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Location: South Africa
Registered: June 2009
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Hi I really enjoy most of the stories.
I was shocked to my core of the story part one chapter 13. The reason for that I was in a situation where a teachers trust was abused and the result was that I was traumatized by that for many years. By reading the chapter all my memories return and I could not read any further.
Walty
Treat others as you want to be treated.
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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No-one suggests that you re-read it. Sometimes, though, reliving a trauma in safe surroundings can go some way to helping ease the pain that remains.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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I too had difficulty with this part of the storyline, but for different reasons. What I do to overcome it is remind myself it is a story, ie fiction.
Hugs
N
I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.
…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.
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I am sure that Jack would like to read this thread and respond. However, at the moment he is vacationing in "foreign parts". He should be beck in a couple of weeks.
J F R
The paradox has often been noted that the United States, founded in secularism, is now the most religiose country in Christendom, while England, with an established church headed by its constitutional monarch, is among the least. (Richard Dawkins, 2006)
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Walty
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Location: South Africa
Registered: June 2009
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Thank you for the kind words Nigel. I try to do it but it hit way to close to home
Treat others as you want to be treated.
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Berlin with the string orchestra, isn't it?
Hugs
N
I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.
…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.
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Location: currently So Cal
Registered: May 2002
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I think a good story will provoke an emotional response. Sometimes this can be a good thing, sometimes not. It depends on the reader. If your life experiience is such that it makes it too painful to read further, it may be a good idea that you have chosen to stop. On the other hand reading further inspite of the pain may help you face and resolve the issues you are facing. You can see how the characters deal with the pain and that may be of some help. Only you can decide.
I would suggest emailing the author. Tell him of your feelings, but do it in a nice way. Ask him about the story. He may be able to share his thoughts with you and that may help as well.
Think good thoughts,
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Walty
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Location: South Africa
Registered: June 2009
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Thank you very much for your remark. Yes I know I should face the pain but after that chapter i was not Able to read on. I would like to contact the author.
My comment was never meant to take anything away from the story, which is great. The resemblance of the story is what caused me to make my initial remark.
I received some help via a friend in the form of a technique and are working on the trauma I experienced all those years back. Results seems to be not far away and he is encouraging me to keep on reading.
Johan
Treat others as you want to be treated.
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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Jack is travelling at present. His email address is linked to his name at the head of each chapter. I'm sure he will be interested to hear from you, and also perplexed and concerned in case he says the wrong thing. I imagine and hope he will return your email on his return.
The story is a remarkably moral tale. I have the privilege of seeing what unfolds in advance. Equally it does not hold back on the sex.
I'm glad you are working through the traumas with someone you trust already.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Location: currently So Cal
Registered: May 2002
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I would like to thank you for mentioning the story. I've begun reading it, but it is so long that it's likely to take quite some time to finish. It is very well written, however. I'm glad you're working on your issues. I hope some resolution is forthcoming. Keep up the hard work and I'm certain that eventually you'll be able to finish the story.
If you're looking for something else to read in the meantime, I highly recommend timmy's Chris and Nigel, and anything by Zustara Orur or Grasshopper. Those authors tend to be a little less traumatic and are quite interesting.
Think good thoughts,
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Walty
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Location: South Africa
Registered: June 2009
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Hi Everybody
I want to thank everybody for the responses I received.
I received the technique "EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUE" which is amazing. My friend taught me the technique and after a session of about two hours learning and working through the trauma experienced, I can go back to the story and does noet affect me any more. I do remember but the emotion behind the experience is gone and can read the story as a story without the pain. I can relate to but it does not cause me pain.
the technique was developed by Gary Graig. The website is emofree.com and was a great help to me.
Again thank you for the responses which show there are people out there that care.
Johan
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