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How can I help?  [message #59719] Wed, 25 November 2009 17:42 Go to next message
timmy

Has no life at all
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13796



I think I first asked myself this question in 1996 when I first came online. I didn't admit I was gay until two years later, but I still wanted, somehow, anyhow, to help.

I had no idea what I wanted to help with, or if I dared help, but I wanted to.

During that time I used a crowbar to open my closet door even a little. I needed help to open it. There wasn't, I realised, anything anyone else could do to help me except by example. So that made me start to live my life in public, albeit under a pen name, so that others could watch, maybe laugh at me, maybe take strength from my successes and my disasters.

I saw, today, a cry from the closet. Someone I know well has to remain closeted. It is not a free choice for him, and he has helped more than any of you can know. He would love to say whom and how he has helped, but he will not, and I will not say for him because it would break his confidence.

I know very little about how some of you have helped. And I know how hard it is to help. I was homophobic as a teen for survival, for example.

So would you like to share what you do, what you will do, what you have done? There is no ranking, no contest here. Wearing a World AIDS Day ribbon is pretty brave and helps, yet seems so small, too...



Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
Re: How can I help?  [message #59720 is a reply to message #59719] Wed, 25 November 2009 18:22 Go to previous message
arich is currently offline  arich

Really getting into it
Location: Seaofstars
Registered: August 2003
Messages: 563



Speaking of a loaded question…

LOL not really making fun but……..

For me it was never a choice, so does everything I’ve gone through for being who I am make me brave?

I must say what I have experienced from both str8 and gay has left me a bit cold.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hrq7ffdV1ro&annotation_id=annotation_241235&feature=iv

An alright start

Bright Hopes Come True
As We Walk Downtown
Smiling And Laughing Happily
Friendship And Exhaustion Collide
We Celebrate The Day
A Two Year Wait
A Distant Dream Is Born
We Eat And Drink Til We’re Full
And Pay For Ourselves
With Everything We Have For The Day
We Sit Down Excited
Listen To Ourselves Play In Rhythm To The Music
No One Seems To Listen
This Is Completely Different
We Lived In Another World
Where We Were Never Invisible
A Few Days Later
We Speak Again
But The Sound Wasn’t Good
We Were All In Agreement
In Agreement About Most Things
We’ll Do Better Next Time
This Is A Pretty Good Beginning



People will tell you where they've gone
They'll tell you where to go
But till you get there yourself you never really know
Where some have found their paradise
Other's just come to harm
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