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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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Now, the "rules" for answering this are straightforward. YOU remain the age you are now, today, with all the baggage that surrounds you. And you answer as that person. The only fantasy is him.
HE is the boy or man of your dreams. He is as perfect or imperfect as you want him to be, and he is yours, absolutely. Whatever you wish to do with him he will do willingly. But you do not KNOW each other. He has walked into your life, unasked, and is there, in front of you, with or without clothes, looking at you, a question in his eyes, head slightly on one side almost beckoning you to him.
Be honest.
What really happens next?
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Nothing. I'd be too frightened and my equipment would shrivel in sympathy with my fright.
Hugs
N
I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.
…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.
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Thirty seconds of terrified panic - hopefully well-disguised.
Followed by getting to know him better - he might be the guy of my dreams; unlikely though it may be, I might be the guy of his dream; but we have to get to know each other enough to absolutely trust that that is the case.
Coffee, DVD, cuddles, chats ... sex certainly isn't on the agenda on a first meeting. The guy of my dreams understands that!
"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. ... Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night devoid of stars." Martin Luther King
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The days when I would have sex with people I didn't know beforehand are long gone. They ended as soon as AIDS appeared on the horizon 25 or more years ago.
But you CAN'T really love someone entirely based on their looks (well I can't): the most important things about them are their other qualities.
Nowadays it is really important to me that people tell the truth. It takes more than a day's acquaintance to find out that about a person.
So I might tease him; I might flirt with him but it would certainly be nothing significant.
And in my case I would never do anything that my wife could think was a breach of trust.
So, boringly, Timmy, we would talk (at most) and no more.
Love,
Anthony
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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I thought I might answer my own question.
I lose the ability for coherent speech when in the presence of someone I am intensely attracted to. My pulse races and I redden and then gibber a lot about inconsequential trivia.
Whatever I feel I might like to do today, sitting at my keyboard, gibbering is what happens next, followed by blind panic, followed by being unable to look him in the eye.
I'd like to get to know him. In my dreams he would like that too. Anything else is a bonus.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Macky
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Really getting into it |
Location: USA
Registered: November 2008
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Strangely enough, I found myself in almost that exact situation about 12 or 13 years ago. He was young, good looking and gay. He was in my hotel room. He was ready for whatever. We ended up going to a gay bar, then he gave me a little peck on the lips and that was that. I couldn't cheat on my wife. It's a good feeling to know that.
Behold, how good and how pleasant it is
For brothers to dwell together in unity!
Ps 133:1 NASB
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e
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Location: currently So Cal
Registered: May 2002
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Honestly, I don't really know what I would do. I can envision three potential responses. I'll list them in reverse order of liklihood.
3. I would grab him and hold on for dear life, never letting go. Not likley, I don't have the courage.
2. I would turn and run as fast and as far as possible and hope I could outrun him. Also not likely. I don't run from much.
1. 90% chance this is what I'd do. I would sit and stare and daydream and have the most wonderful fantasies of my life. But I would say or do nothing to make him notice me. Then I would kick myself for having let him go without so much as a word while congratulating myself for remaining faithful to my wife. I would regret my weakness and praise my strength and nothing would change. I would torment myself with it forever.
Think good thoughts,
e
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That's a very good answer, e, and I suspect it might apply to more of us than would admit it.
Love,
Anthony
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ray2x
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Really getting into it |
Location: USA
Registered: April 2009
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I am me, at age 53, with all of my baggage, and senses (I believe) and it's him, he doesn't know me. But there he is:
1st, I'd freeze
2nd, I'd gaze at him
3rd, he'd notice
4th, I'd freeze again, look foolish, stammer out some English incoherent mumble, blush, trying mightily to speak, and trying to think how debonair I want to be but in reality, just let him walk (I've plenty of practice!)
Raymundo
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I would stick to my usual routine and invite him over for some Chocolate Chip cookies and milk. ::-)
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I would walk over to him, look him in the eyes, smile, extend my hand to shake his, and introduce myself. I have no worries about introducing myself to people I wish to meet. I'm that confident (some may call it arrogance).
Cycling is the one sport where a guy can shave his legs, wear spandex and bright colors, and be accepted.
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e
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On fire! |
Location: currently So Cal
Registered: May 2002
Messages: 1179
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Thanks Anthony,
I usually know what I would like to do and have a good idea of what I am likely do, but don't always know what I will do in any given situation. Sometimes I surprise myself.
Think good thoughts,
e
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Dear e, you wrote 'sometimes I surprise myself'. How right and how interesting. I'm going to start a new thread about it.
Love,
Anthony
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