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I don't know why I do it......  [message #45218] Fri, 21 September 2007 21:19 Go to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

Needs to get a life!

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I don't know why I allow it to happen.... The results are ALWAYS the same.

I have to call a stone mason.... I need walls repaired, strengthened, built higher and thicker....



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Re: I don't know why I do it......  [message #45220 is a reply to message #45218] Sat, 22 September 2007 09:27 Go to previous messageGo to next message
timmy

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Er, ok. Do what?



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Re: I don't know why I do it......  [message #45224 is a reply to message #45218] Sat, 22 September 2007 12:08 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Whitewaterkid is currently offline  Whitewaterkid

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So, jumping to conclusions again, which is one of my specialities, I guess you fell for some guy, and he either didn't return the level of affection you were offering him, or you you fell for some guy who was unobtainable, or some other similar situation?

So any of that being true, now you want to insulate yourself from any further hurt by rebuilding walls around yourself, and put your heart in an inner keep, rimmed with moats and crocodiles so you'll never be hurt again.

The walls might protect you for the immediate future, but I don't think life behind those emotional barriers is going to be much fun for the rest of your life.

Loving someone means that you cede to them the power to hurt you, trusting that they won't. Sometimes they do. When Jenny ditched me for that preppy twerp from Christ School I thought my high school love life was over. Then I hooked up with Maggie, and when she and I broke up I felt the same way, and now I'm dating Debbie, and Eldon, and things are okay again. But each time I thought "I'm done with this love crap it hurts too much."

Instead of rebuilding and strengthening your walls, try totally removing them, using the wall stones to build a huge terrace, and invite the world to an awesome "See, I'm scarred but unbowed" party.

Now, having written all that, just let me find out this is really all about moles undermining a garden wall. Just let me find out, here!

Jonny
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Re: I don't know why I do it......  [message #45226 is a reply to message #45224] Sat, 22 September 2007 12:33 Go to previous messageGo to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

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Nope..... its not that.....

Just ignore me..... I get this way when I faal depression setting in.....



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Re: I don't know why I do it......  [message #45228 is a reply to message #45226] Sat, 22 September 2007 13:13 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Roger is currently offline  Roger

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Why is depression setting in? Is there anything I can help with?



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Re: I don't know why I do it......  [message #45239 is a reply to message #45226] Sat, 22 September 2007 20:08 Go to previous messageGo to next message
jaycracker is currently offline  jaycracker

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Then talk to us and share before depression hits!

Mike
Re: I don't know why I do it......  [message #45242 is a reply to message #45239] Sat, 22 September 2007 20:43 Go to previous messageGo to next message
jack is currently offline  jack

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Re: I don't know why I do it......  [message #45243 is a reply to message #45218] Sat, 22 September 2007 22:31 Go to previous messageGo to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

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uApparently Im not the only one that picked up on my mood.... this morning about 8:30am a group arrived and kid-napped me for a day at the zoo....

For those that know me.... I love the zoo....

It was a stressful day however because I was in a lot of physical pain and all the walking did nothing to make it ease up either....

I smiled as best i could all day.... I did some animal watching and some people watching as well.... It was a good day....

Unfortunatly on the way home they insisted on stopping at a chinese buffet and i tried a few things.... One dish however looked to be batter fried onion rings but turned out to be fried squid rings....

I am so allergic to this i became instantly with stomach cramps and a rock crushing migrane....

Im home now and have taked a handfull of pills to try to ease the headache....

I hope they work....



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Re: I don't know why I do it......  [message #45244 is a reply to message #45228] Sat, 22 September 2007 22:34 Go to previous messageGo to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

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Roger, if you could come on to your IM....

I'd like to talk with you....



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Re: I don't know why I do it......  [message #45245 is a reply to message #45243] Sun, 23 September 2007 02:05 Go to previous messageGo to next message
saben is currently offline  saben

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It's a pity you have such high allergies, I couldn't live without eating calamari.

My aunt has really bad allergies, but more in terms of her skin. She had 6 months of work last year from it. It's nasty.



Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
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Hope you're felling better.....  [message #45264 is a reply to message #45243] Sun, 23 September 2007 22:36 Go to previous message
E.J. is currently offline  E.J.

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