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hey guys...uh reeeeeally sori for the "silence"...i've been kinda busy lately...u know, finals and stuff...anyways, uhmm...how do u come out to someone? Like your ex-gf? Well i can't really call her my gf coz...umm i dunno it's just complicated....u see i reeeally like her (loveD her even) but u know...u suddenly get all confused coz u start feeling diffrent...i kinda shut her off...left her hangin...and she's hurting too..but i just couldn't tell her...
P.S. Curtis dude i didn't receive any email from u...sorry.
yama nashi, ochi nashi, imi nashi
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Im sorry, I didnt get a mail deamnon so it must be floating around cyberspace somewhere. If you wanna write me Its CrtsMathews@yahoo.com. Jon and I would like to talk to you.
Sweet dreams till sunbeams find you......
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As far as your gf. You need to sit down with her and tell her everything. Always the truth no mater how blunt you have to be. whatever happens from there will happen, but you know you have been honestwith her and yourself.
Sweet dreams till sunbeams find you......
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Massively excellent! Welcome back! It's afternoon where you live, right? I got the international day and night clock so I would know when my buds in Australia would be available.
Let us know what's on your mind, okay? Write to Curt, he's cool and our age. Write to me too if you want. I'm 17 and a senior in high school. For some reason my laptop doesn't like yahoo messenger so I do MSN if you want to IM. white-water-kid@hotmail.com but don't send mail there 'cause I never hardly ever check the box.
Sorry that I can't speak Tagalog or Spanish, but if you speak French I'll try to limp along with you.
Luv
Jonny
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HEY YOU! I'm supposed to be doing my Physics lab and you're suppose to be getting your beauty sleep for Jeff! ROFLMAO
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Before you come out to anybody I think you should ask yourself what you would do and how you would react if that person did not keep your secret. If your ex-g/f is mad at you this could be something she could use to hurt you if she wanted to. If you aren't ready to come out to the family and your parents and school and all the rest of your friends, then be very, very careful about who you tell.
Also, and I know this from bitter experience, girls have this network thing they do. They all know what's going on in each other's lives. Boys aren't that into communication, but girls live for news and dirt and gossip. You coming out to a girl would be on her network before you hung up the phone. Trust me on this. Girls DO NOT keep secrets about boys.
My experience wasn't about coming out because Eldon and I are totally in the closet, but it was about something else and in one day it was all over school.
Just watch out dude.
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ei jon...glad to be back:-)...i posted this round 9:30am i think...and it's exactly 2pm on my watch...yeah, maybe i should IM you guys one o these days...and uh no i don't speak French or Spanish...just English and Filipino..and a little Japanese...
[Updated on: Wed, 26 September 2007 05:40]
yama nashi, ochi nashi, imi nashi
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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Coming out is not a duty.
Do it for your reasons, when you feel you want to, to the people you want to tell, in your own way.
Do not do it because you think you ought to.
The way you describe this girl sounds like maybe she ought to hear, but you need to be sure that she loveD you too, and isn't just "some girl I used to hang with"
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Is it truly necessary to tell her? Would an alternate method be just to say you don't have the strong feelings towards her that you suspect she has towards you? You could tell her you love being with her and being her friend but the romantic interest just isn't there.
You will probably lose her friendship after this though because woman react very negatively towards being scorned. But you will at least have the satisfaction of releasing her from any affectations towards you. And you won't have to worry about her possibly gossiping about you. She may have suspicions but no sure knowledge.
Is this being dishonest? I don't think so. No one has the automatic right to know about your sexual identity and you have the right to inform only people of your choosing. So, choosing carefully is, I think, the key here. Remember - a thing "said" can't be "unsaid".
Youth crisis hot-line 866-488-7386, 24 hr (U.S.A.)
There are people who want to help you cope with being you.
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