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may i be depressed
and eldon{et al} i kno ur probly not in the mood for a depressed yankee boy but i just need someone to talk too
my issue is
i am not as strong as i look
im actually quite soft
years of abuse caused it i guess
and i want someone stronger
then me and bigger then me just to hold me
but tony asks me to always be there for him
and like be the strong one
and i cant do that much anymore
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Huggles Jordan. It isn't easy being the strong one for another. Sometimes we all feel like a little kid that just wants someone strong to hold us for a change.
Youth crisis hot-line 866-488-7386, 24 hr (U.S.A.)
There are people who want to help you cope with being you.
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please pauly can i have that
*begs*
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You need to talk to Tony and get him to understand that sometimes he needs to be strong when you are weak. Mostly Jeff is the strong one and he holds and comforts me, but sometimes I have to be the strong one and hold him and tell him everything is ok. Not as much as he does me but still I do cause we have to support each other. You need to talk to Tony and he needs to understand. Communication is 90% of a relationship. He has to understand and know your needs just like you need to know his.
Sweet dreams till sunbeams find you......
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Rather than have one guy always being strong for the other, get together and find a way to be strong for each other, together. Curtis is totally correct when he said that communication is the key to any relationship. When Jon and I went through that hideous time a month or so ago, we stopped talking. Communication is key, and Toni needs to hear it from you that sometimes you'll be the one leaning on him.
Can I say something? Rather than constantly wring your hands and cry on each other's shoulders, try working together to work through the issues that are making you depressed and sad. I think that sometimes guys get so used to being depressed and bummed out that they actually get comfortable in that state, because they're so used to it. It's almost like they're "comfortable being miserable."
Like all the rest of us at this stage in our lives, things get dramatized and overblown by hormones and we like to see things as black and white, all good or all bad. The reality is that all of life has good times and bad times.
But one thing, don't worry about running out of compassion for Toni. We're not like a plant that only hs one bloom to offer. The more flowers we trim off of ourselves, the more we have to give. I bet you're the kind of dude who uses hedge shears to cut the flowers off himself to give where they're needed. Keep doing that Jordie. They'll keep growing, I promise.
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Thank you Eldon
last night my best friend charlie talked to me and set me right in the head...
i owe him and y'all an apology now that everything makes sense in my mide
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Jordan wrote:
i owe him and y'all an apology
Apology, shmapology! You did the right thing in raising the matter here and the proof is the excellent advice that you got from your peers.
Good luck to you, Jordan.
J F R
The paradox has often been noted that the United States, founded in secularism, is now the most religiose country in Christendom, while England, with an established church headed by its constitutional monarch, is among the least. (Richard Dawkins, 2006)
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