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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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The date is something I, unlike many other men, will always remember. Bastille day 30 years ago was the date I was married. And we are still together, and still like each other! Quite an achievement. Marriage is a partnership and a contract. Contracts require work to keep them valid. We've worked at ours.
What is an excellent coincidence is that, after mislaying him for a dozen years somewhere in the Pacific Rim I have also found the friend who was my best man, and who is our son's godfather. I was given his email address today by his cousin, and I very much hope to hear from him in the next day or so. It will be a good omen, I hope, if he gets in touch on Bastille Day, too.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Macky
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Location: USA
Registered: November 2008
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Timmy,
I was happy to see this post. Wives of gay men are a very special lot and deserve special recognition. My wife of 21 years has certainly put up with a lot. I hardly know how to show her my appreciation for accepting me as the confused, maladapted, social cripple that I am, and loving me despite my many imperfections. She's the best friend that I've ever had and so much more. When I think about it logically, nobody could be a better partner for me than her. I don't know why I still find guys so attractive. I guess that its no different than married heteros being attracted to beautiful females. A quick glance and the grass looks greener, but it doesn't take a lot of consideration to know that I have the best there ever could be for me in her. A relationship to tend to and make grow. A supportive lasting relationship. That's what I need, and that's what I have and I am very thankful for it. What's the best thing I can do for a woman like this?
Behold, how good and how pleasant it is
For brothers to dwell together in unity!
Ps 133:1 NASB
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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You make sure she knows that you LOVE her, not that you are grateful to her. Use words and tell her, and tell her often.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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ray2x
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Location: USA
Registered: April 2009
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We had a July wedding, 7-7-90, and she wanted it that way. I do like the phrase "...requires work..." which is a cornerstone for any relationship. Not a chore type of work or mindless task work. I have often told Linda that we succeed because of the work, and as I often express our marriage, it's a works in progress. Our daughter exemplifies the works in progress.
Well, congratulations to your 30 years. I'm not in that range yet.
Raymundo
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Congratulations, Timmy & Melanie, and may you continue to find what you need and love in each other!
And I hope, with Sylvia's help, to go on setting you a good example.
Love,
Anthony
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