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Hey everyone. It's me again.
I'm currently relaxed, and listening to a song I like. Can I ask you all something? Is it true that most people think that all gay people like to do is jack off and have sex?
I hate the topic, but I'm wondering what you all think.
Currently, there's snow on the trees outside from when it snowed last night. It's a beautiful image. I wish I had a camera for it. There are plenty of other ways to spend your time then thinking about -it- all the time. Why do people want it? I don't understand it really.. Either that, or I don't want to understand it.
And who was the bright one who invented porn? Remind me to slap him.
There's too much of it, and it really doesn't sit well with me. It's way to easy to get to, and anyone can get to it. You can even buy it from stores, and movies about it. That's not right, to me anyway.
I know that I always ask the question 'why' somewhere along in my posts, and I'm sorry for that. It's not that I'm curious, I don't -need- to know, I just want to, though I don't know why.. Perhaps it's a way to fill the void I have.
I don't think I'm going to have a relationship. Is that wrong, in any way? I just don't think I'd need one. It's not that I like being alone, but I'm just not the type of person that would like to be in a relationship.
Piano's are nice too. Giving us peaceful notes to listen to. It makes me happy that we have them.
Anyway, if any of you have any thoughts on this, please comment.
~Josh~
PS: Please don't say you love me...
21.
Love who you want to.
~Josh~
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Dear Josh,
No, I don't think so. There has been a huge change in the way the average person thinks about gay people over the last few years. I don't think most people think that any more than they think they are all camp or effeminate any more.
And I agree that it is too easy to spend too much time thinking about it. But when I really, really wanted it there was no use trying to ignore that and when I was like that there was no internet and no easy access to pornography and I still couldn't help thinking about it. And maybe it's nothing to do with being gay - most young men think about sex quite often.
But you don't have to if you don't feel those urges. In fact you are lucky not to (if you don't).
And as for a relationship - well why should you? That's the sort of thing one has to want quite badly to get it. They don't grow on trees. You don't want one - fine. But you do need friends. Don't get lonely.
And, yes, listen to music, draw pictures, go for walks, play the piano, swim, go out in a boat, argue about what life is for with friends - do what pleases you. Don't ever feel you have to do what other people think you are bound to do.
I won't say I love you - because I don't - but I wish you well. And that's what I mean by ending my posts with 'love'.
Anthony
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Josh *Emptiness and Agony...* wrote:
> Is it true that most people think that all gay people like to do is jack off and have sex?
Much much less true that it used to be! In most places, most people now know one or more out gay men ... and know that they spend much of their time pretty much doing exactly the same as straight people. Even my 76-year-old mother has a (civil partnered) gay couple next door, and when they come round for drinks the conversation covers everything from art to politics to holidays ... I'm pretty sure that jacking off and having sex don't come into it!
There are still a few people and places that haven't caught up yet ... but it's mainly older (and predominantly less educated) people.
> I don't think I'm going to have a relationship. Is that wrong, in any way? I just don't think I'd need one. It's not that I like being alone, but I'm just not the type of person that would like to be in a relationship.
Not in the least! Different people have different ways of doing things ... for me, what works best is to have someone I'm crazy-in-love-with, but not to live with them. Sex is great - but I had a relationship of over a dozen years which didn't include it.
All I would caution is not to get too hung up on being definite about what suits you: if you meet someone wonderful, be prepared to explore what develops between you ... you'll know if it feels right to do so, or not, as the case may be.
"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. ... Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night devoid of stars." Martin Luther King
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Thanks Anthony. I liked your post.
I'm glad that people are changing the way they think about gay people. I myself, am still not sure if I am gay, as I've never been on a date in my life. And I don't think I will to be honest. I just don't think I need to.
As for what I like doing, here's a list.
I like playing video games, and listening to music. I also like looking at the sunset each night, though I have rarely done that. I love the winter months, because I think snow on the trees we have here is quite beautiful.
I agree with you. I don't think I need a relationship, and if I don't want one, then I won't get into one.
Thanks for posting.
~Josh~
21.
Love who you want to.
~Josh~
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I agree.
Thanks for posting. I wish there were more gay people around where I live. There may be, and I just don't know about it, but it's still fine.
Thanks again for posting.
~Josh~
21.
Love who you want to.
~Josh~
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It seems in every group there are a few that want to act up and shock people with their actions. When gays act up it seems to end up being in a negative sexual way. The Gay Pride Parades with the troop of hunks marching down the street in jock straps and bare bottoms don't represent who I am as a gay man. In Los Angeles we have more than our share of those who would do most anything to get on the 6 o'clock news. They don't help gay exceptance or my image as a gay man. Charlie and I are respected and treated like everyone else in this area where we have lived for 35 years. I'm sure that some suspect that I may be gay but have never asked.
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Dear Josh,
Gosh that made me feel good. Thank you very much.
And, by the way, I wasn't kissed till I was twenty and other things took even longer so you are in good company (the best, actually  .
Love,
Anthony
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