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Dealing with unwelcome behaviour  [message #47947] Tue, 01 January 2008 10:19 Go to next message
timmy

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It should have become abundantly clear that we do not deal well collectively with bad behaviour. People even leave or contemplate leaving the forum. So I have a suggestion.

Ignore the behaviour and do not, however tempting, however much it stings, do not reply to it.

The possible exception is a firm but polite "please stop doing that," though I am undecided about that.

Move on. Post other threads or rely to other posters in the thread where the behaviour is unwelcome, but avoid the temptation to be drawn into an unwinnable pissing contest.


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Re: Dealing with unwelcome behaviour  [message #48481 is a reply to message #47947] Sun, 20 January 2008 00:43 Go to previous messageGo to next message
JimB is currently offline  JimB

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How quickly we forget.
Re: Dealing with unwelcome behaviour  [message #48482 is a reply to message #47947] Sun, 20 January 2008 01:03 Go to previous message
Teddy is currently offline  Teddy

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Excellent approach. Doing so will probably cause one of two things to happen.

* The person behaving badly will find it angering that his posting has not caused the stir he was hoping for and escalate...

* The person will see he is not being responded to and reevaluate, perhaps recognizing the behavior for what it was...

Hopefully it will be the latter, but as a friend on another site I help moderate once told me, "Don't feed the troll!" Very Happy

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