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Death reunites  [message #46388] Sun, 28 October 2007 11:00 Go to next message
timmy

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I've been finding family. Yesterday I got the phone number of one of my cousins whom "no-one talks about". I hope he's coming to the funeral, not that anyone will recognise him because he is now a lady.

All my relatives except one seem to have judged him, and yet it is their problem.

I just can't imagine what it must have been like as a little girl with very macho older brother and macho older sisters (really!), to grow up in a little boy's body.

I hope he comes.


Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
Re: Death reunites  [message #46389 is a reply to message #46388] Sun, 28 October 2007 12:37 Go to previous messageGo to next message
acam is currently offline  acam

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I commiserate with you about your mother's death. My brother died before me so when my mother died I had to do all the administration. I do hope you get through it without too much pain.

The partner of one of my daughters went to school with a boy who has since become a girl. She is now Caroline and she and her friend Chris (another male to female trans-sexual) often visit them. Maybe we'll see them for the fireworks. I'm very glad my family are so accepting of them and that they feel comfortable with us. I confess I find it hard to understand - I couldn't want not to be as I am because it would be wanting the extinction of me.

But give her my sympathy and support. Caroline and Chris live in Reading.

Anthony
Re: Death reunites  [message #46390 is a reply to message #46389] Sun, 28 October 2007 12:42 Go to previous messageGo to next message
timmy

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I think only those who need to be released from one body into another can possibly understand. The rest of us have no way, even when it is explained, of knowing the agonies they go through inside.


Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
icon9.gif Re: Death reunites  [message #46405 is a reply to message #46388] Mon, 29 October 2007 03:31 Go to previous messageGo to next message
dartagnon is currently offline  dartagnon

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There is little that anyone can say in grief that truly fits the emotions that run through you. Nor is there anything that anyone can say that will either make the pain go nor ease the time when you carry that pain. At such times, the best that any of us can do is just sit with those who carry that burden of grief and help them carry it a while.

At one time or another we all must do the same. I'm sitting right beside you, Brother. So very many of us are. You aren't alone.

Robby


It's not the wolf you see you should fear, but all the ones he howls with. Don't be afraid of the song, but don't piss off the choir.
The judgement should be affirming  [message #46409 is a reply to message #46388] Mon, 29 October 2007 20:51 Go to previous message
Whitewaterkid is currently offline  Whitewaterkid

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I'm a boy, and I'm glad I'm a boy. I think all the boys I know would say the same, and our girlfriends and the other girls we know would prolly say that they are glad that they are girls.

But sometimes I think a person's basic nature and the body that contains that basic nature get mismatched somehow. I don't understand it, but I believe it happens. I think that a "natural girl" who grows up in a boy's body, while knowing that she really is naturally a girl must be constantly at odds with herself.

It takes tremendous personal courage to undergo a change like that; from being one sex physically to another. Men and women who have that courage should serve as examples for us, and not objects of ridicule and humor.

We should rejoice and be glad with them, that they have found the courage to recreate their bodies to match their true selves.

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