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tony left for vacation....
im falling apart like a blubbering idiot.
i feel so lost and alone without him
well its now 6:56 pm and i just started crying
i miss him so much!!!!!
my heart and soul will not be whole again until he returns
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JimB
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You said below that no one understands, and you're right, I don't.
It is time for you to grow up. You have someone who loves you. Do you think he would be proud of you for acting "like a blubbering idiot"? What is all of this crying and acting like a child getting you? Nothing but unhappiness, that's what. He is on vacation, not dead.
Stop being so self-centered and feeling sorry for yourself. Instead be glad that he has a chance to get out and do something different; and hope that he is having a good time. That's what vacations are all about, having a good time. How do you think he would feel if he read your posts?
Missing him is fine, even expected; but the way you are behaving isn't. And he wouldn't be happy at all knowing about it, would he? Think about it.
JimB
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marc
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Jordan, i know you miss Tony.
he'll be home quick. He's ok.....
Im here for you,,,,
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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marc
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Registered: March 2003
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This has to be the most heartless reply to a post I have ever seen at this forum.
I am certain there is a place for callus words such as you spewed out in such an unthinking manner.
I feel bad for Jordan but I pitty you sir!
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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I have a feeling you have never walked a step, let alone a mile, in someone else's shoes.
Youth crisis hot-line 866-488-7386, 24 hr (U.S.A.)
There are people who want to help you cope with being you.
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JimB
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Registered: December 2006
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What would you prefer, that he spend the rest of the week crying and being miserable? Or that someone talk to him like a man with words that will perhaps help him become a better person.
The role of a good partner is to support the other. Support them by hoping they have a good time and support their happiness at the opportunity to vacation.
Tony can return to two things: Someone who says I missed you much and hope you had a terrific vacation; or someone who says I was miserable and cried all week. The second will only diminish the enjoyment that Tony experienced during his vacation, and I don't think that Jordan wants to do that.
Also the second will likely work more to split them up than draw them closer together, and I don't think that Jordan wants that either. Plenty of others have walked in Jordan's shoes and their experience has been just what I have said.
Jordan needs good advice, not someone to encourage him to continue acting "like a blubbering idiot". If you read his post you know that those are his words, not mine. He needs to think of Tony and their relationship, not of himself and how lonely he is.
You think I am heartless and callus. I think you are doing him a disservice by encouraging him to continue acting like he is. I am not his father but I gave him fatherly advice because that's what he needed.
JimB
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marc
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Be thankful..... be very thankful....
fow what? use your imagination.
You have not a single clue as to the situation. Not one iota!
Yet you continue to spew on and on..... without a single notion of his situation....
When it comes to 'fatherly advice' you have no fucking idea how close you hit the mark to his biological father.
For that accolade any sane person would expect you to hang your head in shame... his bio-father is scum!
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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There's nothing wrong with having a good cry: it's very good for the system. Go ahead and howl for a while!
But once you're all cried out, try to think about a few things to get out and do - when Tony gets back he's going to have lots of exciting things that he's done to talk about, and it helps if you've also done things ... even pretty boring things. Otherwise, the conversation might be a bit one-sided for a few days after he gets back.
"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. ... Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night devoid of stars." Martin Luther King
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marc
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Registered: March 2003
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Thanks NW.....
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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saben
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Registered: May 2003
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I think Jim's well intentioned, Jordan, but I hardly think it is being away from Tony that has you so worried, is it? Perhaps something more like being alone, isolated and without support.
Being without one person is hard at the best of times, but when that one person is all you have in life, it can be pretty rough when they are gone.
But Jordan, you'll be fine. Be strong. Listen to what Jim says too, he sounds a little blunt in his posts, but he means well. His message is "make the best of whatever situation you have", even if it doesn't read that way.
It's cliche, but it's true that happiness comes from within (it's scientifically proven, too  ). Humans can synthesize happiness from a situation that's entirely miserable. That's the beauty of being human. The sad thing is that it's much easier said than done.
Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
Master Oogway
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Hi Jordan,
There are other ways of looking at it -- Tony will be back from his holiday at some point, and you have that to look forward to. It might be a bit glib, but I find that things are easier when I realise they are only temporary.
As NW says, don't be afraid to cry, but in the meantime do the best you can, and have things to talk about when he gets back. Try and keep yourself busy -- if you have something to do then it'll make it easier to keep things in proportion. We've all got things to worry about -- if we don't keep them in check they can seem far more dreadful than they really are (like me trying to find a job ... still haven't found one yet, after a couple of months of looking, and it makes me feel terrible if I'm not careful).
Good luck, and best wishes,
David
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