I expect simple behaviours here. Friendship, and love. Any advice should be from the perspective of the person asking, not the person giving! We have had to make new membership moderated to combat the huge number of spammers who register
Location: UK, in Devon
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Love is as innocent as it ever was.
Love and sex are not the same thing.
Sex does not even always follow returned love. I love my friend Peter, in Australia. I have reason to believe that he loves me. But neither of us have ever had a single sexual feeling about each other. I know because we have discussed it. And Peter was a very good looking boy, and I am told I was not hard on the eye.
Location: USA
Registered: November 2008
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I understand what you mean M. But I was also struck at the way the father/son treated other people as they sought their respective loves. The briefcase on the adjoining seat or the refusal to move over...the other people probably had their feelings hurt by that.
It is scarey to think that in the pursuit of our loves of choice, we may be tramping on other people's feelings. >
Behold, how good and how pleasant it is
For brothers to dwell together in unity!
Ps 133:1 NASB
Location: UK, in Devon
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I don't think you use public transport much, Max. A place to sit is all we look for on a bus or a train. The case on the seat is a normal stratagem to try to preserve some personal space until the last moment. No-one gets upset by that.
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It still seems rude to me. If a person pays his fare, he is entitled to sit in any open seat. I understand the need for personal space.
I understand wanting to save the seat next to me for a special friend. But, with the kid especially, the clip shows other kids standing and waiting to be admitted to the open seat. The kid rejects them.
I understand; he's just a kid. But the point that gave me pause was that our pursuit of closeness to our special loves is also involves a rejection of others which might be hurtful to them. For instance the fat kid who wanted to sit with the little guy might feel that he is being put down for being fat.
Not saying that we could or should do anything about this. Maybe the key is to be aware that the possibility is there to cause someone hurt, and to try to be cognizant of that and how our simple actions muight have unintended consequences.
Maybe this cognizance might do something like elicit a smile and an apologetic "Sorry, do you mind if I save this seat for my friend?" Something like that might make for a bit less hurt bouncing around the world. Because when someone feels hurt, there are consequences of that that have a domino effect.
Max
Behold, how good and how pleasant it is
For brothers to dwell together in unity!
Ps 133:1 NASB
Location: USA
Registered: April 2009
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It was a nice cute film. And it did remind me about my 6th grade friend Dale whom I was in love with but hardly knew of it. We were just so into one another at that time. Dale move away after the school year ended. I didn't realize at that time that I would never see him again. I was just too dumb to believe I would lose a great friend. But that's live.
Max, a seat on the bus is gold. But like friendship or love, you sometimes have to give it up. And someday, it will return.
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