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Why do other people think it is their business?  [message #59128] Thu, 15 October 2009 22:24 Go to next message
timmy

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At the weekend I mentioned to my final relative, my mother's sister, that I am gay. I then wrote her a letter explaining that I had not intended to shock her, and suggested that, if she had any questions, she should talk to me.

This evening I had a phone call form her daughter "Why did you tell her that you're gay?" Apparently it had taken her back to 1975 when she was rumoured at work to be a lesbian.

This makes total sense, of course, provided you have no common sense at all.

So I get told off because the silly woman (a) didn't have the wit to talk to me, (b) was once accused of being a lesbian (c) because I was apparently meant to keep this secret, (d)....

So now I probably have to phone her and talk sweetly to her because I have somehow upset her daughter.

There were no such problems when she met my M2F trans cousin, her new niece!

Do they just all want centre spot on my stage?



Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
Re: Why do other people think it is their business?  [message #59143 is a reply to message #59128] Fri, 16 October 2009 10:40 Go to previous message
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Ys, Timmy, they all do seem to want centre spot on your stage! And stuff that happened to them years ago is MUCH more important to them than what is happening to other people now.

But in a way nothing is happening now, is it? All that is happening is that things that were hidden are being revealed - and they are mostly really old things.

But the reasons for doing it are really two: personal fulfilment and improvement of society. Actually the first of those is a motive and the second is a good reason. I want my great grandchildren to be born into a more tolerant and civilised society than I have ever known.

Love,
Anthony
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