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timmy
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A random thought just struck me. Girls get, allegedly, multiple orgasms (never known one who has, but Cosmo says so, so it must be true, and yes, I've asked a good few!), have a deep emotional experience every time sex goes right, and, from my perspective as a natural bottom, have two orifices for their partner to play with.
They stay awake after orgasm, too!
We guys just "get off" and get off!
Are we missing something here?
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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megaman
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You just proved that economically women are the better prostitutes! More clients, longer hours, no sleep during worktime.
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marc
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The fact is that sex is sex is sex.....
Males get what they do from it because thats the way it is.
Women get what they get frim it because thats the way they are....
Now, that being said.... If they say they are getting more out of it than males I would have to believe that they are overinflating the experience in order to get something other than sex the out of the guy....
And that something is a measure of control....
[Updated on: Tue, 07 October 2008 19:52]
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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timmy wrote:
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> We guys just "get off" and get off!
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> Are we missing something here?
For me, the relaxed cuddle and communicate in the 20 minutes or so after making love are almost more important than the act itself. So if you always go straight to sleep, yup, I'd reckon you're missing something.
More seriously, I think that straight women generally have more fulfilling sex than straight men. Perhaps it's to do with the inescapable awareness of their bodies that menstruation brings, or something ... anyway, in my very limited experience, women are usually much more relaxed about their bodies and physical stuff. Straight men, on the other hand, often seem to feel some performance anxiety, or need to demonstrate (or at least, brag about) their "virility". (I gather this both from my women friends, and from the fair number of guys I've had sex with who are basically straight).
I think it's probably a bit different for gay couples: statistically, gay men are more likely to be satisfied with their lovers than straights are, possibly because the geography and anatomy are more familiar. And - for me - I felt under less pressure to "perform", because I felt a same-sex partner was more likely to understand if I just wasn't in the mood, or wanted to concentrate on making him happy without worrying about my own orgasm, or whatever.
And, as for "have a deep emotional experience every time sex goes right", well, I've had some of the silliest, giggliest, and generally unworried just plain fun sex of my life with women (well, one particular woman), whereas I've tended to be much more about emotional commitment with guys.
I guess it just goes to show we're all different!
"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. ... Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night devoid of stars." Martin Luther King
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Dear Timmy,
most girls get their kicks from guys and most guys just don't know how to please a girl! So most girls, most of the time, don't get truly satisfied.
It takes a lot of effort to ensure that a girl reaches orgasm before or with you and most guys think that a big cock is all they need. How many men really know how to bring a girl close. How many even know where the clitoris is or that it is the anatomical equivalent of the penis? Too many men think all they can do is try to last a bit longer and then they don't quite make it and are asleep before the girl can even pluck up the courage to ask for help.
NOW I know that the first girl I fucked was dissatisfied. Afterwards she was crying! I couldn't come in her because I was too incompetent to have condoms and so I had to withdraw. I'm now sure her tears were of frustration. She didn't say anything. I never got an explanation from her. If I'm honest I'd admit that I'm guessing what the trouble was - but in my heart of hearts I know!
But every boy or man I've had sex with has known for sure how to know whether his partner was satisfied.
Love,
Anthony
Actually I'm surprised there are so few lesbians! 
Love,
Anthony
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I guess that was one big advantage of the period of my life when I was an out gay guy who also occasionally slept with women - they didn't expect me to know what I was doing, but were happy to teach me!
"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. ... Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night devoid of stars." Martin Luther King
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unsui
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timmy
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Michael Sargeant (Since 1941) wrote:
> My second wife faked orgasms (women can do that, guys can't)
All it needs is a condom. Been there, done that. I got bored.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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timmy
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acam wrote:
> It takes a lot of effort to ensure that a girl reaches orgasm before or with you and most guys think that a big cock is all they need. How many men really know how to bring a girl close. How many even know where the clitoris is or that it is the anatomical equivalent of the penis?
It does. It can be quite laborious. Penis length is irrelevant, though girth assists a bit. And, weirdly, girls work "the other war round" from boys - the closer you get the lighter your touch must be. And worse, everything else swells up as orgasm is approached and the clitoris starts to hide!
Location of the clitoris? Front and centre. But very few folk realise that it's a huge organ, extending a long way inside the body.
The mutual orgasm, beloved of Cosmopolitan et al? Mainly a myth. It can happen by luck and is good fun when it does - somehow the emotion is more interesting - but the best route is to make sure your partner is satisfied before you are. Of course that can mean that you finish solo!
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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timmy
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Girls don't tend to look into used rubberwear, though  As a class they do seem to detest semen.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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