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My mother's husband (not my father) is dying. Apparently he has a severe brain hemorrage. They said it is worse than a stroke. It is inoperable and they have taken him off life support. Everyone is just waiting for him to die. I never really knew him. They married long after I had left home in Ohio and moved to LA. Even when I visited he kept his distance. But he made my mother happy and I guess that's what counts. Please keep her in your thoughts.
Thanks and think good thoughts,
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"e", I am sure you Mum will be terribly sad and you will be here rock. She did have a good time from what you said, better than living a life alone. Send her my sympathies for her coming pain..
People have a habit of changing your direction through life
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So far there is no word this morning so I guess that means he made it trough the night. the last time I spoke with my mother she said the doctors had told her it might take two or three days for him to pass. For her sake I'm hoping that it is sooner rather than later. She made a rather odd observation though, she said that 23 seems to be the 'magic' number as far as marriage goes. She was 23 years old when she married my father, they were married for 23 years when he died, and that was 23 years ago. Strange.
Think good thoughts,
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My thoughts are with your mother and with you
because you don't want her to have to grieve.
The waiting is so difficult.I know you are
being a great comfort to her. I wish I could
help.
Love~
smith
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My mother's husband has died. It's now a matter of getting her through the funeral and then getting on with her life. Thanks again for the support.
Think good thoughts,
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I'm so sorry but at least it was quick.
My heart goes out to your mother as she
will now try to mend and pick up the pieces.
Hug her for me-
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I'd love to hug her for you smith, but it may have to be a long distance hug. I'm about 2400 miles away and it's beginning to look like I may not be able to get there. But I certainly appreciate your support. At least she still has my two brothers living nearby.
What a time for LAX to be closed down. No word yet on when it will re-open after the shooting there this morning. Even if it opens in time it may be impossible to get a flight.
Think good thoughts,
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My adoptive father sat at his mother's death-bed maybe about ten years ago now. She was 88 years old and had recently gone through a bleeding ulcer surgery, and her body probably was too old to cope with the strain. She had asked to have the IV taken away, and it took a few days for her to pass despite that (and she wasn't really at her best mentally at that time either due to fluid loss and the morphine they had to give her for the pain).
It was REALLY rough for my adoptive father, he never speaks of it but I still know. She was an extremely clear-headed person before that happened (and I liked her a lot), but back then they didn't have Losec and similar drugs, so surgery was the only option and she didn't survive. 
I know how you feel.
-Lenny
"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."
-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
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Is that they get answered in the right way, though not always the way we hope for.
The real thing I wish for is that all who loved him and all whom he loved find peace of mind and the ability to celebrate his life and their own lives. And that they move ahead, but not "on" with their own lives knowing they loved hm and he loved them.
Those whom he simply touched, I hope they may see him with kindness.
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