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... because I don't have a clue. But I just feel the need to ask the following questions.
Why is it that we always find what we are looking for in the last place we look?
Why is it that we tend to see things only one way when we have two eyes?
I've always suspected that the answer to both is more or less the same.
Think good thoughts,
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e wrote:
>Why is it that we always find what we are looking for in the last place we look?<
Because when we have found it there is no reason to go on looking for it elsewhere.
Or am I being too simplistic?
Hugs
N
I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.
…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.
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No that about sums it up ... for me anyway.
paul::-)
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Actually it's the last place we look because only a fool would go on looking when he's found it!
Sorry, Nigel. I didn't read your post. I wrote this immediately I read E's post.
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The others have properly, in my opinion, answered the first question so I'll address the second: Why is it that we tend to see things only one way when we have two eyes?
Because we have only one brain. Our eyes are like windows and allow light in while it is our brain that interprets that light and determines what we see. Our two eyes provide stereoscopic vision which gives us depth perception, that is about the only need for two of them.
Sometimes "seeing" doesn't involve the eyes at all.
JimB
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All very good answers by the way. If you stay inside the box. But climb outside for just a moment and consider that these questions are asking the exact same thing.
I once wrote a poem entitled Sinking Ships. It described how the people on the deck of a ship thought they were sailing because they could stand on deck and look out over the water. But in fact the ship was in a very shallow pond and the bottom of the ship was on the bottom of the pond and they were standing on the deck of a sunken ship. The second question is the last line of that poem and of course the poem had nothing to do with sailing or ships.
There are no right or wrong answers here. An answer from inside the box is just as valid as an answer from outside.
Think good thoughts,
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At the time I posted these questions I really wasn't sure why I did it. Nor was I sure that I knew what the common answer was, though I had some suspicions. I was hoping that I could start a philosophical discussion of some sort, but those who chose to answer focused only on one question or the other. Nothing wrong with that by the way.
I had recently been in a discussion about domestic violence with a coworker. More specifically a discussion of male violence perpetrated on women.My coworker, a womaan, was of the typical feminist opinion that nearly all domestic violence is committed by men against women and that when women do commit violence against men is either in self defense or justifiable in some other way. I have a different opinion and offered to back it up with references to clinical research that demonstrates otherwise. But instead of listening to what I had to say, she immediately branded me a sexist and dismissed my opinion as being worthless.
So how does this apply to the two questions? After considerable thought, I concluded that she had been looking for a particular answer and when she found it, she stopped looking. But had she continued to look, as I had, even after finding what appeared to be a satisfactory answer, she might just have changed what it was she was looking for. Instead she looked with only one eye (and as someone pointed out) she lacked any depth to her answer. Had she opened her other eye, she may have gotten a slightly different perspective.
I changed my perspective on the matter when, as part of my research into the problems boys are experiencing in the educational system, I stumbled upon some research into domestic violence that was considerably different than what commmonly accepted to be true and unquestionable.
While I think that it is easy to fall into that same trap, and I do fall into it sometimes, I think it is important to keep both eyes open and to never stop looking.
I also think that sometimes it is just as important to ask silly questions even when we haven't the slightest idea what the answers may be.
Think good thoughts,
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I recall the time when my ex nextdoor neighbour called me and another neighbour in to stand between him and his wife at the time. The evil of the situation was that her parents were present, ready to act as witnesses if he touched her in self-defence, but turning a blind eye as she tried to lamb into him. She was rather a large lady as attested by his rather affectionate name for her, namely Fat Slob.
Hugs
N
I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.
…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.
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It always astonishes me that many people seem to see domestic violence as a "womens issue". For me, of course, it never was - having a father who was occasionally physically abusive does rather concentrate one's attention! And, on a purely anecdotal front, over my career as a Manager I've had four examples of domestic abuse that I know of, where staff needed quite a lot of support and temporary allowances made from the the rest of the team. Of these four cases, two were male violence against women, one each were male/male and female violence against a man.
Support services here in London vary widely as to how far they recognise anything other than "wifebeating" - partly because so much is run by charities who specifically focus on women's needs. But my own former employer - a local authority - is pretty good: their resources use gender-neutral language, and recognise that kids whose parents are in abusive relationships have specific requirements for help.
"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. ... Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night devoid of stars." Martin Luther King
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