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In one of the previous message threads someone commented that although the subject matter was not particularly to everyones taste it did indeed provoke a degree of discussion.
Along these lines I am caused to ask just what brings a person to respond to a comment and also what impells him/her to not?
Also what impetus precipitated each of you to cross the line from lurker to participant?
I for one lurked for almost a year before sumoning the courage to reach out and when I finally did it was like a curtain being drawn away, letting in a brighter light than I was very used to.
But, those first few words seemed to be the hardest. True I knew and understood the annonimity of the internet, and I also knew that some of the people I jurked over might not be who they seemed to be, and conversly, they had no way to know me.
But none the less it was a very traumatic experience for me, a life changing experience.
Your thoughts are welcome.
Marc
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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When I first found this place I read the threads on the first page and saw how friendly and helpful people in here actually are. There was one discussion where I felt I could contribute. I had been looking for a place like this so deciding that I could go from lurker to participant the very first day I found the place was easy. I've lurked on other boards for much longer before posting. On some I'm still lurking. But I think it was the atmosphere in here that caused me to post. As for what causes me to repond to a particular comment, that can vary. Usually it's because I think I have something constructive to say. Sometimes I just want to add a bit of humor. Others, it's because I've gotten to know the poster. There are probably other reasons I can't think of right now.
Think good thoughts,
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as for me....well i really only lurked for 2 or 3 days befor i was moved to post anything. i personally love interaction with other people and this venue is best for me. alot of friends of mine say i am very easy to talk to and am a good listener...i guess this is when i get to talk.
the sweetest part about this place is the folks that post here. the opinions very like day and night but the spirit is mostly along the lines of being helpful.
if you are a lurker please join us and beome part of what is going on here....we all matter and we all have some thing to say.
oh well back to story time
later
the
timmer
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trevor
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Mostly like "e" said - if I have nothing to contribute, I don't post, or if the thread is uninteresting/irrelevant to me.
I never really was worried about posting even though I'm shy as hell in R/L. But, I lurked long enough to figure out the "etiquette." I was and still am a bit shy or make mistakes because I'm such a newbie at the gay thing and have no experience there - pretty unworldly all-around I guess.
It's great to see you newer guys so involved! I haven't been around much myself lately due to lack of time.
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Michael Simon
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Again Trevor *grins* you almost say what I mean, even though I am not shy in real life. But posting here was a great step. As Tim's old board was the second thing I ever posted on and was horribly scared that something may go wong  ( silly me )
Sorry that I have been absent for so long, but lots of stress here lately.
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mihangel
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Michael Simon
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Registered: January 1970
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I am in the middle of exams..the stress will continue for more weeks  anyone wants to write them for me or study for me?
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I think it was because of what I found on Tim's site that made posting here seem like a difference could be made. I know that most of my posts are not full of advice, or answering questions, but they are honest words (as most all other post here) whichcan and do help through their honesty. One thing is for sure at this MB, you will not see everyone following the other like sheep. Disagreements, though civilized, are common on this board; and that helps expand knowledge on both sides. Persuasive arguements for both sides can be found and are discouraged. I think it's name says it all, A Place of Safety.
Hugs, Charlie
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marc
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Needs to get a life! |
Registered: March 2003
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I know it sounds strange, but for me it was a very difficult step to take.
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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Registered: March 2012
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of this friendship you all had going on and I thought that since I was a GIRL that was impossible. Well -HEY!
It was 2 years ago, not many females were around you know, so I just lied and made up this story and unfortunnnately it all went to damn far and I still fell horrible about that.
Anyway shit happens. Tim I mailed you.
Josie
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hey josie,
well 2 years is a long time to be beating yourself up for wanting and trying to fit in.
my suggestion: stop and be your self, who knows people my really like you just for the person your are.
oh well just my 2 cents worth.
later
tim...of the USA
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I don't care! I like you anyway.
We've talked as you know, and you seem like a really nice person, so don't worry. Be a girl, and be a part of our group as much as you like! You're very welcome here, I know not just I think so but many others too!
Hugs!
-Lenny
PS: Feel free to email me any time, if you want!
"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."
-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
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Fear is a strong emotion, motivating people to do (or not to do)a great many things. Overcoming that same fear is one of the bravest thing anyone can do. I for one applaud you and invite anyone else to jump in if you feel up to it.
A Place of Safety is such a great thing if it helps just one person. It probably helps a heck of alot more than one.
Thanks Tim
"Be excellent to each other, and, party on dudes"!
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I have only lurked for a few minutes but having corresponded with Tim I am emboldened. Up to now I have been afraid of Chat rooms so this is my first. My reasons? To find some answers perhaps and to meet like minded people. Whilst not too traumatic a step I hope it may be life changing.
Friendship is the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts or measure words
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Funny thing :) 
welcome back, Michael. Hope the stress is over 
Nawwwww :( 
Re: Discussion... In general and for its own sake.... 
