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a question for all  [message #49928] Mon, 14 April 2008 21:36 Go to next message
Senne is currently offline  Senne

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how would you react if lets say a friend who you trusted deeply introduces you to someone and you begin to have feelings for the person but then the friend reveals that it was all a hoax

how would anyone here react...
i know how i did
Re: a question for all  [message #49929 is a reply to message #49928] Mon, 14 April 2008 21:49 Go to previous messageGo to next message
acam is currently offline  acam

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Dear Jordan,

I would want to feel deeply hurt, but would have to be sure what they meant by it. Were they doing it out of malice? Were they curious about how you would react? Was there some other motive? Did they have the same intentions at the beginning as they did at the end?

If you have been hurt the question is how do you recover?

If they are both shown to be really nasty people it could actually be good that *now* you have their measure.

Love,
Anthony
Re: a question for all  [message #49930 is a reply to message #49929] Mon, 14 April 2008 22:02 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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It was that she{the friend} enjoys causing pain to others and reveling in it
Re: a question for all  [message #49935 is a reply to message #49928] Mon, 14 April 2008 23:40 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Jordie, mark it up to experience, and try not to let it get under your skin too badly. It's going to sting for a while but I know you can pull beyond it. Don't worry about the girl. She'll get hers sooner or later. You can bet she pulls the same shit with people she knows personally, and someday somebody is going to turn the tables.

Just go beyond it. People like that aren't worth your mental and emotional investment. If you let it get to you, she's still controlling you remotely rather than directly.
Re: a question for all  [message #49938 is a reply to message #49935] Mon, 14 April 2008 23:59 Go to previous message
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donny...

s'all okay now i think
im okay
i beat this
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