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Someone mentioned this in one of the post. It started me thinking. It is so easy to take the road most traveled and I dont begrudge anyone for taking it. Certain things were expected from young men at one time, so young men did what was expected of them. Altho I had girls, who were friends, I never had girlfriends nor a desire to bed with one. When I met up with Mark, I knew I would take the road less traveled. The road was full of bumps and cracks and the way wasnt easy, but I was content with the one I loved. I have read all the post from the guys who married and read the desires and the regrets. Some of you had children and I know that must be a wonderful thing. I took a road that didnt lead there, so now Im lonely for another reason. I have no real family, even one to argue with. So Timmy, when you see your son, hug him and remember what a wonderful gift your wife gave you, Like me you wont die alone. So even that road less traveled may not lead where you would like it to.
If you stand for Freedom, but you wont stand for war, then you dont stand for anything worth fighting for.
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Benji
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Roger,
I have traveled the road with the bumps and curves, and yes I took the road most traveled. So, yes I'm married with children, and I would never wish not to be a part of their lives. I hug my 'adopted' son all the time, as I do with my daughter on the occasions she visits. I wouldn't want it any different, but I chose my path knowing it was not in my own interest, nor my true being. I did choose my direction, but not my heart, in hindsight I would have followed my heart.
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JimB
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We all travel our own road in life, mine too was one less taken, though not the same as yours. Eventually we get to the point were the end of the road is closer than the beginning, which we can hardly see any more. I don't think we ever reach a point where we don't have desires, and anyone who tells you they don't have regrets is not being truthful. I too would have liked to have had children, but the road I chose didn't lead there.
From your various posts, Roger, including the one above, I get the impression that you are happy with your life and who you are. Certainly not happy that Mark is no longer with you, but happy for the years you spent together. You wouldn't trade them for anything, I'm sure. I too am happy with my life and wouldn't want to change anything, for fear that I'd truly fuck it up. LOL
To me the recent threads here have reflected people who aren't happy with their lives. I remember a day when that was true for me also, and I vowed to change things then and keep it from happening again. I'm tempted to say that we are lucky, but the truth is that we've worked to achieve the happiness that we enjoy and made some sacrifices along the way.
JimB
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Yes, JimB,
We have all given things up, whether we followed our hearts or not. One thing that I guess most of us would agree with is that at the time we encountered those two paths diverging in a yellow wood we didn't really know enough about the consequences of choosing one rather than the other.
And that is, I think, the point of Robert Frost's poem.
Love,
Anthony
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timmy
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I hug him often. And he teases me often for being gay! We're good friends. I hug her, too. I'm proud of her. She is a teacher of 6 year olds and is the type of teacher they will remember, even if they forget her name.
My son hugs me back.
I would simply have had a different set of regrets if I'd followed my nature instead of my head. Nor better nor worse, just different.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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