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We learned today of someone who is seriously ill in hospital.
If any of you know ACFan from JeffsFortboard or Comicality's chat room, it is his 17yo nephew, who has suffered an internal bleed so bad that he's almost certainly going to lose one arm as a result, and he's too weak even to operate on at the moment. That's how bad it is.
I'd just ask those that will to remember him in your thoughts and prayers to a speedy recovery, and hope that nothing worst befalls him.
Mike.
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timmy
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poor lad. I'll join you in your thoughts
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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I love AC and this breaks my heart. I've been there and know the sense of helplessness he is feeling now. All he can do is wait and watch. My prayers are with him and with Danny. I do so want him to make a recovery as 17 is way, way to soon to be leaving this world. Huggles to you both.
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Sure our thoughts are with this dude. But what happened and how did internal bleeding get to the point of him losing his arm?
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The only thing we know is that he felt odd after lifting something heavy at work. His mother found him the next day. If you want greater detail check out jeffsfortboard.us look for the thread by Jeff in Ginger's Stall.
Danny is under the surgeon's knife right now, but because they can't get his BP up, they don't give him much of a chance, so sincere prayers may be his only hope. Sorry to be the bearer of sad news.
Mike
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They are taking him off life support. They are giving him anywhere between a couple of hours and a couple of days. Imagine if that was your 17yo boy... It would break my heart I know. :'-(
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These are the hours that will be tearing people's hearts out. Let's send them waves of comfort.
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Let Us Pray.......
Almighty God and Father
One of your sons stands
on the threshold of his death
May he be welcomed by choirs
of angels singing praises
and into your loving and gentle arms
May Peace and serenity enter his heart
and his soul be released from all burden
We ask this in your name.....
Amen
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Very nice prayer, Jordan. I have repeated it just now silently.
aqua
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love. Washington Irving
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timmy
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Not really any useful words here.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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I went to that site you mentioned, but I couldn't find my way around once there. Could you give the definitive URL for the details? Thanks.
My Father is a physician. I asked him about this given just the details you provided here, and spontaneous or trauma induced internal bleeding might be caused by either of the two most common bleeding disorders hemophilia or van Willebrand's Disease. While both can be life-threatening, modern clotting drugs and treatments have reduced fatality rates significantly. My father questioned the wisdom of surgical procedures without stabilization of blood pressure and location and clotting of the original trauma, and wondered why, if the guy was diagnosed with a bleeding disorder, he was doing physical labor of any kind which might cause trauma to muscles. Normally persons with hemophilia or van Willebrand's Disease lead very sedate and quiet lives, and are also taught from a very early age to self-administer clotting medications in emergencies.
In the meantime, we hold him in our thoughts. :-/
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I will try to explain based on the limited information I have gathered. It seems that Danny suffered a testicular rupture while lifting something. Evidently this caused internal bleeding. I believe most of this occurred while he was sleeping, hence it getting so far advanced. By the time he was discovered his left arm had turned gray from lack of blood. This was the obvious, outward sign of the trauma. But it obviously wasn't just his arm that suffered from lack of oxygen but was more than likely systemic. I will give you the specific url on Jeff's Fort so that you can trace the events.
Darn it. Their server appears to be down. Well, I'll post the url just as soon as I'm able to establish a connection.
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http://www.jeffsfortboard.com/index.php?showtopic=5345&st=0
I'm editing this to say please be persistent in trying to load the url if it doesn't load right away. What I thought was the site being down is likely a huge number of people trying to log on. This is a mega-forum for a large number of gay story sites and as such sees a lot of activity. There will be an increase of activity due to this tragedy. The character, Kyle Richardson, in the clan short series is modeled after Danny and so many people from around the world feel they know him personally.
[Updated on: Mon, 28 April 2008 05:28]
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timmy
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If it whitescreens, try again. Or let's rely on Paul to put a link there and just continue here. The link you need, Paul, is http://tinyurl.com/6dvw8m which goes directly to the head of this thread.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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It finally happened. The following message appeared on our main page today:
Urgent Fort Family News:
We mourn the loss of ACFan's 17 year old nephew Danny, who passed on to the next world on the 28th of April, 2008.
******
"Rest in peace little buddy; I'll meet you to play in the rain again someday."
Our thoughts go now to ACFan and the family. This is so sad. :-/
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timmy
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It is unbelievable that an otherwise healthy lad can die from something this simple. My heart is with his family.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Thank you Timmy. This comes on top of us having our own scare with Curtis. To you young dudes here, take care of yourselves. You don't want to create this kind of heartache. Here is a copy of the post I left at Jeff's Fort for all of us here:
>Timmy at iomfats.org and the board posters at his forum, "A Place of Safety," want to extend their condolences to you, AC. Timmy asked me to place this url here so that you could read the messages of love and support. Some of our board members are Danny's age and it is scary to think we could lose one of them so easily. God Bless you my friend and hugs from around the world.
>"Thoughts and prayers for a friend" http://tinyurl.com/6dvw8m
(And our thanks to Crackerwriter for starting the thread.)
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Just a brief explaination, then a request:
Danny was sent home from his work on friday due to what they thought was a pulled muscle and or pain in his groin.
The next day his mother found him coughing/throwing up blood and with lips turning blue.
They rushed him to hospital but he lost conciousness before getting there.
When I came online saturday he was in critical condition with very low blood pressure and they knew his arm (right or left, not sure) was dead due to lack of blood flow.
Sunday, they tried to operate as they could not risk leaving it any longer, even though his bp was still too low. Sadly, there was nothing that could be done at that point. He was taken off life support shortly afterwards, and passed away early monday morning.
My request, and this is for all, young and old:
If you injure yourself in work, playing games, whatever: let your family know. They can check on you through the night, and if things start getting worse, there is more chance of being helped.
This is nothing against Danny, for how was he to know, but in light of this event, please keep that in mind.
On behalf of Jeff's Fort Boards and ACfan, we thank you for your prayers and thoughts. AC and his family are in need of them still, especially as he has a 13 hour drive to get to his sister's house (Danny's mother)
God Bless,
Ilúvantír
The Fort Family
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I couldn't help but to think of this song.
Danny boy sung by Declan Galbraith http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h03iH-Bsvj8
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I am so very sorry. I found myself crying for someone I dont even know. Im going to stop this afternoon and light a candle for him and his family. May he find peace with god.
Sweet dreams till sunbeams find you......
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It's been a rough couple of days. I've been watching three different message boards, responding to tons of emails and have even been watching two different chats to keep as many as I could up to date. ACFan is now with his family and the final arrangements are underway. He's doing ok and has been checking in.
The outpouring has been overwhelming and seeing how many forums outside of our own showing so much compassion and friendship... It's brought a tear to my own eye. It started when I had to increase the bandwidth allotment for our own forum and then after being told about the support I wasn't even aware of right here. AC hasn't seen it all yet and once reality sets in, I know your support is going to help him through all this. It really will.
*HUGZ* Thank-You Mike, Tim and everyone else who has posted... It really does mean the world...
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timmy
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I'm glad we were able to offset a little of your bandwidth with the small things we have done here.
This death is somehow more perplexing than any untimely death I've heard of. Not just an accident, but one that seemed so trivial.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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This has been a tragic death, but at least there has been some good come of it, which has been unexpected in a way. It has brought together a sense of 'togetherness' perhaps between several similar sites as ours.
It's such a relief to see people who don't even know the person concerned, (yes Curtis, my reaction was just the same as yours), lending their support and prayers to try to help not only Danny in this case, but his family too. They will see the posts you have made, and I'm very sure that they would thank you all. At least I can personally say thankyou to everyone who posted, and also anyone else who held Danny in their thoughts.
Thank you all.
Mike.
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My condolences to you and your families, if permitted may I post this on another site?
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timmy
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I'm sure no-one will object to this sad matter being made even better known. I feel so sad for the boy and the fear he must have felt. His is the hand I want to hold even though I never knew him and may even not have liked him nor he me.
Many hands reaching out to his family will not bring him back, but they will show them something special. I hope they take some small comfort from the very little we do.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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JeffsFort
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I have received quite a few Emails and such asking if they could donate money toward the cost of the forums in Danny's name (since JFB is supported in part by donations). We were all touched at the offers but, donations in Danny's name should go to the people who would need it the most, directly to his family. I mean, right at the moment Danny's Mom could use all the help she can get to get through this.
For those of you who have asked, memorial donations can be made to the following address:
Daniel Stopper
c/o Palmer Funeral Home
2528 Mishawaka Avenue
South Bend, IN 46615
If you aren't comfortable mailing directly, we can accept donations through the donation button on http://jeffsfortboard.com and see to it that money goes to the right place. In that instance, all we ask is that you also send an Email to hosting@csuproductions.com just to let us know that you are donating for Danny's family. Then we can be sure your donation goes to the right place.
All donations will be used towards funeral and medical expenses.
In addition, there will be a link added on the memorial message board that we have created at http://danielstopper.com that will allow donations through PayPal to the family directly as soon as we can get a new account set up. Those donations will be sent to Lynn (Danny's mom) directly.
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