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ray2x
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Location: USA
Registered: April 2009
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I am new to your group. I've had a very successful marriage and recently blessed with a daughter who is now 3 and a half. I recently had some very insightful chats with my old boyfriend who isn't trying to get back with me but he has been helpful in getting my head straighten out. I had an email where he mentioned that I once had a very early gay experience. It brought me to a realization that I have been gay most of my life and have never thought about it. :-/
I had an ah haa moment and I was rather taken by surprise of my relelation. It just brought to light just how long I have been gay but not truely truthful about it, except to my wife a a couple of friends. I do not really want to expound it to the world, family and friends. I guess I'll be happy in my realization. It was a rather bolting experience though.
So here I am.
Raymundo
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Macky
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Location: USA
Registered: November 2008
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Welcome Ray. I'm happily married too and have an 18 year old son. For some reason there seem to be a lot of us married guys who like guys on this forum.
Behold, how good and how pleasant it is
For brothers to dwell together in unity!
Ps 133:1 NASB
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Macky is right, Raymundo, and I am another married gay man who told his wife before we married and that was 47 years ago. We had our 46th wedding anniversary last month and both have been faithful.
My name is Anthony Camacho and I live in Bristol, England. I have met another two married gays from this group.
Love,
Anthony
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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There is a point when we understand who and what we are. Or, rather, the we understand who and what we are on that day. Recognise that things change over time, and that orientation is not set in stone.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Macky
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Location: USA
Registered: November 2008
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Timmy,
Do you mean to say that people's sexual orientation can change, like a starfish can change its sex under certain conditions?
Behold, how good and how pleasant it is
For brothers to dwell together in unity!
Ps 133:1 NASB
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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Vary somewhat, but not totally change. We fluctuate around our basic orientation, sometimes widely, sometime narrowly.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Macky
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Location: USA
Registered: November 2008
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Sexual orientation is probably a spectrum with straight on one side and gay on the other. I would wager that most people fall in between these 2 points, rather than right on them. And without a label for each point in between, ones definition of what he is is bound to be cloudy. Labels suck anyhow.
Behold, how good and how pleasant it is
For brothers to dwell together in unity!
Ps 133:1 NASB
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13801
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Raymundo, My "Webmaster" email address is receiving what look to me to be your posts, but the forum is not receiving them. I think this is because you have subscribed to the initial post that you made and perceive that replying to the email notifications actually posts to the forum.
It doesn't.
The only way to post items is to post them or to reply within the forum. There is no email posting facility
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Fingolfin
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Location: Slovakia
Registered: August 2008
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I know what such change can bring.... I was a bi with homosexual preferences, now I am definitely interested in men.
Marek
It is better to switch on a small light than to curse the darkness.
- Vincent Šikula, Slovak writer
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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It is far more complex than that. Orientation is not restricted to heterosexual/homosexual. And the scales, if there are scales, are probably not linear.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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i tend to agree with timmy on this one. It is far too complicated to put into two categories.
You don't love someone because they are beautiful, they are beautiful because you love them.
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ray2x
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Location: USA
Registered: April 2009
Messages: 430
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Thankyou. I'm new and a bit confused about this so forgive me.
Raymundo
Raymundo
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13801
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It confused me for a bit, too. I fear I no longer have those items in my mailbox, though. While I was confused I deleted them and emptied the deleted items folder.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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