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Something to think about.  [message #50751] Wed, 04 June 2008 19:07 Go to next message
Josh is currently offline  Josh

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“Are you okay?”
One of the most common phrases used in the todays and tomorrows. Define “okay,” by yout standards. It's okay to cry when you want to. Everyone does. Those who kill their emotions and don't care for life are hurt much more then you or me. We all need friends, so why aren't we? The child who sits in the corner, with bruises on her wrists by her father, is silently crying out for anyone to save her. We all try to live our lives as best as we can. Are we the fakers of the world? We speak and write these words yet in reality cannot speak like -this- and shut anyone else out. We are fake, in the sense that we do not and cannot come foreward and say what we want and feel. We -want- friendship, and we -want- to be in love. Is such a concept too broad? Do we need to broaden our expectations even furthur because all our cries fall on deaf ears?

We cry inside on a daily basis because we cannot speak what's on our minds. Do you wish it would end? All the sadness? Pain? Torture of living your meaningless exsitence? If so, there's a knife. Do what you wish, if that is your desire. I'll be sad to see you go. But I will be more sad to know that you didn't have the guts to keep living in your own made hellhole wtih family and friends.

We are like sand. We absorb the earth's tears with each rain. The heavens are not happy with us. We have stained this once beautiful Mother Earth. We, as children are hurting her because of the drugs we injest in our systems. The alcohol that remains on your breath from the night before. But you liked it, didn't you? That was your special high for the night. The sweet taste of vodka on your lips. How you indulged yourself with the pleasureable taste of the wine.

Look at your kids. They idolize you and who you are. They see through your eyes, and speak the words you spoke to them as children. They remembered the violence you used on their mother. Your wife. Did you not vow to protect her and keep her from harm? And now you look at that bottle of Bicardi in your hand, and you take another swig to erase the pain you know you cannot forget. You are a selfish man.

And child. Look at you. You are but 16 years old. You are young, full of vibrant energy, yet here you are, trying to get pregnant, having sex with men for your own pleasure. Don't try to hide it. You know you enjoy it. And you crave it again, letting your once precous body be used for other purposes. Does this feel right to you? Is this the life you want?

And you. Hollywood movie star. Vying for attention from the crowds, you put on a good show, while wondering why you are even there to begin with. Does it feel right to you, to be in front of that camera for all to see? Even you can't hide the bruises on your face from the husband who hits you out of “love”; what bullshit. You are precious! And you are eating right out of his hand because you “love” him. Love gets old real quick darling. Yet you still cant find yourself to leave him. For that, you are a fool.


If you want to be in a relationship, you need to be ready. Ready for the possibility to commit to this person. Be comfortable with who you are. Don't let men push you around. More then half of them are scumbags anyway...

~Josh~



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Love who you want to.

~Josh~
Re: Something to think about.  [message #50752 is a reply to message #50751] Wed, 04 June 2008 19:21 Go to previous messageGo to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

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Do you live your life as best you can?

Or do you live it scared of people, scared of places, just plain scared?

You go on and on about how everyone should live... Why not start living yourself...? And then begin to give advice on how it's done...



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Re: Something to think about.  [message #50753 is a reply to message #50752] Wed, 04 June 2008 19:52 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Josh is currently offline  Josh

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I am living. I am scared to talk to poeple so I avoid them at amy time possible. But I'm slowly learning to get over that.

~Josh~



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Love who you want to.

~Josh~
Re: Something to think about.  [message #50754 is a reply to message #50753] Wed, 04 June 2008 20:57 Go to previous messageGo to next message
acam is currently offline  acam

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Well, Josh, you are talking to people here even if it's harder when you are face to face.

I think you are getting better at it too. You are better at saying what you mean and you are better at what it is that you choose to mean.

I feel for you because I sense that you are having a hard time - but you are gradually overcoming the difficulties.

But I don't want to say too much. I hope I don't embarrass you.

Love,
Anthony
Re: Something to think about.  [message #50756 is a reply to message #50754] Wed, 04 June 2008 21:37 Go to previous messageGo to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

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Actually, Josh is typing... which is far and away from talking... Which is verbal in actuality...

Typing is safe, remote, distinctly apart from any interpersonal interaction as intimate as talking.



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Re: Something to think about.  [message #50757 is a reply to message #50756] Wed, 04 June 2008 23:06 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Josh is currently offline  Josh

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Marc.

Ity's quite difficult to "talk" to someone who is half the way across the world from you.

~Josh~



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Love who you want to.

~Josh~
Re: Something to think about.  [message #50758 is a reply to message #50757] Wed, 04 June 2008 23:08 Go to previous messageGo to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

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That is precisely my point.

You can write to them....

But that is not talking....

You could however call them on the phone.... That would be talking.



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Re: Something to think about.  [message #50759 is a reply to message #50758] Wed, 04 June 2008 23:51 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Josh is currently offline  Josh

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This is true.

~Josh~



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Love who you want to.

~Josh~
Re: Something to think about.  [message #50760 is a reply to message #50751] Thu, 05 June 2008 00:33 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Senne is currently offline  Senne

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Josh you know your motives are yours alone
others should not have a say in what you yourself believe in

[Updated on: Thu, 05 June 2008 00:36]

Re: Something to think about.  [message #50761 is a reply to message #50760] Thu, 05 June 2008 01:03 Go to previous messageGo to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

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Motives? Hmmm...... Makes a person think...

Now theres a bit of advice.....

But what sort?



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Re: Something to think about.  [message #50762 is a reply to message #50761] Thu, 05 June 2008 02:55 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Josh is currently offline  Josh

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I'm not here to argue with anyone..

~Josh~



21.

Love who you want to.

~Josh~
Re: Something to think about.  [message #50764 is a reply to message #50753] Thu, 05 June 2008 04:13 Go to previous messageGo to next message
brit is currently offline  brit

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Josh,

I don't know why you are scared of talking to people. In my case, it's partly because I hate it when I say something wrong or stupid or ill-considered. I avoided talking to people for years. And guess what? If you don't practice talking to people, then when you do, you are very likely to say something wrong or stupid or ill-considered and be mortified because you haven't learned how to smooth it over.

It speaks well of you to recognize and admit you are scared of speaking and are trying to change that. You clearly have no trouble communicating your creativity! Keep practicing.

Brit
Re: Something to think about.  [message #50767 is a reply to message #50762] Thu, 05 June 2008 07:37 Go to previous messageGo to next message
acam is currently offline  acam

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Dear Josh,

Actually writing to people is a good preparation for talking, because you can take care over what you say (and if you read it before you just hit send you can spot and correct things that aren't quite how you want them).

And both writing and talking are verbal: only talking is oral. And when you talk face to face there are a lot of other clues in what's called body language. There is even some of that on the telephone - in the tone of voice.

So if you ever have to make a public announcement or a speech it is (for me) almost essential to write down what I want to say and get it straight in my head otherwise I would make a mess of it.

And Marc is right: it is different and we all need to do both in good time.

Love,
Anthony
icon12.gif Re: Something to think about.  [message #50768 is a reply to message #50751] Thu, 05 June 2008 08:36 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Michael-Kent Dobison is currently offline  Michael-Kent Dobison

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Original Post : 15 June 2007 08H47 CET

I had made this post, as many of you can see, almost a year ago. I have chosen to show it again as I feel that it has outstanding relevance to the current topics.

"Life…

What is worse than blindness is to have perfect sight but no vision. We have enough people who tell it like it is now we could do with a few who tell it like it can be, and whether you say “I can” or “I can’t” you are always right.

Just think if second thoughts came before first thoughts, how much wiser we would be. The only thing is that we don’t get a second chance to make a first impression.

There is nothing good or bad, thinking makes it so and well done is always better than well said. Where words fail music speaks. Hearing tells you that the music is playing but only listening tells you what the song is saying.

People judge you by your actions not by your intentions. You may have a heart of gold but so does a hard-boiled egg. You can not build a reputation on what you are going to do. There are no short cuts to any place worth going and if hard work is the key to success then most people would rather pick the lock. Success is getting up one more time than you have fallen down.

A journey of a thousand miles must start with a single step, on that journey stay alert because what you know today may not apply tomorrow. You give but little when you give of your possessions, it is when you give of yourself that you truly give. Then the only way to have a friend is to be a friend.

If you were arrested for being kind would there be enough evidence to convict you? Expect miracles, you are one, but always have control over your emotions or they will have control over you.

The pessimist sees danger in every opportunity, and the optimist sees opportunity in every danger. The best compliment any one can ever give you is that you are different. Go confidently in the directions of your dreams and live the life you imagined just remember that happiness is not having what you want but wanting what you have.

May my words be sweet and tender for tomorrow I may have to eat them. Have a blast while you last and the truth behind it all is that you were born an original do not die a copy!

-Compiled by Michael-Kent Dobison "


Josh, it is hard to talk to people I know this from personal interaction with people on a daily basis. I feel that I don't want to talk to them until I know how they are going to respond, but you are not going to know how they will respond until you talk to then... The joy of the 'rock' and the 'hard place'.

I stand firm to the point that we are all valued assets to the people around us. What we do and say every second of every day is affected and effects everyone and everything else in some way.
My favourite part of the above post in the very last paragraph.

Be who you are and never let anyone change that. We love you for you, not for what you want to be or even who you were ;-D ;-D ;-D



"And so the lion fell in love with the Lamb"
"What a stupid Lamb"
"What a sick, masochistic lion"
Re: Something to think about.  [message #50770 is a reply to message #50768] Thu, 05 June 2008 09:08 Go to previous messageGo to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

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Well, someone clearly got the big big big big big book of cliches didnt he?



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
icon6.gif Re: Something to think about.  [message #50772 is a reply to message #50770] Thu, 05 June 2008 09:20 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Michael-Kent Dobison is currently offline  Michael-Kent Dobison

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It was more of a page a day diary that one of my friends got me for my 16 Birthday. Each day had a different quote at the bottom of its page.
In fact it was the same friend that has just recently committed suicide, and who's funeral is today.

So a book of clichés you could call it, but big was not one of its characteristics. It must have only been about 215 pages long, and 180mm by 100mm.
Cool Cool Cool Cool Cool Cool Cool Cool Cool Cool



"And so the lion fell in love with the Lamb"
"What a stupid Lamb"
"What a sick, masochistic lion"
Re: Something to think about.  [message #50773 is a reply to message #50772] Thu, 05 June 2008 11:21 Go to previous message
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HAHAHAHAHAHA..... I knew it!!!!

Oh... If it had more than 3 cliches in it it was indeed BIG...



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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