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Sending a signal [message #51056]

Mon, 23 June 2008 08:36

Nigel

On fire!

Location: England
Registered: November 2003
Messages: 1756

I'm interested in finding out about how a guy covertly indicates to another guy that he's interested in him sexually. I have experienced the 'queers' handshake' where the forefinger strokes the other's palm, and also the genital re-arrangement to which the come-on signal is a similar re-arrangement.

When I was younger there was the polari, but with the legalisation of homosexuality it wasn't needed. The earring in the left ear is so unreliable as to be no recognition symbol at all and I am looking for more subtle approaches than patted or pinched backside.

I'm looking forward to your replies.

Hugs
N

I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.

…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.

Re: Sending a signal [message #51058 is a reply to message #51056]

Mon, 23 June 2008 08:47

timmy

Has no life at all

Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13796

Are you sure this stuff is reliable at all?

Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School

Re: Sending a signal [message #51060 is a reply to message #51058]

Mon, 23 June 2008 08:54

Nigel

On fire!

Location: England
Registered: November 2003
Messages: 1756

If reliability is an absolute, no; if there are gradations of reliability, you take each on its own merit and your own experience.

I'm not about to go out and roadtest any suggestions. I'm quite content with folklore. Call it research for a story I'm writing.

Hugs
N

I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.

…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.

Re: Sending a signal [message #51061 is a reply to message #51056]

Mon, 23 June 2008 11:01

marc

Needs to get a life!

Registered: March 2003
Messages: 4729

Oh my.... I think all of the old "signs" have become useless due to either obscurity or over use.

With the progress in gay acceptance (small and such as it is) I think there is nothing wrong in just going forward and asking.

Now, if personal (one on one) interaction in order to ask is beyond a persons scope of ability (for whatever reason)... try sending flowers with an attached note.

Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...

Re: Sending a signal [message #51064 is a reply to message #51060]

Mon, 23 June 2008 15:46

unsui

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Registered: September 2007
Messages: 338

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Re: Sending a signal [message #51065 is a reply to message #51061]

Mon, 23 June 2008 16:23

unsui

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Re: Sending a signal [message #51069 is a reply to message #51065]

Mon, 23 June 2008 17:10

marc

Needs to get a life!

Registered: March 2003
Messages: 4729

Well, Hemming and hawing doesn't yield results. I have always used the direct approach and most times I had positive results.

As for picking up the tab.... I see no problem there either.... and I also see no problem with going Dutch as well....

As for taking ones time.... That is all well and good but one must be ready to watcvh the parade march past and down the street....

Thats not much fun either.

No Love.... Theres a problem.... It can indeed get in the way but not until the relationship had the opportunity to develope into that love.... And the ride to get there is often more fun than the party upon arrival.

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