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My Obsessions and Compulsions  [message #43593] Fri, 29 June 2007 01:24 Go to next message
Josh is currently offline  Josh

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Me again.

I was reading about Obsessive Compulsive Disorder again. And I was reading about what exactly 'obsssions' and 'compulsions' are.

Obsessoins are unwanted thoughts or feelings.

Compulsions are what you do to release anxiety from you're obsessions.

I think I got that right. Anyway.

Here's my 'obsessions' and 'compulsions' for OCD.

Obsessions: Child porn, pedophiles, rape.

My cumpulsions are: Video games, music, and lots of thinking.

Meaning, I don't want to think about child pron, pedophiles, or rape, though I end up thinking about them anyway.

And what I do, or try to do to relieve the stress from those osbessions is play video games, listen to music, and think a lot..

Even tho I'm trying these things, I still have trouble with it.. Pedophiles do scare me. And I do imagine a 13 year old boy being raped by a man, and that scares me... It's really sad...

Anyway, I apologize for this sad post. Forgive me.

~Josh~



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Re: My Obsessions and Compulsions  [message #43596 is a reply to message #43593] Fri, 29 June 2007 01:40 Go to previous messageGo to next message
aqualino is currently offline  aqualino

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Nothing to forgive Josh. Not from my point of view any way.

LOVE ~AQUA~



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Re: My Obsessions and Compulsions  [message #43597 is a reply to message #43596] Fri, 29 June 2007 01:42 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Josh is currently offline  Josh

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Thanks Aqua^_^ *hugs*^^

~Josh~



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~Josh~
Re: My Obsessions and Compulsions  [message #43607 is a reply to message #43593] Fri, 29 June 2007 06:55 Go to previous messageGo to next message
timmy

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The rape, while it can and does happen, is far less frequent than the news media would have us believe. There is money in printing stories about abuse. It sells adverts.



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Obsession without compulsion, possibly  [message #43608 is a reply to message #43593] Fri, 29 June 2007 10:07 Go to previous message
Deeej is currently offline  Deeej

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Compulsions are usually irrational and take up a huge amount of time that you would otherwise have devoted to something else.

Listening to music and video games and thinking sound like conscious choices to me, which pretty much eliminates the possibility that they could be compulsions. A compulsion is something you feel compelled to do against your will. Unless you are literally unable to tear yourself away from playing video games when you should be doing something far more important (it's not just a question of not wanting to do something more important -- an irrational compulsion would be on the order of staying there if the house was burning down) I don't think they can count as the sort of compulsions you might find in an obsessive-compulsive disorder. Normally obsessions and compulsions are tied up together, one directly influencing the other. For example, an obsession with hygiene would mean a great deal of washing. An obsession with organisation would mean endless tidying. The washing makes you think more about hygiene, not washing causes more anxiety, the washing helps you feel a little less anxious, and before you know it the thoughts are going round and round and it's a horrible feedback loop. In contrast, I'm unable to find a two-way/feedback link between child porn and playing video games or music, unless you play very peculiar games or listen to very strange music.

To try and put things in context, when I had OCD my obsessions at one point were than I was spending about 90% of my waking time worrying, and most of that got channelled into an obsession about hygiene. If you are spending 90% of your waking time thinking about child rape then I would really recommend that you find someone to talk about it -- it will prevent you from getting on with your life. Even if you spend less you are evidently worrying that you will start thinking about it more, and that is the basis for an obsession (even if not OCD). This board is no substitute for a trained professional.

David

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