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Main24
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Location: USA
Registered: June 2009
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So i have a bit of an awkward situation. I am trying to start a realtionship with this one guy who i really like. We have liked each other for months now and but we never got together, but we have become close friends. I dont want to lose him, he means a lot to me. My concern is that we are both clear bottoms and in past relationships i have had i have realized that i cant get off as a top. I dont want sex to ruin what i could have with this amazing guy, but i dont know what to do. HELP
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JimB
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Registered: December 2006
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Main24 wrote:
> I dont want sex to ruin what i could have with this amazing guy,
Then don't let it. Acknowledge the value of a good friend and friendship and that you aren't destined to have a relationship with every amazing guy you meet.
It really isn't as difficult as you make it out to be if you do your thinking with the head on your shoulders rather than the one between you legs.
JimB
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Dear Main24,
Why do you have to have anal sex? Surely if you get really close to him you can discuss it and find the best ways to please each other.
And if you can only get off with prostate stimulation that can be done simultaneously, mutually and if necessary with dildos.
So I suspect the problem is that you can't yet talk honestly and openly to each other. You will have to work on that!
Love,
Anthony
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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Stand back a moment, and read what you wrote. "I can't get off as a top" you said. Well, nor can a load of folk, but that doesn't prevent them from topping if that is what their partner wants. It's just that you don't get an orgasm that way.
So your sex life has to revolve around giving mutual pleasure to each other, and each helping the other to achieve orgasm in the best way for each of you.
Is sex a requirement of your relationship? If so, who has the requirement?
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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