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he said i should write my post out on word first so i would not get so nervus. i get real nervos when i do some things and he wants to help me with that. will and i talked about sex stuf becuse of what you guys said we shuld do. we did some stuf and it was fun. he did it to me and i did it to him not the bad sex stuf we just sukd on ours and we jaked too. we made up our mind to not do the bad sex the butt sex until we get older. will sais it wil be berrt that way. i let will read this befor puting it here and he sais i am doin good. i lov will so much and he told me he lovs me back to. i feel so good whne i am with him. an i miss him so much when he is gon. i hop you can read thsi beter than befor. bye
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I'm sure everyone has been able to follow your posts just fine. And this one was well written. I think I probably speak for all of us when I say how pleased I am that Will is helping you to overcome your nervousness. It's nice to have someone strong to lean against isn't it? It feels like there are no problems you can't overcome when you can share it with someone who cares.
I guess what concerns me is your term "the bad sex stuff" when referring to anal sex. I don't think any of us wanted to convey that anal sex was bad or wrong. We simply wanted you to be well prepared before taking that big step. Your and Will's decision to hold off for awhile is a good one - inasmuch as it gives you time to learn about one another and about other ways to please your partner. It sounds like you already have a good start. The other reason we suggested you wait was so that you could educate yourselves about anal sex. Some good links have been posted as a result of your questions. You can become as knowledgeable as any of us.
I am so happy that you and Will found one another. It took courage for Will to come up to you and introduce himself. And it took courage from the both of you to open up to one another and express your feelings. I think you have created a whole forum of happy, adopted, gay Dads! God bless you both.
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That post is better expressed, but still hard to understand. I'm not trying to be mean, but even at your age you should have a better grasp of the English language than you are demonstrating.
A lot of people online are lazy when it comes to typing. But if you are lazy it can be hard to understand. You should treat forum posts- and in fact everything- the same as you'd treat a writing piece at school. I'm sure that you would write properly at school- so please take the time to use correct English here, too! (It makes people think you are smarter, too- trust me  ) So doing what Will says and using MS Word first would help! You can use the spellcheck if you're unsure. But I'm sure a lot of your mistakes are just laziness!
"will sais it wil be berrt that way", I'm sure you just typed 'said' wrong, and I'm sure you know how to spell 'will' and 'better'. But if you don't double check what you write, then silly typos and mistakes are left and they can confuse the people reading your posts.
As for you and Will. I'm glad you had some fun. Anal sex isn't bad, it's very, very good! For me personally, it's more serious, though. Anal sex is for people I have loved for a long time. It's good that you guys are having a good relationship. It can be fun to be in love so young.
Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
Master Oogway
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We need to read between the lines as well, for what is left unsaid as well as what he is saying. Both he and Will have described Braden as a nervous person. Also, reversing the order of letters in a word is a common occurrence when you type very hurriedly. Could he be concerned about his Dad coming into his room while he pours his heart out in these messages - having a desire to write and post quickly to avoid exposure? Perhaps he feels that if he ponders over it, checking grammar and spelling, he will lose the courage to send these normally private and heartfelt thoughts. I, for one, don't think we should be concerned about his spelling - there are far more important issues at stake.
I can understand the desire to help him grow in all areas; but he’s looking for guidance of another kind: for the normal guidance he has teachers and a parent. Let’s not exert pressure that may cause him to feel embarrassment and want to avoid the forum. 
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Thanks for that post Paul. I fear I would not have been so level headed towards such criticism.
I had no real trouble understanding Braden’s post, and hope the other post does not deter him from posting.
Thank goodness we are all not just bricks in a wall, all uniform and the same. What a boring world that would be. Braden, be patient with those that have become part of that wall, they tend to have a hard time seeing their own imperfections.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x6rcPRt7sjA
Blue Night Over The Sky
Blue Night Over Me
Disappeared Out Of The Window
Me With Hands
Hidden Under My Cheek
I Think About My Day
Today And Yesterday
I Put On My Blue Nighties
Go Straight To Bed
I Pull The Soft Covers Over
Close My Eyes
I Hide My Head Under The Covers
A Little Elf Stares At Me
Runs Towards Me But Doesn’t Move
From Place - Himself
A Staring Elf
I Open My Eyes
Take The Crusts Out
Stretch Myself And Check (If I Haven’t)
Returned Again And Everything Is Okay
Still There Is Something Missing
Like All The Walls
People will tell you where they've gone
They'll tell you where to go
But till you get there yourself you never really know
Where some have found their paradise
Other's just come to harm
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I was 16 when I got online. At first I thought it was cool to type in chatpsak. Then I joined a forum where I was embarassed by comments made by others regarding my typing. I do find it hard to read what Braden says, at times.
He's not stupid- but correctly typed English will make him thought of as more intelligent. I've met some very intelligent people that use chatpsak but on first impressions, correctly typed English is just plain better.
That said, Braden. Type how you want to type. I was just giving advice.
The fact is teachers and parents don't deal with this kind of thing.
My boyfriend's spelling and punctuation is terrible and he's in year 11. Part of it stems from poor teachers in primary school, part of it stems from the fact that he never practices correct English.
There may be a good reason for Braden hurrying. But it would be easier to understand were he able to take the time.
I'm not going to hold him to a lower standard because he's 15, though. He's not a baby. I was writing properly by his age. And maybe his writing has no problems with it! Which is exactly my point. He should type as he would write if he can help it! On an online forum especially. Chat and SMS are different. Chat is instant and SMS has space limits.
That said, people have the right to do whatever they like in life. I don't like smokers, either, I'll often tell smokers they should quit and give them reasons why. It's still their choice, though!
Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
Master Oogway
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Praise the smokers, the welfare bludgers, the drunken brawlers and the child molesters! Celebrate diversity!
Different people have different strengths and weaknesses. But having bad health habits or being uneducated isn't ever a good thing. I don't support or endorse bad habits that can be changed. Ever.
And have you ever looked at a brick wall? All bricks might have features in common, but they are still unique.
Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
Master Oogway
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No, I see the imperfections in the bricks in the wall, It’s just that those that are part of the wall delight in pointing out other’s imperfections while not ever seeing their own.
People will tell you where they've gone
They'll tell you where to go
But till you get there yourself you never really know
Where some have found their paradise
Other's just come to harm
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Oh I see my own, trust me. I'm pretty light on others compared to myself.
Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
Master Oogway
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