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Okay, since all of you are so much more wisen and have been around so much longer, just was wondering if this thing that people call love, if it really exists. I mean the kind that we read about in stories, the passion the commitment, the love. Is it something that people yearned for, but couldn't find and so we just wrote a bunch of stories to fill that empty place inside? Or is there someone really out there for every man or woman, waiting to find or be found and to fall head over heels in love for now and forever. Or is society transformed into a thing were love is just jumping into bed with the first thing you and getting your rocks off?  ?? Does true love and love stories that never stop being written exist anymore?
There's a kind of a sort...cost
There's a couple of things get...lost
There are bridges you cross you didn't know you'd cross until you've crossed
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Oh, love exists all right ... though it does tend to crop up at the most inconvenient times and with the most inconvenient people! One of my two deepest and most meaningful relationships was with a guy who had originally been engaged to my best female friend (she broke off the engagement before he & I got together, though I think he'd been interested in me for some time).
I've been lucky enough to have had two deeply loving relationships in my life. But love is not a magic thing that solves all problems - all relationships need give-and-take, and some work, if they are to flourish. Falling in love is the start, not the end.
And yup, there are a lot of people around who are all about sex and nothing about love, but there still plenty of people of all ages who prefer to remain celibate than to have sex without love - I'm not the only one on this board, I know! But the commercial gay scene is not a good place to find such people - "coming out" groups, gay activity groups etc are a better bet. And, of course, there are gay couples around who originally got together just for sex, then discovered that they got on well, fell in love and became long-term partners - one such couple I know have just celebrated the first anniversary of their Civil Partnership.
I think that there isn't any formula. Love strikes where it will ... the thing is to be receptive when it does. For me, that is part of the point of reading stories ... to show some of the myriad of ways in which love can come about.
"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. ... Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night devoid of stars." Martin Luther King
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I have known Jeff since we were in the first grade. He is my bestest friend and I love him. About 2 years ago I started having different feelings about him. The love I felt for him started becoming not only emotional but also physical. It wasnt till a short time ago that a friend helped me discover that he felt the same way about me. Is love the physical act or sex. No! When Jeff is holding me and playing with my hair and telling me he loves me, thats a feeling no amout of sex can produce. Thats when I know with all my heart that I love him more than life. Will this last forever, I dont know. All I know is that we feel for each other the love these stories talk about. an emotion that goes so deep that words cant discribe it. Songs are written and poets try but they cant touch the essence of it.
There's a calmn surrender
to the rush of day
when the heat of the rolling world
can be turned away.
An enchanted moment,
and it sees me thru.
Its enough for this restless worrior
Just to be with you.
And can you feel the love tonight?
It is where we are.
Irs enough for this wide-eyed wanderer
that we got this far And can you feel the love tonight
how its laid to rest?
Its enough to make kings and vagabonds
believe the very best.
There's a time for everyone,
if they only learn,
That the twirling kaleidoscope,
moves us all in turn.
There's rhym and a reason
to the wild outdoors
when the heart of this star crossed voyager
beats in time with yours.
Elton John The Lion King
Sweet dreams till sunbeams find you......
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You know, I might be wrong but I think that the first part of really being in love is to be best friends. There is a poem I really like and it says a bunch.
Friends, are two hearts
Singing the same song.
So if one forgets the words,
the other can remind him.
Sweet dreams till sunbeams find you......
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13800
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Love is desperately inconvenient and does not respect gender, age or orientation.
And, when it strikes, it does hurt. It really hurts
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Mattie,
Love is real, not just for stories. And you are absolutely right. Love does come from being best friends first. It's a bonding of two hearts and then real sex occurs because it is giving the best you've got and feel to please your partner, that is the only real satisfying sexual experience. Your desires are willingly put aside to honor and bless your partner. What comes back to you from him is the same from him and this is what completes your life. It's not easy to get and even harder to keep but worth all the effort you put into it. The best written, really quality stories just reflect this and show you how it can be and should be. Don't give up. You never know when this will come into your life and it's more than worth waiting for. I hope you find it in your life soon and know the true happiness and joy in your heart.
Tad
Tad Durham
Belfast, Maine U S A
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love is a bunch of emotions crunched together it makes it hard to describe, stories only capture a climpse of it. there is so much more (good and bad) that words can't describe and only you will know when it happens.
I didn't know. It took me a long time to realize it. I have my partner. I always thought of him as the most beautiful thing in the world, but didn't realized i loved him so much till we were apart for a long time. He makes me feel so good. The sex is so amazing and that is because we share a bond...a special love i know is mutual. Tried with others but it just wasn't the same and the excitement quickly died.
I love my partner...even if we argue...i love him just the way he is.
You don't love someone because they are beautiful, they are beautiful because you love them.
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