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Hey All
Yes, I'm still alive. Joy.
Today was a rather interesting day. Let me first start off with the fact that I'm extremely bored and so I may say some rather odd things.
I'm a 20 year old person. I won't use the term boy, man or any other, because I'm a person, plain and simple. I have likes and dislikes. I have things I don't like and things I do.
I have people I love and people I do not. There are people who do love me and people who don't. I make up a set amount of rules for myself and for others. I try my best not to break any such rule that I make. I am naive to a point, as I've only just entered adulthood, though I do not consider myself an adult yet, as I know there are a lot of things that I need to work on in my life.
If someone says to me "you're cute" or something of that nature, I tell any such person not to. Reason being, is I don't like people saying that about me. I can take compliments but I don't like it when people say I'm cute, simply because I don't. There's nothing wrong with that.
Let me say anoher thing. Gay people rock! Bisexual people rock! Straight poeple rock! Let's get that out in the open. It's my belief that before you are gay, bisexual or straight, that you are a person. And like everyone else, you have feelings. Some may be offended talking about gay things, some may be offended by talking about straight things, and some may be offended talking about bisexual things.
Who started that whole thing anyway? The whole straight, bisexual, gay thing? I think that by splitting us up based on who we like, or sleep with has devided us even furthur down the road. We're all human before any of it, and we all have feelings, so I'm curious to know who made up the gay/bisexual/straight orientation.
Some people think gay people 'can't make up their minds' or what-not (which to me sounds demeaning and hurtful.) Just because a person likes guys and girls, does not make them bisexual. And if it does, then anyone can be bisexual (apparently.) If you have guy friends and you have girl friends, does that make you bisexual? I don't think it does personally. Me, I like everyone, as in I get along with anyone. I'm a very friendly person, and am very easy to get along with, except when a person breaks my own personal boundaries. Everyone has boundaries, it's how we protect ourselves. If someone get's too close to you, you kindly say "Please don't get so close to me" or you back up a bit.
And I'm kind of angry about the whole thing to, to be honest. I've said this today: I don't care what I am. And that's true. I don't care what a person classifies me as, whether it be bisexual, straight, or gay. To be honest, it get's me a little annoyed when someone says that. I am a human being. I have my flaws and I have my strengths. I have weaknesses, needs (which I supress) and wants (also which I supress.)
I know it may seem like I'm against any one's sexuality, I'm not. I'm fine with anyone being who they are. And people should have fun being who they are. Someone said to me that I was confused about who I was because I said I was bisexual. I said that's the way it was. It got a little annoying but the main thing is that I don't care what I am. It does not define me. Who you are, who we all are, is humans, and we should not let what our sexuality is dictate who we are.
I'll talk to you all later. Have a good night. I'm gonna go to sleep now. Talk to you tomorrow.
~Josh~
21.
Love who you want to.
~Josh~
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Quite so, Josh,
you are right. Putting a label on yourself can be helpful but sometimes isn't because it may make other people expect that you will always behave in a particular way. And that may limit you.
And if you change (which you may do because you want to or may do because you can't help it) people may make it hard for you and try to push you back into the imaginary rut that they thought you were in. But you thought you were on level ground and not in a rut at all and could easily move a bit to one side or the other with no problem.
So avoid labelling yourself. I didn't want to be labelled gay when I was 20 (but I was) and yet at 28 I married. I wonder if that could have happened if I had been born fifty years later.
Sixty or seventy is only just old enough to label one's sexual orientation so as not to limit what you may do and enjoy and want to live with.
Love,
Anthony
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Fingolfin
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Location: Slovakia
Registered: August 2008
Messages: 265
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Great posts, both of you...
The very first thing: I AM MYSELF, YOU ARE YOURSELVES, EVERYONE IS THEMSELVES...
Who you are attracted to is about two steps: predisposition (you can do nothing with it) and personal choice (you can influence this one). Some people live their lives where those two are in accordance, some do not. More to the point, preferences may change... therefore... LABELS SUCK !
F.
It is better to switch on a small light than to curse the darkness.
- Vincent Šikula, Slovak writer
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pipo
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Registered: July 2008
Messages: 35
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Why was your day rather interesting? It sounds to me as if someone was coming on to you and you did not like it one bit, or am I reading things in your post that aren't there?
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Hi pipo
*hug* No, you're right. My day was interesting, since interesting is really the only word I can use to describe it. Someone made me rather uncomfortable, and such, but that's over now, so I'm feeling a bit better. I just wish it didn't happen in the first place..
~Josh~
21.
Love who you want to.
~Josh~
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