,
David
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Jay, I know very well what its like to hate your parents. I also know what its like to leave and never have anyting to do with them again. I understand that sometimes that is the only decision to make, but please concider all your options. Some of us old farts have been down the same road and suffered the same indignities. If you still decide to leave, pull your best friends close. Let them know whats happening. Most of all stay on your guard as there are people out there who will use you and abuse you. I know all you can get from us is advice, please dont hessitate to ask. We all love and care about you because you are one of us. We are here for our own whenever one needs us.
If you stand for Freedom, but you wont stand for war, then you dont stand for anything worth fighting for.
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jack
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Likes it here |
Location: England
Registered: September 2006
Messages: 304
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Hi Jay, they should not have gone through your emails.
But if you are gay then they can now adjust, be aware it could well be a big shock to them.
If you love them and they do love you then given time all will come to terms
with your sexuality.
Do not move out that is running away from a situation and would make it hard to return.
stay calm and think it through. 
life is to enjoy.
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well i found a place and its on the lake not to far from work I was hoping to hold off for the one they r building next to work. but these will do.
i put my depost down ths fri after i sse the place
J
So say what you want
(You know I'm wasting all my time)
You've gotta mean it when you say what you want
(You're only safe when you're alone)
And everybody's on your mind
Saying anything to get you by
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Hay Im glad to hear that you found your own place. But other wise how are things going with you all?
"And so the lion fell in love with the Lamb"
"What a stupid Lamb"
"What a sick, masochistic lion"
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13800
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Now you have your own castle. How does this affect their support for college?
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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