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I mentioned NOBODY by name or inference in the posting about Eldon. Does the shoe fit? Then wear it.
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
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Shall we just stop this direction please? Sniping at folk, by name, or anonymously, is not a welcome behaviour.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Welome back, Eldon. I've missed your avatar.
Hugs
N
I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.
…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.
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The place hasn't been the same without the farmboy! 
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There are people who want to help you cope with being you.
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... along with his warped sense of humor.
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Ah, yes! I believe they teach classes in animal husbandry. So I suppose it's only appropriate to perform the husbandly duties! ;-D
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There was a farmer up in Virginia that practiced animal husbandry.... until they caught him at it.
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To which the standard reply is: "Good heavens, Officer, is it midnight already?"
Hugs
N
[Updated on: Thu, 10 January 2008 08:11]
I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.
…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.
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Dear Donny,
What's warped about it? Or any of us, for that matter?
Love,
Anthony
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His sense of humor isn't so much warped as it is odd. He's witty and funny without being mean or cutting down people, and there are very few guys in our school who understand him. Living out on a farm, as an only child, Eldon started reading very early, and never stopped. I think sometimes he remembers every word he has ever read. He's so totally awesome. He finds these ancient pictures, and then does things to them and creates the most outrageous captions. He's posted a few of them here. And then that thing he wrote about the assault on Twinkie Ridge was so typically Donny I still laugh about it. He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
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>He's the best thing that ever happened to me.
I wish this internet thingy had been around when I was your age. It would have done wondrous things to my self esteem to read the loving banter between you three guys and your acceptance of one another and who you are. There are no doubt many lurkers of your age that take heart from what they read when you guys post. Especially if they haven't been as fortunate as you in finding someone or have been too scared to try. So whether you have thought about it or not, you guys have been great therapy for some mixed-up, questioning young people. If Eldon is the best thing that ever happened to you, you may all be the best thing that's happened to a number of young guys. So... keep posting - all of you.
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Jon, Curtis and I know for a fact that there are other younger guys who never post things here, and maybe aren't even registered. They have written to Jon and me about school and their families and how hard things are for them trying to come to terms with what their bodies and hearts are telling them they need, and the mental hurdles all that causes. It's very bad for boys our age who are being raised in "Christian" homes. Jon is very lucky because his parents actually saw us in bed together in a position that left no doubt in their minds about the exact nature of our relationship, and they were fine with it. My dad knows about Jon and me, but my mom, for all that I love her and for all that she's really a wonderful mother, would just never be able to accept this "thing" in her son. She's too Southern Baptist. But then jon's parents, and my dad were all raised as Episcopalians, and they're a little different from the more fundamentalist churches.
You know that Jon wrote the letter to Jeff that got Curtis and Jeff together? Curtis had been talking to Jonny, and confessed this feeling for his best friend, like Jon and me, and then Jon asked him if he would like Jon to write and break the ice, and Curtis gathered up mega amounts of courage and said ok, and then everything fell into place. So that's one good thing that the forum did for two guys, and now we got Curtis as this wicked cool friend, and the other guys too.
There's guys all over who are scared of what their parents and friends are goiing to think and say if it came out they were gay or bi. Being bi is natural Jon and I think and most guys are bi at least for a while. But for Jon and me, well we knew when the time got there when the fooling around and the messing around turned into something way more important, and we started talking about how we can manage to stay together after college, in rural North Carolina.
He got one thing wrong way around though. He's the best thing that ever happened to me!!
Now I really do have to start the Calculus II homework. No slack in these classes this semester for either of us.
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
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That is more than I could have hoped for when I set the forum up. I knew, hoped, that things like the ripple effect you've created would happen. I grew up in terror, perhaps similar to the religious homes you describe, though without religion. I knew no gay folk, and I suppressed who I am almost all my life. I damaged myself by doing it.
While I knew when I set it up that I am no particular role model (and I am not setting you guys up as poster children for being gay) I knew that the various folk who came would act as role models, different folk as models for different folk.
I've often said that this forum is more for those who lurk than those who post. Every time I've said it there have been several folk who have failed to understand how unimportant we all are individually. You've provided us with information that says "Those who lurk and read without posting have been helped by the people here." Yes, we have a go at solving our own issues here, but what we do is help others identify with us when they see similar issues. Even if they never write to us it gives them some form of ease.
And, though we do have fights here, those also show that we're human. I wish they didn't happen, but they are inevitable, though somewhat unpleasant.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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