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Terms for a homosexual man  [message #60409] Wed, 30 December 2009 00:31 Go to next message
timmy

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Please will you help me by listing the mainstream terms you know for a homosexual man? I will be using many of them in a poll.



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Re: Terms for a homosexual man  [message #60410 is a reply to message #60409] Wed, 30 December 2009 01:13 Go to previous messageGo to next message
NW is currently offline  NW

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I don't think there are many "mainstream" terms - most of them are slang or subcultural. Off-hand, I suppose "homosexual", "urning", "invert", deviant", "sodomite" ... but all of these apart from the first admit of a variety of interpretations which include but are not exclusively limited to gay male activities.


The list of slang words and expressions is, of course, vast - I've been called all of those listed below, and a fair few othr ones as well!
bender
homo
fag
pouf
queer
cock-sucker
ring-licker
uphill gardener
player of the pink oboe
bum-bandit
fudge-packer
batting for the other team
"one of them"
"an artistic type"
"a bit theatrical"



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Re: Terms for a homosexual man  [message #60411 is a reply to message #60409] Wed, 30 December 2009 02:48 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I think these are older terms.
flake
fruit
fairy

And I wouldn't be repeating Nw's fag if I included
faggot, would I?

Are we including words that reference specific types of homosexual men? These are interesting because they are used exclusively by gay men to refer to other gay men.

Twink
Bear
Queen
Flamin' Queen
Closet Queen

Non-english like the German Schwuler or the French pédé? Klingon must have a word for homosexual man.

[Updated on: Wed, 30 December 2009 03:02]




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Re: Terms for a homosexual man  [message #60413 is a reply to message #60409] Wed, 30 December 2009 09:16 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Re: Terms for a homosexual man  [message #60414 is a reply to message #60409] Wed, 30 December 2009 09:20 Go to previous messageGo to next message
acam is currently offline  acam

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Shirt-lifter isn't on NW's list or maricon on Macky's.

I got these synonyms for homosexual from a thesaurus:

monoclinous, gynandrous, hermaphroditic, homoerotic, homophile, lesbian, Sapphic, androgynous, epicene, gay, effeminate, limp-wristed*, queer*.

Love,
Anthony
(one of them)
Re: Terms for a homosexual man  [message #60417 is a reply to message #60414] Wed, 30 December 2009 11:17 Go to previous messageGo to next message
NW is currently offline  NW

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Oh, I can't think how I missed "shift-lifter", Anthony - I've always thought it such a delicious concept with the vague frisson of naughtiness!

And your "maricon" has reminded me of "mariposa" (butterfly) - something that I find charming (if desperately politically incorrect in portraying gay men as beautiful objects of little value and short attention spans).

On a more personal note, my father's favourite put-down for me was "nancy-boy" - I appear to have repressed all memory of it when posting last night.



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Re: Terms for a homosexual man  [message #60423 is a reply to message #60417] Thu, 31 December 2009 09:26 Go to previous message
acam is currently offline  acam

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Yes, NW, I enjoyed being a shirt-lifter, especially when there was a jockstrap under it!

But (to echo your words) I can't think how I missed 'nancy-boy'.

Love,
Anthony
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